5 Reasons Why Men Quit You

Being alone is no fun. Even if you are all for loving oneself before anything, yet, at some point in life you are bound to feel the need for human companionship. And there is nothing wrong with it, of course. There are so many among us who are on a perennial need and hunt for love – trying to find it everywhere they go,  anyone they meet. If all of the Adele songs seem like they speak your mind, then here’s a piece of advice for you. Before trying to embark on a journey of forever love, do some soul searching as to why love eludes you. Most importantly, try to figure out the reason/s why men quit you.

I am not implying that you are unlovable, I am just saying that there might be some underlying problem, some unsolved issues that might be hindering your love life and making the guy in your life run the other way. Read on to know how you can ensure that the guy stays, and stays for a long time…maybe forever.

So here are a few reasons why men might be quitting you.

1. Clingy .
Men do not believe in rushing to commitment. They need their time, space and reasons. That’s why when a guy makes the commitment, know that it is for keeps. If you act all clingy and keep hinting that it is commitment you are looking for, and you want it soon – then all you are doing is sending out a message that you are emotionally unstable. Of course that’s enough to send any guy packing his bags. Men not only love, but even immensely respect girls who are emotionally stable and confident. So if you don’t want Men quitting you, make sure that you exude confidence.

2. Being preoccupied.
So you are a independent, hard working, workaholic woman. All power to you girl. However, it is important to give your man your time and attention too. Don’t be so preoccupied that your man feels taken for granted and neglected. The key is to find a work and personal life balance.

3. Your life is already full.
Weekdays are for your office colleagues. Weekends is brunch, shopping, movies and outing with your girl friends. Feativals and celebrations is with cousins and family. Anything amiss here? When do you plan to give time to your man? If your life is already so full, your man is bound to feel left out. Take hold before it’s too late and take a romantic break assay from all the hustle bustle.

4. You have a phobia. Commitment phobia.
If the very mention of the c-word send you feeling, then we have a serious problem, girl. While guys don’t rush to commitment, it surely is on their mind. If your overall demeanor shouts out loud that you are not looking for commitment ever, any guy would think twice before getting in a relationship with you. Guy or girl, commitment can be intimidating. I know. But it’s nothing to be so scared of. Consider the piaitives – you will have someone to spend your life with, a compa ion for all your hapoiness and sorrows. Go slow, but make sure you reach there.

5. You are too easy.
You know what’s better than being in a relationship. It is the chase, the romance of initiating a relationship. Trying to impress the person, dressing and trying the witty one liners. It is all so exciting. For your part, playing hard to get, giving in just a bit. That’s what makes the relationship so exciting. If you are way too easy. if you say yes to going out with anyone who offers so, if you don’t play a little hard to get – you are ruining it for yourself. Guys start judging girls who are way too easy. So girls, set a standard and set it high. it will do you a world of good.

So girl, don’t lose heart . Possibly, the guys have been quitting you because the right way hasn’t reached you yet. Calm down, breathe and do your best

How to Make Your Relationship Work. 8 Steps To Follow

Are you having trouble with your sweetie, or just wanting to spice up your healthy relationship? Relationships require time and effort, whether your love is on the rocks or you're on cloud nine. If you're willing to put in the work, these easy tips can help you take your love to a new level.

1. Figure out if your relationship is worth saving. The sad truth is that many relationships have passed their expiration date--if you try to save them, you'll just end up getting hurt. There is no easy trick to answering this question; you'll know in your heart if you're with "the one" or just "the one I've been dating for five years so I might as well stick with it." Here are some red flags to let you know that your relationship may be approaching a dead end:
• If one or both of you have a history of being unfaithful to each other, then the damage you have done may be beyond repair.

• If you find yourself constantly attracted to other people, or even fantasizing about dating another person, then you may have lost that feeling for your current love interest.

• If you suspect your loved one just doesn't make you want to be a better person. If nothing about the relationship makes you want to grow, then you may have become too complacent for that spark to stay lit.

• If you're in the relationship because you're afraid to be alone or because you don't think you can do much better. This is a sign that you feel more anxiety than love.

• If you refuse to ever leave your significant other because "it would hurt him/her too much." The longer you wait to call it off, the more hurt your loved one will be, and if you know it just doesn't feel right, then you're not doing your significant other any favors by sticking around.

• If you are afraid to introduce your significant other to new friends or family members because you're worried they won't get along. Do you really want to date someone you can't show off to your friends and family? It's one thing if your significant other is just shy, but if he or she can't get along with anyone else in your life, it can be a deal-breaker.


2. Look through the windshield, not the rearview mirror. In order to move forward in your relationship, you have to absolutely stop obsessing over your loved one's past--as well as your own. If you're too hung up on whether or not he's still gaga over his ex from high school, or if your old ex is dating someone new, then you'll never be able to strengthen your bond.
Avoid asking too many questions about your loved one's past relationships, and definitely avoid snooping through his things or looking online for hints about his past. Not only will this make you worried for no reason, but if he finds out, it won't speak well of your confidence for the new relationship.

• As for your own exes, you don't have to cut off contact with them unless it's necessary, but do try to minimize contact, especially when you're starting a new relationship.


3. Share your passions. It's important to have common interests other than your love for each other. At first, passion may be enough to keep your love going, but once your relationship matures, it's important to share common interests or activities so that your relationship stays fresh.
You should work on sharing hobbies, whether you bake desserts every Sunday, or find a TV show that no one likes but you two.

• Have a couple culture project. You can decide to watch at least one movie together a week, or have your own mini-book club. That way, you can motivate yourself to learn new things and have something to talk about.

• Make time for fun for fun's sake. Not everything you do as a couple has to make you more interesting or talented. There's nothing wrong with sharing a pitcher of beer and hitting up a local pool table once in a while.


4. Share your passions--but not all of them. Though it's important to have shared interests with your loved one, it is just as important to have your own interests.
Do you love yoga while he likes swimming at the local pool? Do you like getting together with your girlfriends to dance to 80s music, while he likes meeting his bro-friends at the local bar to watch football? Great! It's important to maintain your own identity while building an identity as a couple.

• And it's just as important to spend the night with your sweetie hanging out with friends as it is to have some alone time regularly. Both of you absolutely need it in order to maintain your own interests, as well as to realize how grateful you are when that loved one is around.


5. Learn to compromise. It's important to stand up for what you believe in--but only to a point. If you're sick of sushi but your girlfriend has been dying to try the new Japanese place on date night, give in but ask if you can pick the movie.
But always remember that it's important that both people are willing to make a sacrifice. If you find yourself always giving in to your loved one's needs, big or small, it's time to have a talk.


6. Follow your own pace. The biggest mistake you can make is putting your foot on the gas to catch up with all the speeding cars--you'll end up crashing and burning.
Just because your impulsive best friend has shacked up with her boyfriend of three weeks doesn't mean that you and your boyfriend have to go apartment hunting ASAP.

• Even if all of your friends and their pet fish are getting married, it does not mean that you are ready to take the plunge.


7. Communication is key. If something is bothering you, it's important to let your loved one know so you can tackle the problem together.
• Pick the right place and time to have a talk. Even if there's something really important that you want to say to your sweetie that feels like it can't wait, you won't be able to have the conversation you want to have if you try to talk at a loud concert, or the minute after your significant other got some bad news at work. Make sure you are both sitting down and looking at each other to have the conversation to avoid distractions.

• Use the right tone to get heard. If you begin the conversation in an aggressive manner, your significant other is likely to get defensive. Be as calm and rational as possible, even if you're feeling angry. This will let your significant other actually hear what you have to say.

• Don't be too confrontational. Try saying, "There's something I've been meaning to talk to you about," instead of, "We have to have a talk--now!" This will still show that what you have to say is important, but will cut down on the drama.

• Don't let the small things build up. If you want to avoid having big serious talks all the time, remember that if something small ticks you off, you can tell your significant other without making a big deal about it. That way, you can avoid being passive aggressive or having the tension build up, and can move forward while understanding each other's needs.

• However, it's also important to know when to lay off--if you're bothered because your boyfriend accidentally put your milk away in the cabinet, there's no need to nag him, especially if he's had a rough day.


8. Even if your love is rock solid, your loved one should not be taken for granted. Remind yourself how lucky you are to have found your soul mate, but that it'll take hard work to make the relationship thrive.
No matter how busy your days are, try to find the time to have a conversation when you're both away from your computers, phones, and televisions. It's important to make time for each other even if everything is going well.

• Do something completely new together as often as you can, whether its taking a dance class or making your own gnocchi, to avoid getting into a rut.

• Compliment your significant other at least once a day. For bonus points, find something new to say every time!

7 Ways To Heal A Broken Heart

It pains a lot when someone breaks our heart and that pain is simply incomparable. The impact is more if the person who breaks is someone very close. The mind seems to shut itself down and we think that we are nothing more than a burden on earth. The whole world seems to be very dull and gloomy. It is very tough to get out of the situation but to progress in life we need to shed all the emotions attached to it.

The following seven ways would definitely help to get the broken heart healed. Do read and take to heart.

1. Try to forget it just like a broken dream:
 Don’t ever try to remember what has happened. Just make your heart understand that whatever has happened was simply a very bad dream and now that it is over just get out of it and understand the other glorious aspects of life. To think about the same thing again and again is simply an act of foolishness. We cannot change whatever has happened but at least we can be strong enough to embrace the present and future with broken arms. We must always remember one very simple rule of life and that is that no one can make you cry until you give them the permission to do so. So do responsible for your happiness and simply forget about the things that makes you sad.

2. Start meditation:
This is really very useful to get rid of any type of problems of life. You don’t require investing a lot of time for this purpose. You need to spend only a few minutes, maybe five or ten minutes would be sufficient enough to make things work. It would also be better if you could join yoga classes. These would not only make your mind relaxed but will also help your body to be free from any types of illness.

3. Rediscover yourself:
The important question is that do we know ourselves yet? The answer would simply be a big no. so why wasting time in thinking and judging about who did what? Spend more time to know yourself. Point out the strengths and weaknesses that is inside you and try to work upon them. Do aim to be a good human being. Don’t waste the precious moments of life thinking about something useless. Train your mind to think positive and develop the art of bringing good thoughts to mind.

4. Try to spend more time in social activities:
 You were so busy thinking about the pain of you broken heart that you missed out most of the real problems that are going on around you. Try to identify them and invest your time in some social work. Instead of sitting in one corner of the room and mourning do educate a few poor students. Try to focus more on their problems and do something noble. Get yourself connected to the worries that they are engulfed with. Do dedicate yourself complete to such type of works.

5. Enjoy life:
 Always keep in mind that life is beautiful and so try to enjoy each and every moment of it. Sing, dance, paint, draw, go for trekking, learn to cook food and feed the poor for free. Life gives us endless reasons to enjoy, do utilize them to the fullest. Enjoy to such extent that you soon realize that there is no room for any useless thoughts in your mind.

6. Try focusing on body development:
Have you ever looked at yourself closely at the mirror? You were so busy with your broken hurt that you forgot the there is handsome face hiding under that thick layer of beard. Get rid of it, and get back the real you, the person who was once loved by all. Join a gym and train your body. Do take good care of your body. With a good body and a rejuvenated mind you will see that the entire world looks so beautiful. Go ahead, jog around the streets in the morning, do pushups, breathe the fresh air and get drowned in it.

7. Know the world around you:
Have you ever spent some time knowing the world around you? Do you know that apart from the person who broke your heart there are so many other persons associated with your life those who really cares about you and is very concerned about your happiness? Do find time for them. Play with the kids who come to your garden daily. Ask the old man whom you find sitting alone in the park and smiling, about how he had spent his life. Get to know things that you have been ignoring lately.

After you have implemented these points in your life you would really feel relieved and would surely like to lead a life that you have always dreamt of.

How To Choose A Life Partner Step 4 of 4: Finding “The Right One”

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Be proactive. There's someone out there for just about everyone all you need to do is go find this person. If you don't make any effort to meet new people, try new things, or even leave the house, the odds that you'll find the person who's right for you can be seriously slim. So, if you're looking to find your life partner, start by getting up and getting out! Try to spend at least some of your free time attending fun social events, getting to know new people, and just getting out into the world around you in general.
Most dating "experts" will recommend a proactive approach to dating. Some even rank it as high as your career in terms of the effort you should spend on it!

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Meet people doing what you love. Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to spend every Friday night in a loud, crowded, overpriced nightclub to meet potential dating partners, nor do you have to be an immaculately-dressed, debonair, Hollywood type. While these sorts of approaches work well for some people, most people will have the greatest success finding partners by simply exploring activities that they love. By doing this, you're likely run into people with similar interests and outlooks as you, naturally leading to compatibility.
Even solitary hobbies can lead to opportunities to meet people! Love reading comic books and playing video games? Attend a convention! Love painting? Host an exhibition! Like writing? Attend a writer's workshop! There are exciting activities for almost every interest out there, so start searching!

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Be yourself. You're looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, so isn't it reasonable to assume that both you and your potential life partner should be completely open about who you are? In fact, many people are unwilling to completely "open up" until they've gotten to know someone intimately. If you can stomach the idea, try to be completely true to yourself from the very get-go through all the stages of a relationship: asking someone out, going on your first few dates, getting to know each other more closely, committing to each other, and beyond! By doing this, you give your partner the chance to fall in love with the real you, rather than forcing them to "hold on" until you're comfortable being yourself.

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Don’t be afraid. The path to finding your life partner can seem like a perilous one. It can seem like there's almost no hope you'll find someone who's right for you, especially if you've recently had to deal with romantic setbacks. No matter what you do, don't ever give up hope or give in to the fear that you won't find someone. People all over the world struggle with the same sorts of romantic difficulties that you may be going through right now. Everyone periodically has personal setbacks. There's no single "right way" to find your life partner, so don't judge yourself against other people or couples. Don't let negative thoughts derail your quest to find a life partner. Confidence, fearlessness, and persistence are key to finding the right person for you!
As an added bonus, confidence is generally considered quite sexy! Fearless confidence is a self-reinforcing trait that makes you much more attractive to potential partners: the more confidently you approach dating situations, the more relaxed you'll be during them, the better time you'll have, and the more confident you'll be when you approach the next situation.

10 Timeless Guidelines for a Happier Relationship

10 Timeless relationship guidelines

1. Listen with your ears and your heart. It is extremely important to listen to your partner when they try to communicate with you. Communication is the life blood of a good relationship. Giving them your undivided attention is a sign of deep respect, but don’t just hear them with your ears, make sure that your heart is listening also.  Instead of nitpicking over their choice of words try to hear the real meaning behind their words. If they want to talk when you are in the middle of something important, unless it’s an emergency, suggest a time when you’ll be able to pay closer attention.

2. Never, ever keep score. Don’t walk around with a watchful eye making sure your partner carries their share of the workload. Instead, take the view that it doesn’t matter if you end up doing more than half of what has to be done. There is absolutely no benefit to trying to make sure that everything in your relationship is divided fifty-fifty. Do what you can reasonably do and avoid making comparisons. Unless your spouse is very lazy or refuses to take responsibility in general, don’t keep track of who does more and who does less.

3. Don’t criticize in public. Being criticized can be tough to take under the best of conditions, but especially in front of other people. All it does is humiliate your partner and raise their defenses. When you embarrass your mate in public it weakens the bonds of intimacy and can undermine your relationship. The same principle applies if you have children. Criticizing your partner in the presence of your children undermines their authority with the kids and can cause them to develop an attitude of disrespect. This is especially true if your mate is a stepparent.

4. Don’t fight about money. Money is a highly emotionally charged subject, especially when couples are feeling a financial squeeze. Disagreements about money have always been among the most common causes of relationship conflicts and this trend has escalated dramatically since the economic downturn. Money problems can cause tremendous stress which seems to form a catalyst for frustration based agitation. When money is tight it’s vital to seek a solution together as a couple. If you lean on each other your already happy relationship will actually get stronger during tough times.

5. Eliminate “always” and “never” from your vocabulary. When your mate does something wrong, exaggerating the offense will only make things worse. Nobody likes to be told that they always make the same mistake or that they never do what they should have done. It may seem like that is the case when you are upset, but how do you feel when someone lays the same accusation on you? Thinking in exaggerated terms is nothing more than a bad habit that only agitates a situation and undermines your relationship. Try replacing words like always and never with more realistic, less accusatory terms like often or sometimes. You will feel much less angry inside.

6. Build trust into your relationship. Trust doesn’t happen by accident, it’s up to you to earn it. This may take some effort if your partner has been betrayed in the past and still carries the emotional scars. If you want to be trusted then avoid behavior that creates distrust. Be mindful not to get too close with or flirt with members of the opposite sex. Even if your motives start out innocent, in reality you are just inviting problems into your relationship. Your partner may start to feel threatened or you might begin to view that other person as an alternative in the event that your relationship doesn’t work out. Be resolved to do all you can reasonably do to give your partner every reason to trust you completely.

7. Only make favorable comparisons. This is something that you need to be very careful with because making comparisons can be a two edged sword. Being compared with some exceptional person in a positive way can really brighten your partner’s day. On the other hand, making an unfavorable comparison is something you never want to do because it will cause your partner to feel either inadequate or jealous. And whatever you do don’t compare them to your ex. In fact, don’t even talk about a past  relationship. It is much better to just leave the past in the past and focus on the present.

8. Work at fulfilling your mate’s emotional needs. When a person’s most important emotional needs are met, they feel content and fulfilled. Conversely, when a person’s most important emotional needs are not being met, they feel empty, lonely, unfulfilled, or frustrated. Granted, every person has the responsibility to try and meet their own needs, but you can help.  Making a concerted effort to help fulfill the most important emotional needs of your mate will go a long way toward building a happier relationship. As you work to discover and help fill the needs of your partner you will find that your own needs are also being met. This is truly a win for everyone involved.

9. Be ready to forgive. We all make mistakes and when we do we appreciate it when the people we care about give us the benefit of the doubt. Well, this is a two way street and we should be willing to forgive when the opportunity arises. It’s been said that a happy relationship is made up of two good forgivers. One of the ways we can show a forgiving attitude is by not holding unrealistic expectations. This takes into account the fact that no one is perfect and sets the stage for built in forgiveness. Anything that fosters feelings of togetherness helps build your happy relationship and that is exactly what a forgiving attitude does.

10. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Any relationship worth building up and strengthening is something to be deeply grateful for. After all, you could be alone! Having an attitude of gratitude means that your partner will know that you appreciate them. Your appreciation will be obvious in your words and actions, and they will never need to question your feelings in this. Gratitude is like a big giant security blanket that will transform the overall feel of your relationship. Being thankful for your mate every single day is one of the most empowering things you can do to build a truly exceptional relationship.