How To Choose A Life Partner Step 3 of 4: Making Your Relationship Work

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Let go of expectations. When you're trying to maintain a relationship, don't expect the other person to be someone they are not. While it's possible for the members of a couple to compromise on a variety of important issues and even change minor aspects of themselves for their partner, at their cores, most people are the same person for the long haul. Avoid having any sorts of illusions about your partner or assigning them qualities that they lack. Similarly, don't expect a partner to change a major part of who they are to appease you.
For example, it's OK to ask your partner (politely, of course) to start taking the garbage out sometimes — this is a reasonable place to look for compromise. However, it's not OK to expect your partner to suddenly decide to want kids if they don't already this is a deeply personal decision that can't reasonably be undone.

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Be honest about who you are. Just as you shouldn't try to conceal or change any major part of your partner, it's important to do the same yourself. When dating, it may be tempting to appease someone you like by manipulating the truth about your past or present situation. However, this not only leads to personal guilt, but also poses the risk of problems down the road. When the other person inevitably learns the truth, the level of trust in the relationship can seriously suffer.[4]
For example, while it's perfectly OK to dress a little fancier than you normally would for your first few dates, you wouldn't want to pretend that you're agnostic when you actually are quite religious just to make your date happy. Misleading your partner about yourself either by lying or omitting information about yourself is an act of deception that, for many people, can be difficult to recover from.

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Spend lots of time with a potential partner. What's the best way to find out if you can spend long amounts of time with someone else? Try to do it! To know if a relationship will work in the long-term, it's very important to spend lots of time in the other person's company (ideally in a wide range of environments). If you can stand to be around someone for days, weeks, or months at a time, you may have a keeper.
You'll probably also want to see if this person gets along with the people who are close to you (and vice versa). Bring your partner to your social engagements and introduce them to your friends and family. If your partner gets along well with these people, you have one less thing to worry about.

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Take your time. You're looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, so there's no reason to rush into things. Give your relationship the chance to grow organically. Don't stick to an arbitrary schedule for progressing through major relationship events like "going steady", moving in together, and getting married. If you rush into these decisions, you run the risk of finding yourself in situations you aren't prepared for with someone who may or may not be on the same page as you in terms of life priorities.
You'll definitely want to avoid becoming intimately involved with a potential partner until you get to know the person. While it's certainly possible to turn a casual relationship into something more serious, sexual intimacy shouldn't be the foundation for long-term happiness. Though sexual attraction and compatibility are key to a good long-term relationship, waiting allows you to gain a better understanding of whether you are compatible.

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Take note of how you act around your partner. If you find yourself acting "fake", pretending to feel differently than you actually do, or laughing at things you don't think are funny, this might be a sign that you're not truly comfortable around this person. If, however, you are relaxed and feel completely natural in the person's presence, you are on the right track. It's important to be able to be completely genuine around your partner. Eventually, everyone runs out of the energy to keep "faking it" you don't want this to happen to you five years into a marriage.

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Be willing to make sacrifices. No relationship is perfect. There will be times when you may have to sacrifice your own needs for the sake of your partner. It's up to you to decide exactly how far you're willing to go in terms of sacrifices — most good relationships involve a healthy give-and-take of sacrifices from both partners.
When it comes to making sacrifices for the good of your relationship, small things, like minor personal habits and behaviors, should be on the table. However, major life goals usually shouldn't be, as a serious disagreement about one of these can be a sign that two people are incompatible. For example, deciding to go out drinking with your friends less often is a reasonable sacrifice to make if you have a spouse and children. On the other hand, deciding not to have children when you desperately want them isn't something you should put yourself through.

How To Choose A Life Partner Step 2 of 4: Setting Your Priorities

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Decide whether or not you want kids. This decision is hugely important  perhaps the most important decision you'll make with your partner. In spite of this, a surprising number of couples fail to discuss this sufficiently before trying to commit to a lifelong relationship. Raising a child can be the most rewarding thing you ever do, but it's also an enormous responsibility, a huge financial commitment, and a decision to spend at least about 18 years or so (possibly more) directly responsible for the care of your child, so it's not something to be treated lightly.
Most people want children, but this is by no means universal, so don't make assumptions about your partner until you know for sure.

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Decide how important your culture and religion are to you. Many people's cultural or religious traditions are a huge part of their life others are agnostic or atheist and have little in the way of non-mainstream culture or tradition. Both lifestyles are equally valid, but, for some partners, someone at the opposite end of the spectrum may not be a viable long-term choice. Before you commit to someone, it's important to have an honest idea about whether or not it's important for your partner to be like you in this aspect of life.
To be clear, people from different races, religions, and cultures are perfectly capable of having happy life-long relationships. For instance, in the U.S., interracial couples are more common today than ever before.[3]

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Decide how you want to spend your money. Money can be an awkward subject to talk about, but it's something that it's important for two life partners to be on the same page about. Money can play an important role in the way a couple's life plays out — it can determine how long the members of the couple work for, the sorts of jobs they'll take, the lifestyle they'll be able to live, and much more. Having a frank talk about the ways you plan to save and spend money as a couple is essential for anyone considering a life-long relationship.
As an example of the sorts of financial decisions couples have to make, consider this: in a couple where one partner wants to spend his late 20s and early 30s taking lots of trips and exploring the world and the other partner wants to spend this time building a successful career and saving to buy a house, both partners may not be able to get their way.

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Decide how you want your partner to fit into your family (and vice versa). Our families shape the way we think and act throughout our lives. Having a clear picture of how you want your partner to fit into your family is a must for anyone thinking of spending his or her life with someone else. You'll want to know both what role you want your partner to play in your immediate family (i.e., you and any kids you have) as well as what role your partner to play in your extended family (i.e., your parents, siblings, cousins, etc.). Conversely, your partner should also have this figured out for you.
For example, for some couples with children, it's very important for one parent to be a full-time caretaker. For others, it's OK if a nanny fills the gaps. Similarly, some people may want to live near their parents and visit frequently, while others may want more independence.

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Decide what kind of lifestyle you want to have. This decision is a major one, but, luckily, it's usually quite clear how your partner wants to live once you begin spending serious amounts of time with him or her. You and your partner should have compatible ideas about how you want to spend your free time, how you want to interact with your friends, and the types of material comforts you want to pursue. While you don't have to like all of the same things your partner does, you shouldn't disagree about things that require major decisions or commitments.
For example, a couple wherein one partner likes watching pro wrestling on Monday nights and one partner likes watching nature documentaries at the same time will probably be able to make things work (especially if they agree to buy a DVR). On the other hand, if one partner wants to buy a house and the other doesn't or one partner wants to be a "swinger" and the other doesn't, these are major roadblocks to long-term happiness.

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Decide where you want to live. Sometimes, location is key to a couple's happiness. People often want to live near friends or relatives that they're very close to or live in places where certain types of activities are possible. If both partners can't be satisfied living in the same place, this can (at the very least) make it necessary to spend lots of time traveling.

How To Choose A Life Partner Step 1 of 4 Determining Your Ideal Partner

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Have an accurate view of yourself. The journey to finding a life partner starts with you! To know who will be best for you, you've got to know exactly who you are. Know what you like, what you don't like, what you're good at, and what you're bad at. Know what you want out of life and what you want from your partner. Be realistic and honest with yourself. If you're having a hard time examining yourself, try asking your closest friends to help you.
Most important of all, love yourself, flaws and all. You can't expect someone to love you if you can't love yourself. If you try to have a lifelong relationship when you have a negative self-image, you're likely to self-sabotage and hurt the people closest to you, so sort this important first step out before you continue.

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Define your life’s goals. Two people who are spending their lives with each other need to be on the same page for almost all of life's major decisions (if not every single one). Having a disagreement about a major, non-negotiable aspect of your life can stop a relationship in its tracks even when two people get along perfectly otherwise. Be open and honest about these goals — trying to lie to yourself can lead to long-term resentment and isn't fair to your partner. For more discussion on this topic, see the "Priorities" section below. Below are just a few very important questions that you'll want to know the answers to before you choose your life partner:
Do I want to have children?
Where do I want to live?
Do I want to work or manage the home (or both?)
Do I want my relationship to be an exclusive one?
What do I want to accomplish before I die?
What kind of lifestyle do I want to have?

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Draw on your experiences from past relationships. If you're having trouble determining what you want in a partner or what you want out of life, think back to relationships you've already been in. The choices you make in your relationships, conscious or unconscious, can help clue you in to the sorts of things you're looking for in a partner and even the sorts of things that you may need to work on to make a long-term partnership work. Below are just a few of the types of questions you may want to consider for your past relationships:
What did you like about your partner?
What did you enjoy doing the most with your partner?
What did you disagree with your partner about?
What did you criticize your partner for?
What did your partner criticize you for?
Why did the relationship end?

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Ask lots of questions in the early phases of a relationship. As you meet and begin to date a new person, talk to them about themselves. Ask them about what they like in a partner, what their life goals are, and what their long-term plans are. Your partner's ethics, interests, spiritual outlook, and even diet may be important to your long-term compatibility, so don't be afraid to ask about any of it!
You'll need to consider questions in all areas of lifestyle choices. For instance, do they smoke, drink, or do drugs? Do they have any personal demons? Will they be a supportive and understanding person if you wish to change or advance your career?
To be clear, these types of questions aren't necessarily things you should ask at your first date. Asking very personal questions early on can be a major turn-off that can sabotage your efforts to start a relationship with someone. However, these types of major lifestyle questions are probably things that you'll want to know the answer to within, say, the first six months of your relationship.

How to Have a Long and Happy Relationship

This is your easy universal guide to maintaining a long and happy relationship together with your love. This is about many things--but it is never about being one sided or demanding. Don't allow your self to be a control freak or fearful and paranoid, but be open and cheerful. It's about how the two of you do this and continue it...

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Choose your partner wisely. Having similar tastes, hobbies, temper and goals in life is very important even though you will be opposite in some nice ways. If you two have different relationship goals, you should try to find different partners. It will eventually lead to mild and even harsh conflicts, but even these type of conflicts will help both you and your significant other at the time decide what they really want in a relationship, nothing is ever a waste of time. But without compatibility in your basics it is very hard to maintain a happy relationship. If one is always "going, rushing and imagining" but the other (no matter how lovely) always wants to "stay, stop or forget it all"--it is very very hard to be together and make things work for long run.

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Be honest about everything always. Even in the smallest matter. Being honest is the most important thing in a relationship. Secrets or dishonesty is like poisonous venom from a deadly snake that will bite you both... when it comes crawling out and it will.

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Never cheat on your partner. Imagine what you would feel if they cheated on you. Would you really want them to feel that way? Could you ruin every month/year you've spent together? Could you break their heart? Keep in mind, that cheating could do permanent damage to your partners self confidence and could ruin their love life completely forever. You will never be trusted again, no matter how you excuse yourself. Is sex really worth ruining your relationship? If you don't feel happy with your partner, break up first.

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Be open and informative as much as you can. Privacy is something that couples need to be completely open about and know exactly what the other expects from them and talk about the issues that you might have. As the relationship continues and those initial boundaries are changing then revise them and eventually in a perfect relationship would have absolutely nothing private from there other, but nothing is perfect so beyond absolutely everything make sure to talk to your partner in full about things and respect the others wishes.

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Respect the needs of your partner. Keep your wants balanced with theirs. This way no one gets constant advantage. But everyone stays happy.

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Keep their birthday and your anniversary in mind. This is really important!

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If you want to make them happy, do something you know they like, or something they always wanted to do but never could. Don't feel like you need a reason to do something for them, things completely out of the blue are sometimes exactly what the other wants. Doing something together is always the best choice though.

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Don't expect, buy or even request valuable gifts. These can really poison a relationship if one person seems to be a gold digger. Discuss before hand with your other on what might be OK to spend without having any ideas of items or prices before hand. Plus, if you really put your mind to it the best gifts come from the heart and don't cost an arm and a leg but possibly even free!

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Spend as much time together as you can, but avoid fusion or confusion of your individual goals with the other person's goals! You will fuse family goals such as for having children together, but not you core needs and beliefs. Neither person should lose reasonable and longstanding individual ambitions or goals.

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Before you become impatient or unreasonable try to run the, "Do they deserve my unloading on them?" program. No matter what the answer is to that question--No! They don't deserve a "piece of your mind." Be fair by being patient, and ask for patience. Keep calm, this is the key to being happy together. Everyone can have a hard day, or week. All it takes is a huge breath in and out and let your mind do the talking not your mouth(think about what your going to say before you say it).

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In a good relationship very little should be taboo. Simply, if you are both sensible--anything that you think about might be worth talking about with your partner. Yet an extremely talkative person can drive a partner to distraction and to need a getaway to have some peace and quiet (opposites don't always attract if both or either one is too intrusive or self-centered)...

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Don't despise or be cruel about any mannerisms or habits they have. Don't force them to do or not do anything. If it is too unacceptable to you then you should decide what is right or wrong for yourself. If they need or ask for your help--with changing their bad habit--then you should be as supportive as you can without becoming an enabler.

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Rejecting the insignificant little things that the other does is part of a relationship. Don't try to change your partner (don't be his parent or psychologist). Realize that people have habits and mannerisms that is part of who they are. You will not be able to make them stop and you should love them for who they are. If an issue is significant, like someone who is demanding or belittling, maybe you should rethink the relationship.

10 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Person

We all have our dating doubts, but if you are experiencing any of the following issues, you could be investing time in the wrong person.

1. You Don't Feel Like You Can Be Yourself
Your friends tell you you've changed. You are always watching what you say or how you act, because your partner tends to get on your case or has been critical of you in the past. You just never feel completely relaxed around them, even after dating for a good amount of months. If you can't be who you truly are with your significant other, it's time to think hard about what you are doing in a situation like this...and why. No one is worth this much sacrifice.

2. You're Unhappy
While it's true that our partners aren't responsible for our happiness, they should certainly make our days a little brighter! Someone who is dating the right person consistently enjoys the relationship and feels a general sense of happiness (arguments aside!). If you find yourself unhappy most of the time -- and especially when you are with them -- then this may be a sign that this isn't the best person for you.

3. They Exhaust You
Instead of feeling energized after hanging out with your partner, you feel emotionally drained most of the time. They seem to always have something to complain about, or just have a negative outlook on life. Either way, the person you choose to spend your life with should really lift you up rather than drag you down. And it shouldn't feel like "work" most of the time.

4. The Friend Factor
If you are with someone and don't really want to introduce them to your friends, this is not a good sign (and you should ask yourself why!). If you are with someone and they never bring you around their friends, it's another sign. If your most trusted friends are expressing concern about your relationship, take heart. These people may be able to see things more objectively than you, so it's important to be open and hear what they have to say.

5. You Never Envision the Future Together
After a certain amount of time together, it is normal to start thinking about what the future might be like as a couple. If you have been with your partner for awhile and just don't see how it would ever work together down the line, it might be a good idea to evaluate why you are with this person and what you are really looking for.

6. You are Like Night and Day
He loves to go out every night and sleep late. You like to just be home and get an early start. He wants to be together seven nights a week, while you love time with your girlfriends. Compatibility is an essential ingredient for a happy and peaceful union, and if you and your partner have many fundamental differences, it may make things that much harder.

7. You're Not Excited to See or Hear From Them
She calls you...and you send it to voicemail. Or sometimes you actually avoid him. You realize that you feel completely ambivalent when you are around him. Many of us go through the motions and are so afraid to be alone that we stay in situations which aren't fulfilling. Dating should be fun, exciting and heartwarming, not another chore. It's not always going to be sunshine and roses, but you should feel happy to see them most of the time.

8. You Don't Feel Good about Yourself
In addition to feeling happy, a person in a good relationship usually has a positive self esteem. Sure, they will have some doubts and insecurities (who doesn't?), but the time they spend with their partner will make them feel better about themselves, not worse. In contrast, if your partner exacerbates your self doubts and undermines your confidence, it's time to stand up for yourself...and say see ya later!

9. The Cons of Staying Together Outweigh the Pros
A cost-benefit analysis can actually be helpful in situations other than at the office. Sit down for a few minutes and write down the advantages of staying with your partner. Then list the disadvantages. When you compare the lists, you will either find that the benefits outweigh any disadvantages, or that reasons to break up are more compelling than the ones to stay together.

10. Your Instincts are Whispering - Get Out
As a general rule, the voices inside us are there for a reason, and they should be listened to. Don't ignore the subtle red lights your subconcious is warning you about. Ultimately, our hearts know what is right for us. Give your inner voice free rein and let it direct you to the conclusions that are best for you.

Find someone who treats you like you need to be treated and makes you happy. Someone who makes you feel good about yourself, and whom the people you trust encourage you to be with.

What have been the biggest signs for you that you were with the wrong person?

19 Reasons Why S*x Is Important in Your Relationship/Marriage

Some people think sex is overrated in a relationship, while others think there are many reasons why sex is important with your spouse. When you are in love, it can connect the two of you in a way unlike any other. Aside from the obvious connecting part to having that time with your partner, there are some great medical benefits as well. Reasons why sex is important are all below, although there are many more I’m sure.

1. CONNECTS YOU

This is a one of the most obvious reasons why sex is important I think. Of course being intimate with one another is going to bring you two closer. The simple fact that you are seeing each other naked is enough to bring you closer. Sometimes being very much in love and being attracted to each other, doesn’t mean the sexual chemistry is there. Once you two have found your groove in the bedroom, you should see that chemistry coming together.

2. STRESS RELEASE

I mean, who doesn’t want to come home after a long stressful day and release that with some loud Os? This is a great way to put a new hop in your step and restore your energy, and of course to forget about your long day. Experts say people who have regular sex respond better to stress than #people who don’t.

3. LIVE LONGER

Having one orgasm a day can keep the doctor away (see what I did there?). In order for the optimal health benefits, having an orgasm every 24 hours keeps the health #benefits at their maximum and the levels of oxytocin, estrogen and testosterone consistently flowing. Not only that, but regular sex can improve cardiovascular health, reduce risks of prostate cancer and even reduce the possibility of osteoporosis. Why not help your #partner live longer?

4. EXERCISE

Make your sexy time into an #exercise! You actually burn 144+ calories per half-hour every time you get down and dirty according to studies, and who doesn’t love burning calories? (ESPECIALLY while having sexy #time!) The key for high-calorie-burning sex is making it hot and making it last, say experts. You can also add a little moaning and sighing, which can help you burn an extra 18 to 30 #calories.


5. GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP

Who isn’t tired after some #time between the sheets? This is a fantastic way to help you close those heavy #eyes before your usual time. Sex is said to cause a drop in #body temperature, and also appears to induce a deep sleep. Experts usually discourage #exercise within a few hours of bedtime but the physical activity of sex seems to be a positive exception to that rule.

6. BETTER SELF ESTEEM

If you are making love with your partner, you feel great about yourself, right? If you aren’t, you wonder where else he is getting it. Having that time together shows each other that you are committed and you are in love with each other. Now of course, if you aren’t having sex yet with your #partner, that is fine! Having some quality lip locking #time does the trick just as well.


7. KEEPS THINGS HOT

Sex is a great way to recharge at the end of the day and to break up your routine. If you do the usual routine every day, try throwing in sexy #time randomly. This will keep your #relationship hot and spontaneous. What guy doesn’t love that? You will too!


8. IMPROVES BLADDER CONTROL

You might not have issues holding your bladder now, but it's bound to happen in the future. However, if you have sex often enough, your bladder control will improve. It's probably not your main reason for having intercourse, but it's certainly a great benefit!



9. BOOSTS LIBIDO

The more you have sex, the more you'll want to have sex. So even if you're a bit iffy on intercourse now, you'll end up being as eager as a little bunny rabbit. The same will happen with your #partner, so you two won't want to keep your hands off of each other.

10. GLOWING SKIN

Don't you love looking in the mirror to see flawless skin? Well, you'll be halfway there once you start having sex frequently. The more you do it, the better your skin will #look. You'll have a certain glow to you that isn't only due to your happiness.

11. RELIEVES PAIN

Having a headache is a horrible excuse for skipping out on sex. Why? Because sex can actually cure a migraine. It makes the pain disappear, so if you're not feeling the greatest, having sex could be a good move.


12. IT'S FUN

Why would you stop yourself from doing something fun? When you're with the #right person, you'll love every second you spend with them--especially the time you spend naked. A #relationship is meant to make you happier, so all the fun is part of a job.

13. EASIER TO BREATHE

Sex is "a natural antihistamine, helping to combat hay fever and asthma symptoms." That means that it makes it easier for you to breathe. So if you've been having problems with your allergies lately, a good roll in the hay could be the cure you've been looking for.

14. FEELING OF WELL-BEING

Having sex frequently will create a feeling of well-being, which is why you fall asleep so easily after doing it. That means that intercourse helps both your #body and your mind. There's nothing unhealthy about it.

15. STRENGTHENS CARDIAC MUSCLES

Sex isn't only good for your heart in terms of your emotional state. It's also good for your physical health. If you want your heart to stay strong, sex is a great way to make sure that your blood keeps pumping.

16. INTELLIGENCE

Sex can potentially boost your intelligence. There are studies that show that it can "accelerate brain cell growth." So if you're hoping to ace a test, you can take a break from studying to have some sex. Hey, it's worth a shot, isn't it?

17. STOPS BOREDOM

When you spend tons of #time with your boyfriend, things can get boring. When you run out of #things to do, sex is always a great activity to resort to. Its something that'll never get stale, because there will always be plenty of new moves to try out.


18. HELPS YOU KNOW ONE ANOTHER BETTER

You want your #partner to know you inside and out. That means that he should learn how to pleasure you. The more often you have sex, the better he'll get at making you happy. That's why you should strip off your clothes whenever you can.


19. YOU'LL LOOK YOUNGER

All of the things on this list combined will help you #look younger. Right now, you might not be worried about wrinkles, but you will be in the future. That's why having as much sex as you can while you can is a great idea.

I think we all know sex is important in a relationship, but of course if you aren’t at that stage yet, don’t take this article the wrong way. But if you are, then the above tips are all true, and trust, I am speaking from experience. Is there another reason why sex is important in your #relationship? Give me some more tips!

10 Valuable Lessons You Will Learn From Failed Relationships

It is tough to overcome the pain of a failed relationship. A relationship which goes kaput after a while leaves behind bad memories that are bound to last for some time. It also makes us lose faith in love and some of us resolve not to get into a relationship again. We see darkness all around and become cynical about love. We must understand that failure teaches us more than success does. As human beings, we are bound to make mistakes and we must learn from them.

Here are 10 Lessons You Will Learn From Failed Relationships

1. Compatibility is important
It is important that you share some similar interests with your partner. The various ideas, thoughts, opinions etc. that you have of the world should be similar. It is important to be on the same page with your partner. If both of you are completely different as individuals, it will lead to disagreements, fights and disputes. It is important to find a partner who is compatible with you.

2. You cannot change people
You may not like certain things about a person but still get into a relationship with them thinking you would be able to change them. After a certain point in life, people don’t change. So, trying to change people is a waste of time and energy. You must accept them for what they are. If you can’t accept a person the way they are, don’t get into a relationship with them.

3. There is a lot more to life
Sometimes being in a relationship isolates you from the rest of your surroundings. You don’t meet your friends as often as you used to. You let go of your hobbies to be able to spend some time your partner. Even before you realize this, you have distanced yourself from everyone and everything around you. Now that the relationship has ended, you can pick up several things that you had left away somewhere. You can reconnect with old friends and start afresh.

4. You learn to become empathetic
After you break up with your partner, you realize how much you loved them. You went through a lot of emotions during the course of the relationship which will eventually help you in shaping your future relationships. A failed relationship makes you a vulnerable person. But, at the same time it makes you react to emotions more sharply. You become more sensitive as a person.

5. Set your priorities straight
When you were in a relationship your entire world revolved around it. It is high time now that you set your priorities straight. Focus on your work and build a career. You finally realize that love is important but there are things that are equally, if not more, important as well. Work on the things that you know will help you in leading a good life. Do not sulk over the break-up. Channelizing your energies towards doing constructive things will help you move forward.

6. You become resilient
Heartbreak may leave you with a lot of pain and sorrow but after a while, you will realize that it has made you a stronger person. It will make you stronger emotionally and mentally. It will help you sail through the bad times in the future. When you are a mentally strong person, any problem or situation, no matter how big it is, will be able to bog you down.

7. You learn to forgive
After you analyze the reason behind your failed relationship, you come to the conclusion either or both of you were wrong. In that case, you learn to forgive your erstwhile partner or yourself. Forgiveness requires a lot of strength but you have to forgive and move on. If your partner has hurt you, confront her and try to talk about it. It would be a good thing if you continue to stay in touch or part ways amicably.

8. Don’t blame your partner
Blaming your partner for the failure of the relationship will make you a bitter person. You will not stay in touch with your erstwhile partner but continue to blame them for the pain they caused you. If you try to find reasons to blame your partner, there will be no end to it. Unless you get over the memories of your beloved, you won’t be able to move forward in life.

9. You learn to let go
Time does not wait for anyone and life moves on. Even if you take some time to deal with the break-up, you will have to move ahead after a while. Your circumstance will force you to get over your sorrows and start running in the race of life. This will make you realize that such things could happen in the future and you have to learn to let go of things prevent your growth. Holding on to unpleasant memories or negative energies will do no good.

10. You learn a lot about life
Love is an important part of life and being in a relationship will help you in dealing with this emotion. A failed relationship will help you more as it will give you a deeper insight into love. You will begin to understand relationships and human behavior better. People who hurt us are the ones who teach us a lot about life. Life is a long journey and certain unpleasant incidents are bound to happen. You should learn from such experiences and be careful enough not to repeat the mistakes that you have already committed.

A failed relationship is the stepping stone to a successful relationship as it imparts many valuable life lessons to you. After a relationship ends, it is important to immerse yourself in some work, activity or be in the company of your loved ones. It will help you in dealing with the pain better and soon enough you will be out of the dungeons of your past relationship.

Avoiding Common Relationship Problems

1. Never, ever manipulate someone. Popular culture often tells us, subtly, that we should manipulate our significant other. You’ll find magazine upon magazine about how to get your girlfriend to do this or how to make your husband more that. But the thing is that expecting someone to change, and emotionally or mentally manipulating them into doing it, is one of the worst things you can do for your relationship. By manipulating them, you are creating distrust and resentment, a terrible thing to do to someone you love.

2. Don’t expect perfection. Don’t expect perfection in the person you love or in yourself. This sets incredibly unrealistic expectations. Neither of you will be able to live up to these standards and you both will end up hurt and disappointed. Even if you feel that you only expect perfection for yourself, this will give you the mindset that people can be perfect and you will subconsciously expect the same from the person you’re with.

3. Don’t bring outside problems into your relationships. Life gets stressful sometimes. We have problems and they make us upset, hurt, or angry. There are many, many people who take out these negative emotions on the people they love, often because they feel like they have no other outlet. But you should never do this. Find good ways to deal with your stress, like exercising or doing art. This will keep you from unreasonable outbursts directed at the person you love.

4. Don’t let things stagnate. Much like not putting in effort, you shouldn’t get to a point where your relationships are routine. Getting the same gift (or type of gift) for every holiday and birthday, going to the same place for dinners out, doing the same thing for your anniversary, etc. Your love deserves better and so do you! Keep things interesting by always trying new things and pursuing new experiences together.
You can be wild and crazy and try things like rock climbing or you can be more subdued and try learning a new skill together, like playing the piano.

5. Focus on the important things. One major pitfall of relationships is that we tend to get super focused on little things that drive us crazy, rather than seeing the bigger picture, which is often wonderful. Keep your focus on the things that actually matter, and constantly analyze why those things matter to you. You’ll have a much happier relationship if you do.

6. Remember that everyone is equal. It is important to understand, for developing relationships, that no one is better than you and you are not better than anyone else. We are all equal, with equally worthwhile problems, ideas, and beliefs. If anyone ever tries to convince you differently, no matter where they pray and no matter how much you admire them, they aren’t worthy of your love.

7 Ways To Make A Man Understand You Completely

Men think women are a task; certainly not! All women across the globe wish for one thing – for her man to understand her! All you women know that blank stare you get during some of the most critical conversations about your relationship or that offensive walk out of the room leaving the argument incomplete. In such situations, women tend to forget that men have the mental capacity of a 6-year old, they need to be told things subtly or else they will only retaliate.

Sure, communicating in a relationship is a task and asking your man to understand you is a Hercules task, but it is not impossible! Here are some guidelines you can try to make you man understand you completely.

1. Give him time to comprehend
Women analyse and talk to themselves a lot; men on the other hand have their heads filled with sports, work, poker and everything that does not come include ‘emotions.’ You may have thought about a particular matter for four days and decided how you are going to present it to your partner- this exercise must have taken you about a week. Now, one fine day you go and let it all out in front of him, expecting a response and reaction immediately. You may get a reaction, but not a response – simply because men are slow at processing. Since you have had the time to think and re-think the matter, give him that fair opportunity too.

2. Don’t Shout; Don’t Nag; Just Smile
Shouting, fighting and nagging – all these are going to show you a dead-end! We all know that men do not react well to tantrums, leave alone nagging him for hours together! And what are you going to achieve by shouting on top of your voice? Stress and high blood pressure and a silent, blank looking partner! All the shouting and nagging will only push him towards the negative more and you will never get your point across. Instead, try talking to him in a neutral tone with a gentle smile and of course, keeping it short!
For instance, don’t complain that using his cell phone continuously irritates you and that’s going to be the reason for your failed relationship, but smile and tell him that when you are with each other, try to avoid any distractions.

3. Respect him
Your man does not have to earn your respect; he deserves it just like you do! By assuming that all his actions have to be about pleasing you and impressing you – you are highly mistaken! He is a human being with emotions too. When you show him some gratitude, his actions and emotions will become warmer and he will respond to your needs and wants positively.

4. Give Hints about your Nature
You will think that he should make an effort to study your personality and know your likes and dislikes. He may think he knows you, but you don’t think it is enough. So stop the blame game and take the reins in your hand! Share tales about your childhood, tell him about your college life or some successful project at work – all these stories will help him understand you as a person and before you know it, he will start connecting with you on a level you always wished for.

5. Communicate When He’s Free
If you are talking to him when he’s working on the laptop or while he is watching TV, you need to know that nothing is going to sink into his mind. So save your breath for a time when his attention is not diverted. When his mind is free, he will be able to rationalize better, think better and most importantly, respond in a better way!

6. Allow him to Ask Questions
The universal fact is that women talk more than men! Talking more than your man is fine, but you should allow him to express too, because only then will you know whether your actions and efforts are being heard by the opposite person! While you are chatting away, try to encourage him to ask you questions about your life, your work, and your relationship – you need to talk less and get him to talk more. So guide your conversations in a way that make ask you questions and give him an opportunity to put out something on the table too.

7. Practice What You Preach
Put your moral science education to use! If you want to be treated in a particular way, you should treat him in the same manner! Talk to him politely and he will reply in the same tone; show respect in public and you’ll get that in return; be positive about your relationship and you’ll receive double the amount of positivity back. So if you wish for him to understand you, you need to start understanding him first!

You can refer to this guidebook, but remember that these tips will not show overnight results. Be patient and committed because men are a piece of work and they think the same about women! All you need to do is be consistent and be in love and all the efforts will be worth it! So be rational, communicate wisely and believe that change is possible.

13 Simple Ways To Avoid Falling In Love With The Wrong One

Do you see yourself going gaga over the wrong person and just can’t control it? Here, we have some of the tried and tested tips for you. First comes the feeling of liking, which is often termed as infatuation. You don’t fall in love with the person in the initial stage. Infatuation is one thing that causes inseparable area of your thinking process over that person. You just won’t be able to stop thinking about them. Many of us have a crush on somebody and then end up falling in love with them each passing day.

Sometimes, it’s natural to have second thoughts about the person. A co-worker or a friend could be sweet and charming, and before you realize anything, you will be having some deep connection with them. You just won’t be able to control if you are falling head over heels in love with them. It is a possibility that every part of your body will be guiding you that you are going down the wrong path. You must have tried to stop yourself too, but it ends up resulting hurting you more.

And, at the end you just accept what you are going through and accept all the misery as well as self pity that the person you love will never be able to love you as you love them. But you know what the reality is?  You can still get hold of yourself and turn the time upside down. You can still have a life which is under your control. You can still stop falling in love with that person and get your stand back if you truly want to.

1. Try to convince yourself first!
Wait is the key to get over that person. Infatuation is only alive till the time you feed it with patience. Once you have made your mind that this person is not right for you in the coming future, and then you can easily drop the whole concept of falling in love. You need to convince yourself first before anybody else.

2. Keep the difference in mind!
There’s a huge difference between infatuation and falling in love with somebody. Infatuation is just finding somebody interesting and attractive in anything they do. Just because you like the person as he/she is attractive and fun doesn’t necessarily mean you love them.

3. Distancing is mandatory!
Initially it might seem painful, if at all you talk to them on a daily basis or if you’re working day and night with them, hence, forced to talk to them. No matter how difficult it is, just try to avoid them or keep some distance from them.

4. Avoid having a physical contact!
You may feel like you are up on cloud 9 every time you hold their hand or cuddle them. But you need to realize that each time you walk away from that, you will get hurt. It may seem stupid to some, but can work wonders. Stop being cosy with them and know that it will do you no good in present or in future as well.

5. Don’t be too over friendly!
Avoid late night and long conversations with this person. Most important of all, stop exchanging late night calls or text messages where you discuss the most intimate details of your life. You need to remember one thing regarding this, you’re not going any friendlier with this person, and rather you are falling deeper in love with him. And, this is definitely not what you want.

6. No stalking!
It feels very satisfying as you stay updated about this person’s private life. But, you know what your destination is. Avoid opening their face book page or following them on any other social networking website to see about their future activity or whether they’ve been up for something. Try limiting the times you stalk them and eventually you will start ignoring them completely.

7. Pay attention to other things now!
Don’t let one person control your mind and your life. It may seem next to impossible to forget about that person or ignore him. So, rather, engage yourself in other activities which will help you diverting your mind. And every time, you start thinking about him or make you sad, then think something else that makes you feel happy.

8. Don’t please people, Just be yourself!
It’s all okay to turn down somebody’s request. You don’t need to something just because somebody else wants you to do it. You are the owner of your own choices. You don’t have to please people by saying ”yes” to anything they say. You need to have your stand as well.

9. Focus on the bad side!
Each one of us has flaws. So, the next time you meet that person, just focus on the bad traits they bear. This is one of the best ways to get over somebody. Each time you think about that person, think about their bad behaviour with you and what bad side they bear.

10. Focus on someone else now!
It is one of the easiest ways to get over somebody in no less time. Just try to divert your attention over somebody else.  It can be a flirty conversation for a few days or it may turn into a great friendship after a few days.

11. Avoid giving or taking attention!
Even if you’re in a smooth relationship which is going subtle in all boundaries, flirty attention from somebody may make you feel weak. If you’re not up for any serious material in your life, then you can try avoiding attention from the one even if it feels good.

12. Your self respect comes first!
Don’t ever lose your self respect for anybody who is just not worth the time and patience of yours! There is a strong reason why you don’t want this relationship to go further or work. Remember that you are worth something better in life.

13. Have a conversation with this person!
Does this person have any idea that you are infatuated with them, but don’t want it to go any further? If you want no complications, then talk to this person and tell them how you feel. Try to avoid each other and follow the no contact rule in future.

These are the sure shot ways of not falling in love with the person you think is not worth it! There is no end of guys and girls in this universe. You will find your ”the one” when it is the right time. Till then, don’t experiment with the wrong ones!

LOVE STORY: The Blind Girl

There was a blind girl who was filled with animosity and despised the world. She didn't have many friends, just a boyfriend who loved her deeply, like no one else. She always used to say that she'd marry him if she could see him. Suddenly, one day someone donated her a pair of eyes
And that's when she finally saw her boyfriend. She was astonished to see that her boyfriend was blind. He told her, "You can see me now, can we get married?"
She replied, "And do what? We'd never be happy. I have my eye sight now, but you're still blind. It won't work out, I'm sorry."
With a tear in his eye and a smile on his face, he meekly said, "I understand. I just want you to always be happy. Take care of yourself, and my eyes."

STRANGE : Wife beats husband to death in Enugu

The police in Enugu State have arrested one Mrs. Grace Agbo for allegedly killing her husband, a situation that has thrown the entire people of Isi-Uzo Local Government Area into shock.

Residents say they are terrified over the development as the motive behind the murder had remained unknown.

The police spokesman in Enugu State, Mr. Ebere Amaraizu, who confirmed the incident, said the deceased, Elijah Agbo, hails from Imirike Agu village in Udenu Local Government Area of Enugu State but resides in Isiuzo.
According to him, the deceased was relaxing in the living room of his house with his wife, Grace, and daughter, Deborah, at night on the fateful day, March 5, 2015, without knowing that his end was near.

DAILY POST learnt that around 9pm, the housewife, Grace, asked the daughter, Deborah, to go to bed.

Not sensing any danger, Deborah, a 12-year-old girl, obeyed her mother and went to bed, leaving her parents alone in the living room.

But shortly after she retired to bed, Deborah heard a loud, sharp cry from her father, Elijah.
The cry was accompanied by a thud and Deborah rushed to the living room, where she saw her father on the floor, with blood gushing from a fresh, open wound on his head, which had been smashed in.

She discovered that her mother had used a heavy stick to smash her father’s head immediately she stepped out of the living room.

Amaraizu, who confirmed that Elijah died on the spot, said the housewife had been arrested.

He added that the police were yet to determine why Grace murdered her husband in cold blood.

10 Tips For Preventing Divorce In Your Marriage

1: Make time to connect lovingly with your spouse every day. A couple can significantly improve their chances of marital success by devoting as little as 15 minutes a day exclusively to each other. For instance, you could wake up a little earlier, and spend the extra time in bed cuddling, making love, and reaffirming your love for each other. Take time every day to have meaningful conversations with each other; to listen with the same intensity as when you were dating; to touch, hug, and show affection; to tell each other how you feel about your marriage; and to talk about your goals for the marriage and your lives.

2: Compliment your spouse regularly—both in private and in front of others. Even if your partner seems embarrassed or shrugs it off at first, the glow from sincere praise lasts a long time.

3: Love your spouse in the way he/she wants to be loved. We often make the mistake of assuming that the things that touch our hearts the most deeply will affect our partner in the same way. For instance, you may think red roses are the perfect gift, but to your spouse, they represent a waste of money and an allergy attack. If you don't already know, find out what your spouse yearns for, and then deliver it with love—and no comments about how "stupid" it is to want a cordless drill/a picnic on the living room floor/a tuna casserole. Remember: the best gift is something your spouse wants—not merely something you want him/her to have.


4: Take care of your appearance. Look your best for your spouse. Lose the ratty sweat pants or frayed sweater he/she hates so much; you can find other comfortable clothes that aren't a complete turn-off for your partner. This also means taking care of your health—including eating properly and exercising regularly.

5: Remain faithful. Dr. Finnegan Alford-Cooper studied 576 couples who had been married for 50 years or more; in 1998, she released her findings in the book For Keeps: Marriages that Last a Lifetime. In her study, she found that 95 percent of the spouses agreed that fidelity was essential to a successful marriage, and 94 percent agreed or strongly agreed that marriage is a long-term commitment to one person. And these "lifers" weren't making the best of a bad lot: a whopping 90 percent of the couples she surveyed said that they were happily married after 50-plus years.

6: Do things together. Another common factor of long-term happy marriages is that the spouses regularly do things together that they find fun and exciting. Whether that's ballroom dancing, bowling, playing cards, SCUBA diving, or skiing, participate in at least one activity that you both enjoy every week. If you have kids, make sure at least half of these activities are for you and your spouse only.

7: Spend time apart. You take a pottery course while your spouse plays hockey; you play bridge and your partner collects stamps. You don't have to love everything your partner loves, but you do have to allow him/her the freedom to pursue cherished hobbies. An added bonus is that separate interests can generate interest between you.

8: Be friends with your partner. John Gottman—a psychology professor who claims his research will predict with 91 percent accuracy whether a couple will stay together—says the key to marital happiness and success is friendship. Some of the most important aspects of this type of friendship are knowing each other intimately, demonstrating affection and respect for each other on a daily basis, and genuinely enjoying each other's company. Gottman based his findings on 25 years of marital research, which he presented in his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

9: The Terms of Endearment. Top Los Angeles divorce attorney Stacy D. Phillips says flowers, candy, cards, and gifts are all wonderful tokens of love, but if you really want your romance to last, you must practice some marriage-saving steps. She advises couples to spell out the basics of their relationship in a yearly contract—or at least to clarify them. "Most disputes that break up marriages are over sex and money," she says. "Don't let surprises lead to trouble. Marriage is like any other contract: its terms and conditions must be reviewed and updated."

10: Say "I love you" every day. This is especially important when you're not feeling the sensation of love; at these times, you have to actively generate it. Saying those three little words, and performing loving gestures, will warm both your and your spouse's hearts.

How to Make Your Wife and Girlfriend Happy part 4 of 4 Understanding What Makes Her Happy

1. Understand what makes women click. Women are maternal creatures: they love taking care of things. That's why she cooks you great meals, or packs your backpack, or worries when you don't call after you've gone home. Take advantage of her nature and show her that you appreciate her effort, and let her know that you care back.
Remember that women have been raised around stories that end in ladies finding the "Perfect Man," becoming a Princess and living happily ever after. It's ingrained into their subconscious that they must find a man who is perfect in every way. While this is basically impossible, you want to try to be that prince for her.
Girls want to feel special. Girls want to be able to brag to their girlfriends about how great you are; they want to know that you're as invested in the relationship as they are; they want to picture themselves being the luckiest girl in the world. Be the kind of guy that gives her these things.
The more you make her feel like it's her specifically that you love, and not just any old girlfriend, the more special she'll feel.
So, don't say "I love curves on women" if you want to compliment her; instead, say "I love how your curves show off your beautiful body."
Likewise, don't compliment her feminine assets as much as the things that are truly unique about her. Something like "I never realized until now how your eyes look exactly like sapphires," is a lot more endearing than something about her chest.

2. Understand the differences between men and women. We all know that men and women think and behave differently. It's important to know why, because it will help you do some of the things she expects you to do.
Understand that she doesn't think she's being clingy. Being around, worrying about your safety — these things are a natural part of being a woman, and therefore part of who she is. Learn to love that aspect of her.
Think of it as a good thing: Women are only inclined to be "clingy" if they genuinely love and care about you a great deal. If she has stopped doing these things, there may be something wrong!
If you need a little break from her, tell her in a sweet, loving way: "You know I love spending time with you. But I haven't seen my boys in a while, and I was hoping to catch a movie with them this weekend. Do you mind if I go?"
It's not all about sex for her. Guys have a much different sexual drive than girls. For girls, it's not about the sex itself, but rather about the intimacy or closeness that she shares with you. If she thinks that all you want from her is sex, she's probably not going to give it to you. If she believes that she's all you want, then eventually she'll give all of herself to you.

3. Be confident. Girls love guys who are really confident in who they are. Remember, you don't have to be Brad Pitt or LeBron James to be confident. Being confident is all about knowing who you are, knowing what you like and dislike, and being calm and collected.
Pay attention to what you look like. Shower or bathe yourself regularly, and put on clean, nice-looking clothes. Girls don't need you to look like a male model, but they want other girls to take notice of what a catch you are, and how well you take care of yourself.
Learn to crack a joke. A joke is a great way of projecting your inner confidence. Studies show that men with a sense of humor are very desirable as mates.[1] So, practice jokes, learn which parts of you are funny, and don't be afraid to make fun of yourself. A man with a good sense of humor screams confidence.
Never lie. How would you feel if she started lying to you? Lying is a trust issue, and trust for girls is huge. Give her the same trust she gives you.
The problem with lying is that one lie produces more lies. You usually don't just tell one lie; you get caught in a web of lies. And then it's just simple math: The more lies you tell, the sooner you're going to get caught.
Be confident enough not to lie. If you stop being embarrassed about things, you won't have to lie about them. Even if they are embarrassing, don't let them get to you. Your confidence will grow by the second.

How to Make Your WIfe and Girlfriend Happy part 3 of 4 Going Beyond What's Expected

1. Be romantic. Every girl wants a guy with a sense of romance. Girls like to pretend (deep down inside, mostly; sometimes very literally) that they are stars of their own fairy tale, and they want to be treated like it. Show your girl that you care about her by putting a little effort into your romance.
Write her love notes. Notes don't have to be long, mushy and poetic if you're not the type. Quick and silly ones will do just fine. Try to make them cute (girls love things that are "cute," like a drawing) as a way to show her that you care. Write the notes on actual paper, too. Also, a card once in a while will do. Write in your words how you feel.
Don't email or text her this. Emails tell her you're lazy and not willing to put in extra time for her. Be a man, put some effort into it, and write her a good, old-fashioned letter.
Tell her that you're lucky that you found her. Tell her that she makes you want to treat yourself better. Tell her that from the moment you first saw her, you knew she was special. This is a great way to be romantic.

2. Be thoughtful. The small things matter the most. Be a gentleman. Hold doors open for her. Thinking of her means putting yourself in her shoes sometimes and wondering what you can give her or do for her.
Ask her if she's cold when it's cold out; have a jacket or a sweater handy so you can give it to her.
When she isn't feeling well, or she's sick, bring her some soup, hot tea or flowers. Hold her hand at the movies or when you're walking. Get her something just because.
Small things like a single flower, a magazine you know she likes, a bag of her favorite candy or a chocolate bar will go a long way. Show her that you're thinking about her.

3. Remember what she likes and dislikes. Being romantic is all about taking what you know about her and showing her how much these things mean to you.
How does she like her eggs cooked? What is her favorite flower? What about perfume? What does she enjoy doing when it comes to dates? What are her favorite books, and her favorite songs?
Remember what she likes to eat and cook it for her. Or remember what kinds of flowers make her feel womanly, and send them to her. Or remember what songs make her want to dance, laugh, and cry, and make a mix for her.

4. Remember important dates. This is a big deal with women. Birthdays, anniversaries and other milestones are all opportunities to show her how special she is to you. Keep an agenda or a calendar with all these dates.
When it's her birthday, bring her a present (chocolates, gift certificates, shoes all work great) and send her some flowers. Don't forget to write her a card, being funny and romantic about how she's getting older but that, to you, she'll always be as young as the day when you first saw her.
When it's your anniversary, book something special for you both to let her know how much you appreciate and love her. Make a scrapbook where you keep all the ticket stubs of the places you've gone together, and jot down your memories of the dates.
Send her a Facebook video message where you tell her how important she is to you, and how you'll never forget the first date you two went on.
Remember that women want to be spoiled on these occasions. Flowers at her door, dinner together in a nice place these things show that you care. Remember that it isn't about the money, but the thought behind the action that counts

How to Make Your Wife and Girlfriend Happy part 2 of 4 Treating Her Right

1. Treat her with dignity. Treating your girl with dignity means treating her the way that you would want to be treated. Don't swear at her, manipulate her, use her for your own benefit, or shoot down her ideas. Making her as happy as possible is a goal, so it's not going to happen overnight. But work toward it slowly, and try as hard as you can, even if you don't succeed.
Always stand up for her no matter what. Sticking up for her shows her that you are on her side, and that you're willing to take a public stand for her, which isn't easy.
At the same time, don't put yourself in an impossible situation. If she's having an argument with her parents right in front of you, you probably don't want to take a stand and risk upsetting her parents (who might control a lot about her life). Stay out of family matters as much as possible, but give her backup when she asks for it.
Don't argue in public and cause a scene. This will humiliate her and you; she'll think twice about going out with you again. Stay calm when you have a fight, try as much as possible not to let your emotions take over, and treat her the way that you want to be treated. Keep your voice down, don't yell at her, and expect to apologize, even if you didn't do anything wrong. An apology goes a long way. Also, call her even if she hangs up. Nothing tells a woman "I want this to work" than a simple phone call.

2. Share your everyday events and thoughts with your girl. Being open and communicative makes her feel like you want her in your life. Being intimate isn't just about getting to know her body; it's also about sharing the things that happen to you, and going through them together.
On the same note, listen to her advice, even if you don't agree. Force yourself to listen and to see her reasoning. Keep an open ear and an open mind. She'll reward you with all of her love.
Even if you don't have much to say, let her in on what you're thinking. If you're the strong, silent type, she may misinterpret your feelings for her. Let her know what you're thinking so that she doesn't get the wrong idea.

3. If she wants to pay for something, let her. Just make sure that the roles aren't reversed. She goes through a lot to look nice for you, and do sweet things for you, so try to pay for majority of things when you get the chance. This isn't about the money. It's about showing her that you care enough to treat her on occasion. It doesn't have to be all the time, and don't be flashy about it or act like it's a big deal. Letting her know your money is hers as well and vice versa says a lot to her. When she pays for occasional dates for you, it is her way of saying I care about your finances and want to care for you as well. Don't take those moves for granted, be appreciative.

How to Make Your Wife And Girlfriend Happy part 1 of 4 Make Her Feel Good

1. Show her affection. Girls want guys to show them affection because it tells her that you care about her, and that you're willing to show that love in a public way. It doesn't always have to be public (PDA), but get used to the idea, because she wants other people to see how much you love her, so don't be afraid to kiss her or hold her hand in public.
Tell her she's beautiful and always make eye contact. Eye contact shows you mean what you say. When you look away, it will make her question your authenticity, so make eye contact at all times. You have to show her that you mean what you said. If you're really sincere when you tell her how beautiful she is to you, you're going to go a long way.
Also, tell her that she drives you crazy, and that she's the prettiest girl you've ever laid eyes on. Tell her that you've never met anyone like her.
Compliment her on her looks, but also on her accomplishments, talents and abilities. If she's a great poker player, tell her she's smart. If she's a good listener, tell her she's great with other people.

2. Tell her you love her. Make sure you mean it. If you're not ready to go there yet, that's fine. But, be sure to switch that "I love you" for a really good "You know how special you are to me?" or a "I like you so much; I'm a really lucky guy."
Simple is best. Stick with "I love you," or "You make me so happy," or "I'm really lucky to have you." Don't be so poetic that you go overboard.
These statements make her feel good, and they make her self-confidence soar. Remember, when her self-confidence is high, you benefit. Be steady with your signs of love or affection, enough so that she doesn't forget how much you mean to her, but not so much that the power of the words gets watered down.

3. Touch her regularly and on the spur of the moment. Even the slightest touch can make a woman feel special. Make sure it's a respectful and gentle touch, and not one that's overly sexual or suggestive.
Hold her hand, give her a hug, rub her back, or gently touch her face. These gestures will all make her feel protected and loved!
There's a time and a place for foreplay, but you're not doing yourself any favors if you go there when she's not ready. Make sure she's totally comfortable before you start exploring your sexual relationship. Sex does not define a relationship. If you both agree to hold off, show her you adore her by pleasing her in other ways ie; deep passionate kisses on her mouth or small pecks all over her body. Women love knowing that their man adores their body and all of it.

4. Put her first, yourself second. Put her needs in front of yours. This does not meant that you are weak. It just means that, most of the time, you're willing to bend for her, even if it was not something you wanted to do.
If you believe she is "Ms. Right," then make her your number one priority! They say that love is selfless; you're going to have to prove it to her.
If you're with your friends, never ignore her and start talking with your friends or walk off with them as if she's not there. How would you feel if she did this to you? Invisible, right? Keep close to her or glance at her every so often just to let her know you know she's still there and offer a genuine smile.
Listen to her. One of the biggest complaints women have about men is that they don't listen. Even if you're not particularly interested in what she's saying, listen, then acknowledge that you were listening. Let her know that you are the one that she can talk to about anything.
Every woman loves a bit of alone-time with her partner. Book a whole day for the two of you to be alone. Watch a movie, massage her back, snuggle and be intimate. Put other thoughts out of your head and focus completely on her. You'll notice more of a connection when you do this, and that's what you want. Try to schedule a bit of alone-time with her at least every month or so.

How To Become A Better Person 3 of 3 Choosing The Right Path

1. Explore your talents. Everybody has a skill or interest that they excel in and genuinely enjoy. If you don't think you have a talent, you probably just haven't found it yet.
Be patient, but not lazy. You can't be good at everything, so don't give up just because you have failed once or twice. Instead, be proactive and try new things until you find something you love and are good at.
Enroll in a class you're interested in, or pick up a new instrument or sport. Choose things that sound appealing to you; this way you are more likely to stick with it.

2. Do what you love. No matter how much money you make, you will not be happy if you spend your entire life doing something you hate. While not all of us are lucky enough to make a career out of our favorite hobby, it's important to at least devote your weekends or evenings to doing what you enjoy.
If you are chronically unhappy with your job, take some time to seriously consider changing your career.
Devote your free time to your favorite hobby or sport. While it might be tempting to spend this time in front of the television or computer screen, it's important to do the things you love if you want to have a fulfilling life.

3. Practice self-control. Life must be a balance between work and play. If you constantly indulge in pleasures like partying or eating sweets, you will eventually become bored with life and nothing will satisfy you. Instead, indulge in these things periodically so that you will truly appreciate them.

4. Thank people who help you along the way. Not only is it courteous to thank others, it will help you become more appreciative and to learn see the capacity for good in other people.

How To Be A Better Person step 2 of 3 Exercising Compassion

1. Learn to love yourself. Before you can learn to love others, you will have to learn to love yourself. This isn't the sort of vain, self-absorbed love; it's the love that accepts you for the person you are, that delves deep to unearth the skills and values that truly make up who you are and embraces these. Even if you don't believe in the value of self-love, start telling yourself that you are a kind, compassionate person and most of all, that you're worthy. Coupled with virtuous and kind actions, this will help you to be more self-accepting and understanding.
Learn to stop criticizing yourself. Take time to appreciate your talents and best features, whether they are physical or internal. The more hostile you are toward yourself, the more hostile you are likely to be toward others.

2. Learn to control anger and jealousy. These emotions are a natural part of life, but if you constantly feel angry or jealous toward others, you are going to have a difficult time finding happiness.
Rather than constantly comparing yourself to people who you think are better off than you, take some time to acknowledge the fact that there are countless people in the world who are worse off than you. What's more, there are people out there who have less than you, but who are even more appreciative!
To let go of anger, forgive the people who have wronged you in the past. Holding anger and resentment toward someone else punishes you, not the other person. It's a fairly sobering thought to realize that you haven't moved on while they have. Give yourself the gift that frees your heart by forgiving.
It might help to talk to the person you are angry with, let them know what they did wrong, and tell them that you forgive them. If you would rather not talk to the person, then write everything down in a letter and keep it to yourself.
Remember that forgiveness is not absolution. The bad thing still happened; what you're doing is lifting the burden that weighs you down and lets you heal.

3. Practice empathy. This is about standing in the other person's shoes and realizing what place this person is coming from (pain, fear, loss, etc.). Remember that everybody has his or her own struggles and insecurities; understanding this will help you be more sensitive toward other peoples' feelings, learn to bond with others, and feel less isolated. And practicing empathy will help you to treat others as you would like to be treated.
This skill will come in handy when trying to improve your personal relationships with friends, family members, and lovers.

4. Show people that you care. Did you know that some people are actually too shy to be nice? Don't be afraid to tell somebody that you love them or care deeply for them.
Do this genuinely. Don't tell people what they want to hear just to make them happy, or to get something in return. Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to communicating with loved ones.

5. Be appreciative. Stop spending a lot of your time obsessing over the things you wish you had. Instead, count and appreciate the things you do have. You might be surprised if you actually focus on what is already good and helpful in your life. Chasing dreams can sometimes lose you the sight of what's already before you.
Try to look beyond material objects; consider the people and events in your life that have been most rewarding.
Practice gratitude. Those who do feel grateful tend to experience less stress, feel more optimistic and have more energy.

6. Give to others. Not everybody can afford to donate thousands of dollars to their favorite charity, but that doesn't mean you can't make small contributions to help those in need.
Volunteer. Instead of spending your weekends in front of the TV, volunteer at your local homeless shelter or SPCA.
Practice random acts of kindness every day. This could be as small an act as helping an elderly person carry groceries to their car, or giving somebody the right of way when driving. The more you do this, the more you will realize how gratifying it feels to help others, which will ultimately help you overcome selfishness.

How To Become A Better Person Step 1of 3 Getting Started

1. Become more self-aware. The first step toward becoming a better person is learning to notice your current behavior, whether it is how you react to stress, how you cope with loss, how you manage your anger, or how you treat the people you love. The only way to make an improvement in any of these departments is to first take note of your current behavior, then reflect on how it can be improved, and finally, make the necessary changes. Remember that the change cannot happen until you know what is wrong in the first place.

2. Set goals for yourself. If it helps, write them down on a piece of paper, or better yet, start a journal. This will open up your introspective side, and allow you to better understand yourself from an objective standpoint.
Here are some questions to get you started: Is there a particular relationship with a loved one that you would like to improve? Would you like to become more philanthropic? Do you want to do more for the environment? Do you want to learn how to be a better spouse or partner?

3. Find a role model. Role models are a great source of inspiration, and their stories can make us feel strong when times get tough.
Your role model might be your favorite singer, artist, politician, television personality, philosopher, religious figure, and so on. Your role model may be from thousands of years ago, or someone in the present.
Once you have found a role model, read one of his or her books or biographies. Learning about this person's educational background, family life, and personal struggles will prepare you for the road ahead.
Choose somebody whose story you can relate to, like a rags-to-riches entrepreneur, a great author or a person who sailed around the world solo. Find experiences others have had that resonate with your hopes and dreams.

How to Keep Your Man Happy Method 3 of 3 Doing Nice Things For Him

1. Give him a massage. Men love to be pampered from time to time, so pick an evening to treat your husband or boyfriend to a relaxing massage.
Choose a day when your man is feeling particularly tired or stressed out and get yourself set up with massage oil, candles, music -- anything that makes the experience more relaxing.
Ask him to undress and lie face down on the bed, then work your magic. Gently knead his back, neck and shoulders, avoiding the spine. If you're feeling adventurous, you can attempt a full-body massage.
Be generous with your time -- try to keep it up for at least 15 to 20 minutes until your man has completely relaxed. Be warned though -- all that skin-on-skin contact may leave your man feeling more turned-on than relaxed!

2. Cook his favorite meal. Whoever said that the way to a man's heart was through his stomach never spoke a truer word. Men love food, especially when it's lovingly prepared by their other half.
Pick a recipe (or steal one from his mother) and prepare it some evening when he's least expecting it. Make it an occasion -- set the table nicely, open a good bottle of wine and pretend you're eating out at a restaurant!
By the way, we're not advocating 50s housewife behavior here: "you must have a hot meal on the table when your man arrives home from work." We're talking about cooking a nice meal for you man because you want to and because it's a nice thing to do.
If you're a terrible cook, improvise! Order his favorite take-out but serve it on nice dishes or take him out to his favorite restaurant for dinner, your treat!

3. Do something spontaneous. If you're in a long-term relationship, it's easy to let routine take over and stay in watching TV every Saturday night. Keep your man happy by doing something spontaneous or different instead!
Inject some fun into your man's life by planning date nights -- get concert tickets, go rock climbing, organize a wine tasting, go to an art exhibition, host a games night with some other couples -- anything as long as it's different.
If you're feeling adventurous, plan something really crazy like a joint skydive, a whale-watching trip or a vacation or road trip. Take care of as many of the details beforehand as possible, so your man doesn't have to stress on the day.

4. Make an effort with your appearance. Again, we're not advocating a 50s housewife approach here, but taking some pride in your appearance and looking good for your man is definitely a good thing. You want him to feel proud that you are his wife or girlfriend!
We all have days when we want to laze around in our pajamas, with no make-up on and hair scraped back, but every so often it's nice to get dressed up for no other reason than wanting to look good for your man. He'll appreciate the effort!
You should also make an effort to do the things you used to do when you first met -- whether that means shaving your legs, getting your hair styled once a month, or keeping your weight in check. Try to be the girl he fell in love with!

5. Take the lead in bed. No discussion of how to keep a man happy would be complete without some reference to sex! Although this may vary a little, most men love it when their lady takes charge in the bedroom.
This means something different in every relationship, whether it's simply initiating sex (especially if you don't normally) or tying your man down, dominatrix style.
Give him a freebie every once in a while -- in other words, a sexual favor where you expect nothing in return. He'd prefer that to an actual gift any day of the week!
Remember that being intimate (whatever that means for you) is an important part of any healthy, happy relationship -- it brings the two of you closer together and allows you to express your love for one another in a deeply personal way.

How to Keep Your Man Happy Method 2of 3 Making Him Feel Secure

1. Be honest with him. When it comes to relationships, we all know that honesty is the best policy. Lies always come back to bite us in the end.
Being honest with your man about where you're going, who you're meeting, how you're feeling, etc. is important. How can you expect honesty from him if you don't afford him the same courtesy?
Even if he doesn't necessarily like the truth, the fact that you are being honest with him will let him know that he can trust you -- and trust is essential in any relationship.

2. Compliment him. Men love to be complimented just as much as women, so don't be stingy with your praise!
When you're impressed with something your guy has said or done, tell him so! Don't just assume he knows.
Tell him he looks good in a suit, that you're impressed with the project he's working on or that you're amazed at what he can do in the bedroom! A genuine compliment from you and he'll be walking on cloud nine!
Bonus points if you compliment him in front of his friends or family men like to be praised in front of other people, it boosts their ego.

3. Don't try to make him jealous. Many women make the mistake of trying to make their man feel jealous when they're angry or upset with them.
However, this often backfires by making your husband or boyfriend feel angry, hurt or betrayed and this can damage his trust in you, harming the relationship.
Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot if you had done something wrong, would you want him to hear you out and give you another chance? Or would you prefer him to flirt with another women to get back at you? That's what we thought.

4. Be his support system. Everybody has their low points, your man included. So don't kick him while he's down by criticizing or saying "I told you so". Be his support system and take this as an opportunity to boost him back up.
If he has a bad day at work, has an argument with a family member or is generally just feeling a bit down, try to be nice to him. Ask him if he wants to talk about it or allow him to brew silently for a while, if that's what he needs.
Remind him of all the reasons why you think he's great and why you chose him out of all the other fish in the sea. Make him feel good about himself again and he'll feel happy and grateful towards you.

5. Respect him. Your man needs you to respect him, the same way you need him to respect you. Don't belittle him or put him down all the time that's no way to treat the most important person in your life!
The last thing your guy wants is to feel emasculated, so allow him to feel like a man from time to time ask him to open a jar, to build some furniture or to drive your car.
Let him know that you depend on him it will boost his ego and make him feel good about himself.
This doesn't make you any less of a strong women, it's just part of being in an equal, reciprocal relationship.

How to Keep Your Man Happy Method 1of 3 Working On Your Relationship

There's a lot of advice, good and bad, about keeping a man happy in a relationship. The main thing is to respect your boyfriend or husband and treat him as you would like to be treated. You don't need to follow each step of this article word for word -- it's intended as a guide. You can pick and choose what works for your relationship

1. Give him space when he needs it. Even if your man is head-over-heels crazy for you, he needs a little alone time every now and then, so don't try to force your presence on him 24 hours a day. Make some plans without him and tell him he's free to go play video games, have a beer with his friends or go for a solo run whatever he feels like.
This also gives you a chance to pursue your own interests and maintain a fulfilling life outside of your relationship.
Once you accept that you both need some personal space every now and then, you will be much happier as a couple and will enjoy and appreciate the time you do spend together a lot more as a result.

2. Talk through any issues. Instead of bottling up any issues or problems you have with your relationship (and letting them all explode in a whirlwind of emotion later), sit your man down and have a calm, reasoned discussion with him.
He'll appreciate this much more than a potential screaming match down the road and will be much more inclined to listen to you and take on board what you're saying, rather than going on the defensive.
You should also give him the chance to voice any issues he may be having. Really try listen to what he has to say and don't dismiss his concerns. Your man will be much happier in the relationship if he feels like his feelings and opinions are valued.

3. Show a little love and appreciation. Most modern-day husbands and boyfriends are pretty amazing they do things like buy you flowers, cook you dinner and massage your feet after a long day at work. So reciprocate, ladies!
Don't take all of the small, wonderful things your man does for you for granted, or as a given. Let him know how much you appreciate him and that you know how hard he tries.
When he does something nice for you, be affectionate. Give him a kiss or a hug or just tell him you love him. Knowing how happy he's made you will make him happy!

4. Remember that a relationship is a two way street. Of course, making your husband or boyfriend happy is pointless if you are not happy.
A relationship works both ways, so if you're putting in all of the effort and getting nothing in return, you have to ask yourself "is it worth it?"
Even if your relationship is going fine, there may be something else bothering you and making you unhappy. You need to fix this otherwise, your man will sense your unhappiness and start to feel unhappy himself, especially if is nothing he can do about it.