Funny But True: 20 Commandments Ladies Should Read

1. Thou shall not date any guy out of sympathy.
It is not worth it. It will never worth the pain.
Ladies beware!
2. Thou shall not do revenge relationship a.k.a let
me show my boyfriend I can flirt too. Ladies, that
is inflicting more injuries on yourself
3. Thou shall not depend on any man for your
daily needs. It has brought more pains than joy
to some ladies. Ladies, please!
4. Thou shall never fight over a man. Such men
usually don’t have regard for ladies. Ladies, you
can ask around if you are in doubt!
5. Thou shall not remain in a violent relationship.
You are supposed to be his sweetheart not a
punching bag. If he’s looking for whom to punch,
refer him to Mike Tyson. Ladies, abi?
6. Thou shall not give IT to him. If he wants IT
that desperately, he should put a ring on it. Funny
enough, men can wait if they see your worth it.
True!
7. Be bold when men toast you. Stop cutting
flowers or drawing circles with your leg. Enjoy the
‘toasting’. Don’t forget to pay attention to the
pick up lines. Some pick up lines can crack your
ribs.
8. If you are not sure of your man especially if the
relationship is still new, never take your girlfriend
to his house or give her his number or BB pin.
Odikwa very risky!
9. As soon as you can, let your man show his
face to your people. Your sister or brother or
mother. This is very key.
10. Material possessions are good but never let
them be the number one factor in choosing a
man.
11. Do not forget the golden rule. Always sit like a
woman. Some men act like babies when a woman
is not properly seated. You know what I mean!
12. Never think you can trap a man with good
sex. Fou fou fou… foul! It is an aberration.
13. Be good to men but be firm. Yes firm but
don’t scare them away.
14. Men are not in short supply. Don’t let them
deceive you. Don’t believe anything in the
contrary. Don’t be stampeded into a relationship.
15. If your purpose for financing a man is to keep
him, that could be a big mistake. Finance for the
right reasons.
16. Men are not the same. Don’t listen to “men
are the same !” It’s a lie! How many men
have you met out of about six billion people on
earth?
17. Adventures can be sweet. However, never
embark on a long trip to meet a man without
informing someone. Never!
18. Guys have a way of saying “don’t let anybody
know about us yet.” If the relationship is up to
three months and counting, somebody should
know about it. Better things, they don't hide it
19. They say good girls love bad boys. And as a
good girl, you are looking for a bad boy to love?
OYO for you! Let bad girls love bad boys and
good girls love good boys. Nobody should use
your head to catch a bullet.
20. Enjoy being single. It does not last forever

How To Have A Healthy Relationship Step 2 Things You Must Do Together

1. Revive date-night. Going on dates, even if you've been in a relationship for years, is still important. In fact, it's especially important for couples who have been together long enough to grow comfortable. Try to go on a date at least once every month. Some couples make it a priority to go on one date every week.
If you're having trouble imagining date ideas, try recreating a date you had with your partner early on in your courtship. Do exactly the same thing(s), or put a spin on the date by reinventing it in a significant way.
Do something new and exciting. Doing something that gets your blood flowing and your heart rate up enhances feelings of togetherness between partners. If you're feeling brave, go on dates that makes you feel like a kid all over again: going to a comedy club, taking a cooking class, or test-driving a new car, to name only a few.

2. Practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is a decision of letting go of the past and focusing on the present. It's about taking control of your current situation, as you must offer it to your partner as much as you demand it from them.
Remember who forgiveness really benefits. Forgiving your partner absolves him or her, but it also frees you from carrying around anger and resentment. Don't view it as an entirely altruistic act it's something you're doing for both of you.

3. Laugh together. Laugh at one another with the security of love. Laughter helps the world go 'round, and it may with your relationship, too. Laughter helps your body burn calories, increase blood flow, strengthen the immune system, and lowers blood sugar levels. Laughter can be comforting, infectious, or an aphrodisiac, and many things in between. Don't forget to laugh.

4. Support each other. Being supportive means making your partner's happiness and well-being a priority, in ways big and small. Keep in mind that part of why you're together in the first place is that you're each other's biggest fans, so make sure you act like it. Try demonstrating your support in these ways:
Be a good listener. If your partner needs you to lend an ear, do it willingly. You don't always need to come up with a solution, just support.
Offer encouragement. If your partner is trying to make a positive change, start a new hobby, or undertake a difficult challenge, be his or her biggest cheerleader.
Provide a safe place. Allow your partner to be vulnerable in front of you without fear of judgment.

5. Devote time to each other. Make spending time with your partner a priority, even if it's a little inconvenient at first. Relationships need shared experiences to grow, and you're demonstrating that nurturing yours is important to you.
Take up a hobby. Learning something new together can help you grow closer, as well as discovering a leisure activity you both enjoy. Try sports like tennis or basketball, learning a new language, cooking, crafting, or whatever else you've been wanting to try.
Find small ways to serve each other. Doing small acts of service for your partner shows that you're aware of what he or she needs, and you're willing to help out. It doesn't have to be an extravagant gesture: make dinner, take care of a small errand, or offer a foot rub at the end of the day. Don't make it a big deal, and don't automatically expect payback.

6. Develop better communication. Most people aren't born great communicators it's something nearly everyone has to work at. The way you talk to your partner might seem small, but you do it several times a day and it does have an effect. Consider these fixes:
Don't use directive language. Try to keep phrases like "you should" or "you can't" out of your relationship. You and your partner are equals, and neither one of you should have the authority to direct the other.
Relay your expectations. If you expect your partner to do something, say it. Don't expect that he or she should read your mind, and don't rely on hints. Being clear about what you want gives your partner a fair shot at succeeding. (And keep the above point in mind: instead of "You should take the garbage out every day," say "I'd really like it if you took the garbage out every day.")
Say "please" and "thank you." You should be able to let loose around your partner, so there's no need to worry about having impeccable manners all the time. The exception to this is asking nicely and expressing gratitude when your partner does something don't just assume he or she knows how you meant it.
Fight fair. Don't just let all these good communication skills go out the window during an argument. Try to get your point across in a loving, respectful way that doesn't seek to hurt your partner. If he or she insists on yelling or throwing insults, quietly request a calmer attitude.

Mike Bamiloye Explains How He Met His Wife & What Single Ladies Must Learn

Evangelist and founder of Mount Zion Faith Drama Ministry, Mike Bamiloye has decided to encourage single ladies to learn from his marriage and never make money their priority when choosing a man. As a matter of fact, his marriage is a testimony and if not for his wife, he probably wouldn’t have been where he is today or his very popular drama ministry.
He spoke about how they met, how his wife’s family kicked against their relationship and how his own elder sister led the war to his wife to be’s house to tell her family not to let their daughter marry her brother because he has no JOB. It’s quite an interesting read, lol… Read ladies...

(Tribute to My Wife – Sister Gloria Bamiloye)
Proverbs 31:10-12, 23, 28, 30 NKJV
[10] Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
[11] The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.
[12] She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
[23] Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.
[28] Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:
[30] Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
February 4th, 2015, was my wife’s 51st Birthday. And this year would be the 27years, since 1988 the year we got married, when she was only 24 years old and I was 28. Since then, we have travelled through the thicks and the thins together, we have climbed the mountains and descended into the valleys together. We have faced adverse physical and spiritual situations together. We have both confronted together, daunting challenges that have stood and those that are still standing against our lives and ministry.
She was 51 and she got phone calls and congratulatory text messages on phone and on Facebook page through out yesterday till late in the night. Our two sons brought her gift – two digitally painted pictures of her early years on film set. And I also bought her a small teddy bear. The several phone calls and congratulatory messages of the birthday made us feel a large crowd of well-wishers had attended our birthday party. Thank you all.
But what is special about this great woman is when I remember how we started and how we have been journeying this journey since then. And when I recall some of the things that happen today among our single and marriagable sisters, I cannot but give praises to the Lord God who brought this simple and humble sister my way several years ago.
I have written this story in some of my write-ups and in one of my books, however, there is need to recall some of it for the benefit of some of our single sisters who might need to learn from it. I graduated from higher institution in 1983 and served in 1983/84. Right from the Campus days, I had been involved in drama ministry, all through my Youth Service, I was sending drama scripts back into the fellowship for drama presentations and I would travel down from Plateau State to direct the rehearsals and participate in the major drama presentation on Drama Night. After my Youth Service in 1984, I was involved fully in campus drama evangelism with the fellowship drama group, travelling to other campuses and churches outside the campus for drama presentation. And Sister Gloria was among the new members that joined the drama group.
In 1985, sometimes in early July, I proposed to her to marry me and she told me she would pray over it. On August 4th, 1985, she revisited my proposal and said “Yes” to it. So, our journey began. Now, the real issue was that, I had nothing. I had nothing physical or material that any lady could be proud of. I had only one single room, with one bed, one table and chair, a standing hanger where I hanged my few fading shirts and only one suit which I used to iron from time to time and red tie from special occassion.
Inside the single room was my cooking stove and a dilapidated standing fan, which had lost its foot and the head was tied facing the bed. And of course, a precious item – my bookshelf serving as a small library.
So, when Sister Gloria visited my abode for the first time, these were all I had and she saw. My physical and material possessions could never be compared to what I was on the campus. “Bro Mike” was famous among the fellowship as a “gym-gym” brother full of zeal for drama and drama only.
And the drama group of the fellowship became the most influential of all the sub-groups of the fellowship, because almost all the executive officers became members of the sub-group, including the President and the Vice-President and the General Secretary of the Christian Fellowship. So I was so rich in spiritual substance and full of great visons, but had no enviable physical or material possessions any young lady could be proud of.But, when Sis Gloria entered my room, one afternoon, she never saw all those things I mentioned but only one thing arrested her attention: my bookshelf containing several spiritual books, including the books of Kenneth Hagins, Oral Roberts, T.L. Osborne, Osward J. Smith, etc. She hasten to the shelf and shouted “Whao!”, and she sat by the bookshelf and began to look at those precious books she had longed to have and read. Ah!.
I was happy I had what she wanted and desired. She wanted spiritual books that would make her grow. And I had just that! All other things never mattered to her.I had nothing physical, but I had a great vision of the future and she embraced that vision with all her heart and might. When her senior brothers and her parents were demanding from her to know the work that her fiancee was doing that could qualify him to marry her, she stood on my behalf to defend me before her people that I was into drama ministry and there was a great future ahead of us.
The people could not see what she was talking about, because I was already on full-time drama ministry and I had no physical enviable thing they all could hold on to. They were furious with her and thought she must be out of her mind to have decided to marry “a man who has no job and no physical possession and no appreciable future”.
When we informed them we wanted to get married three years down our courtship, they revolted and my Mummy ( my elder sister), led the war to Sis Gloria’s parents to warn them never to give their daughter to me in marriage because I had no job to take care of their daughter. She stood by what God had told her about me, that there was a great future ahead of us. The Lord convinced them all and they supported us and we married in 1988, three years after the Mount Zion ministry launched. And our journey to that future began.

How to Have A Healthy Relationship Step 1 Things You Do Independently

Sometimes relationships can seem like a lot of work until you sit back and realize just how much you've been given. A thriving, healthy relationship requires some give and take, and is absolutely within your reach if you and your partner are willing to do a bit of work. If you and your partner are right for each other, all the work will definitely be worth it in the long run

1. Take responsibility for your own happiness. Save yourself several hours of arguing by remembering this one rule: it's not up to anyone else to make you happy. In a relationship your partner will try to please you and make you happy but in the end you are responsible for your happiness.

2. Make good on your words. Follow through on your promises. When you say you're going to do something, do it. Don't say that you'll cook dinner, or get a birthday present, and then blow it off or simply forget about it. What this does is systematically destroy trust. And relationships need trust in order to thrive.

3. Admit your mistakes. If you know you've done something to hurt your partner, intentionally or not, own up to it. Humble yourself and apologize sincerely, without making excuses or justifications like "I'm sorry you made me angry."
Commit to changing your behavior. If you notice yourself apologizing for the same mistake over and over, step it up a level. Tell your partner that you recognize this mistake keeps happening, and you want to train yourself to stop. Request help and ask for him or her to gently point it out to you when you're making this mistake again.

4. Be realistic. Every relationship has disagreements and days when staying isn't the easiest choice. But what makes a relationship healthy is choosing to resolve those problems and push through the hard days, instead of just letting issues and resentment fester.
Review your expectations. Do you see your partner as a person, with both winning qualities and flaws, or as someone you expect to be perfect? If your expectations are so astronomical that no one could live up to them 100% of the time, you're setting up your relationship for failure.
Accept that conflict happens. If you expect to be in a long-term relationship, you're bound to have the occasional disagreement. Remember that one argument isn't the end of everything, and there's no person on earth that you'd agree with all the time.
Always ask yourself whether you're better off in the relationship than out of it. If you don't think you're better off in the relationship, then you probably should have a serious discussion with your partner. In a loving relationship, this question almost always gets a simple "Yes."

5. Listen to your partner. Sometimes, all your partner wants is for you to lend an ear and be sympathetic about one of their problems. Other times, your partner wants you to actively give them advice. Know which one your partner is looking for, and try to give them what they want. Being a good listener is all about paying attention to what they're saying and not blowing it off.
Listening to your partner will enhance your relationship in many ways. It will help you resolve differences without arguing; let you explore each other's personality more deeply; and even help you pick out an awesome Christmas present. There are no downsides to listening.

6. Show your affection in whatever way you can. There's a difference between knowing that you're loved and feeling that you're loved. Sometimes, we bank on the fact that our partners should know that we love them even when we don't show it. Don't rely on this too much. The best relationships use affection to show love.
Do something for your partner that you know s/he will truly appreciate. Whether it means getting up early to mow the lawn, taking the kids to karate, or baking that nutella shortcake, it's often the little favors that say the most.
Don't be afraid to show physical affection every once in a while. Loving relationships feed off of the little kisses, hugs, and back-rubs that are mainstays of affection.
Do the unexpected. It's one thing to kiss your partner after you come home from work; it's another thing to kiss your wife while you're skydiving, falling 10,000 feet (3,048.0 m) from a plane. It's the thought that counts, so put a little effort into it for huge returns.

7. Be loyal. Make sure he/she knows that you will always be there for him/her. Put him/her first in your life as much as you possibly can. Not that you have to only see him/her ever, or never talk to anyone else, but he/she should know that he/she can always count on you if he/she needs something. Also, expect the same loyalty from him/her. You deserve to feel prized in the relationship just as much as him/her.

8. Do not ever hide anything from him/her. Especially your feelings about him/her and your relationship - whether good or bad! This way you will be able to overcome all the difficulties and challenges together. If something bad happened in your past that still affects you in the present, he/she needs to know about it. Note: you should be able to discuss your sexual history. It is an obligation before you decide to be sexually involved with your partner. But you should make them feel safe and not judgmental and you should expect the same from your partner.

9. Give him/her some space. Everyone needs their own privacy and some freedom, so don't constantly watch everything he/she does. Everyone hates to be watched, stifled and controlled.
Do not ever spy on him/her (reading his/her phone, stalking him/her on social networks, following him/her around). If he/she is cheating on you, you will find out. These things cannot be kept secret for very long. But if you spy on him/her and he/she is innocent, you will lose his trust and respect forever.

10. Express your feelings towards him/her. Always remind him/her of how much they mean to you, and what they represent to you. Women are not the only ones who need expressions of love and care, men need that too.
If you have a problem, you need to let him/her know - preferably in a clear and calm manner without any yelling. If he says `Are you OK?` and you answer yes, do not expect him to understand that you really meant no. Be honest and open.
Let him/her know it is safe to open up to you about what he is feeling. Reward his/her trust in you by sympathizing with him/her and, but you don`t need to say much, just listen.
Don't be afraid to lose him/her or spend every minute fearing the huge pain that that might cause you. Enjoy each wonderful moment as it happens, and realize that there will never be another one just like it.
Never be pathetic and needy just to make him/her pay attention to you and give you sympathy.
A solid relationship should be based on mutual respect; if you are constantly trying to pull him/her down with you, this means you don`t respect him /her enough to want him/her to be happy. If you are depressed, see a doctor - don`t pull some guy/girl into your problems.

11. Encourage him/her. So that he/she can be more successful at work or study. That will make him/her realise how much you care about his/her future and wish that he/she'd become one of the best. It will also make his/her feeling towards you grow even stronger, and he/she will believe that you're ready to support him/her on anything he/she does.

12. Always make sure to notice your partner and compliment them. It will make them feel appreciated.Has your partner got a new dress or has changed their hairstyle? Tell them your suggestions about it. It will make their day.

13. Sweet talking. A simple 'Good morning Beautiful/Handsome' would be an amazing start to your partner's day. Send texts like "I miss you babe" when you miss them. They would definitely feel more loved.

5 Reasons Why Men Quit You

Being alone is no fun. Even if you are all for loving oneself before anything, yet, at some point in life you are bound to feel the need for human companionship. And there is nothing wrong with it, of course. There are so many among us who are on a perennial need and hunt for love – trying to find it everywhere they go,  anyone they meet. If all of the Adele songs seem like they speak your mind, then here’s a piece of advice for you. Before trying to embark on a journey of forever love, do some soul searching as to why love eludes you. Most importantly, try to figure out the reason/s why men quit you.

I am not implying that you are unlovable, I am just saying that there might be some underlying problem, some unsolved issues that might be hindering your love life and making the guy in your life run the other way. Read on to know how you can ensure that the guy stays, and stays for a long time…maybe forever.

So here are a few reasons why men might be quitting you.

1. Clingy .
Men do not believe in rushing to commitment. They need their time, space and reasons. That’s why when a guy makes the commitment, know that it is for keeps. If you act all clingy and keep hinting that it is commitment you are looking for, and you want it soon – then all you are doing is sending out a message that you are emotionally unstable. Of course that’s enough to send any guy packing his bags. Men not only love, but even immensely respect girls who are emotionally stable and confident. So if you don’t want Men quitting you, make sure that you exude confidence.

2. Being preoccupied.
So you are a independent, hard working, workaholic woman. All power to you girl. However, it is important to give your man your time and attention too. Don’t be so preoccupied that your man feels taken for granted and neglected. The key is to find a work and personal life balance.

3. Your life is already full.
Weekdays are for your office colleagues. Weekends is brunch, shopping, movies and outing with your girl friends. Feativals and celebrations is with cousins and family. Anything amiss here? When do you plan to give time to your man? If your life is already so full, your man is bound to feel left out. Take hold before it’s too late and take a romantic break assay from all the hustle bustle.

4. You have a phobia. Commitment phobia.
If the very mention of the c-word send you feeling, then we have a serious problem, girl. While guys don’t rush to commitment, it surely is on their mind. If your overall demeanor shouts out loud that you are not looking for commitment ever, any guy would think twice before getting in a relationship with you. Guy or girl, commitment can be intimidating. I know. But it’s nothing to be so scared of. Consider the piaitives – you will have someone to spend your life with, a compa ion for all your hapoiness and sorrows. Go slow, but make sure you reach there.

5. You are too easy.
You know what’s better than being in a relationship. It is the chase, the romance of initiating a relationship. Trying to impress the person, dressing and trying the witty one liners. It is all so exciting. For your part, playing hard to get, giving in just a bit. That’s what makes the relationship so exciting. If you are way too easy. if you say yes to going out with anyone who offers so, if you don’t play a little hard to get – you are ruining it for yourself. Guys start judging girls who are way too easy. So girls, set a standard and set it high. it will do you a world of good.

So girl, don’t lose heart . Possibly, the guys have been quitting you because the right way hasn’t reached you yet. Calm down, breathe and do your best

How to Make Your Relationship Work. 8 Steps To Follow

Are you having trouble with your sweetie, or just wanting to spice up your healthy relationship? Relationships require time and effort, whether your love is on the rocks or you're on cloud nine. If you're willing to put in the work, these easy tips can help you take your love to a new level.

1. Figure out if your relationship is worth saving. The sad truth is that many relationships have passed their expiration date--if you try to save them, you'll just end up getting hurt. There is no easy trick to answering this question; you'll know in your heart if you're with "the one" or just "the one I've been dating for five years so I might as well stick with it." Here are some red flags to let you know that your relationship may be approaching a dead end:
• If one or both of you have a history of being unfaithful to each other, then the damage you have done may be beyond repair.

• If you find yourself constantly attracted to other people, or even fantasizing about dating another person, then you may have lost that feeling for your current love interest.

• If you suspect your loved one just doesn't make you want to be a better person. If nothing about the relationship makes you want to grow, then you may have become too complacent for that spark to stay lit.

• If you're in the relationship because you're afraid to be alone or because you don't think you can do much better. This is a sign that you feel more anxiety than love.

• If you refuse to ever leave your significant other because "it would hurt him/her too much." The longer you wait to call it off, the more hurt your loved one will be, and if you know it just doesn't feel right, then you're not doing your significant other any favors by sticking around.

• If you are afraid to introduce your significant other to new friends or family members because you're worried they won't get along. Do you really want to date someone you can't show off to your friends and family? It's one thing if your significant other is just shy, but if he or she can't get along with anyone else in your life, it can be a deal-breaker.


2. Look through the windshield, not the rearview mirror. In order to move forward in your relationship, you have to absolutely stop obsessing over your loved one's past--as well as your own. If you're too hung up on whether or not he's still gaga over his ex from high school, or if your old ex is dating someone new, then you'll never be able to strengthen your bond.
Avoid asking too many questions about your loved one's past relationships, and definitely avoid snooping through his things or looking online for hints about his past. Not only will this make you worried for no reason, but if he finds out, it won't speak well of your confidence for the new relationship.

• As for your own exes, you don't have to cut off contact with them unless it's necessary, but do try to minimize contact, especially when you're starting a new relationship.


3. Share your passions. It's important to have common interests other than your love for each other. At first, passion may be enough to keep your love going, but once your relationship matures, it's important to share common interests or activities so that your relationship stays fresh.
You should work on sharing hobbies, whether you bake desserts every Sunday, or find a TV show that no one likes but you two.

• Have a couple culture project. You can decide to watch at least one movie together a week, or have your own mini-book club. That way, you can motivate yourself to learn new things and have something to talk about.

• Make time for fun for fun's sake. Not everything you do as a couple has to make you more interesting or talented. There's nothing wrong with sharing a pitcher of beer and hitting up a local pool table once in a while.


4. Share your passions--but not all of them. Though it's important to have shared interests with your loved one, it is just as important to have your own interests.
Do you love yoga while he likes swimming at the local pool? Do you like getting together with your girlfriends to dance to 80s music, while he likes meeting his bro-friends at the local bar to watch football? Great! It's important to maintain your own identity while building an identity as a couple.

• And it's just as important to spend the night with your sweetie hanging out with friends as it is to have some alone time regularly. Both of you absolutely need it in order to maintain your own interests, as well as to realize how grateful you are when that loved one is around.


5. Learn to compromise. It's important to stand up for what you believe in--but only to a point. If you're sick of sushi but your girlfriend has been dying to try the new Japanese place on date night, give in but ask if you can pick the movie.
But always remember that it's important that both people are willing to make a sacrifice. If you find yourself always giving in to your loved one's needs, big or small, it's time to have a talk.


6. Follow your own pace. The biggest mistake you can make is putting your foot on the gas to catch up with all the speeding cars--you'll end up crashing and burning.
Just because your impulsive best friend has shacked up with her boyfriend of three weeks doesn't mean that you and your boyfriend have to go apartment hunting ASAP.

• Even if all of your friends and their pet fish are getting married, it does not mean that you are ready to take the plunge.


7. Communication is key. If something is bothering you, it's important to let your loved one know so you can tackle the problem together.
• Pick the right place and time to have a talk. Even if there's something really important that you want to say to your sweetie that feels like it can't wait, you won't be able to have the conversation you want to have if you try to talk at a loud concert, or the minute after your significant other got some bad news at work. Make sure you are both sitting down and looking at each other to have the conversation to avoid distractions.

• Use the right tone to get heard. If you begin the conversation in an aggressive manner, your significant other is likely to get defensive. Be as calm and rational as possible, even if you're feeling angry. This will let your significant other actually hear what you have to say.

• Don't be too confrontational. Try saying, "There's something I've been meaning to talk to you about," instead of, "We have to have a talk--now!" This will still show that what you have to say is important, but will cut down on the drama.

• Don't let the small things build up. If you want to avoid having big serious talks all the time, remember that if something small ticks you off, you can tell your significant other without making a big deal about it. That way, you can avoid being passive aggressive or having the tension build up, and can move forward while understanding each other's needs.

• However, it's also important to know when to lay off--if you're bothered because your boyfriend accidentally put your milk away in the cabinet, there's no need to nag him, especially if he's had a rough day.


8. Even if your love is rock solid, your loved one should not be taken for granted. Remind yourself how lucky you are to have found your soul mate, but that it'll take hard work to make the relationship thrive.
No matter how busy your days are, try to find the time to have a conversation when you're both away from your computers, phones, and televisions. It's important to make time for each other even if everything is going well.

• Do something completely new together as often as you can, whether its taking a dance class or making your own gnocchi, to avoid getting into a rut.

• Compliment your significant other at least once a day. For bonus points, find something new to say every time!

7 Ways To Heal A Broken Heart

It pains a lot when someone breaks our heart and that pain is simply incomparable. The impact is more if the person who breaks is someone very close. The mind seems to shut itself down and we think that we are nothing more than a burden on earth. The whole world seems to be very dull and gloomy. It is very tough to get out of the situation but to progress in life we need to shed all the emotions attached to it.

The following seven ways would definitely help to get the broken heart healed. Do read and take to heart.

1. Try to forget it just like a broken dream:
 Don’t ever try to remember what has happened. Just make your heart understand that whatever has happened was simply a very bad dream and now that it is over just get out of it and understand the other glorious aspects of life. To think about the same thing again and again is simply an act of foolishness. We cannot change whatever has happened but at least we can be strong enough to embrace the present and future with broken arms. We must always remember one very simple rule of life and that is that no one can make you cry until you give them the permission to do so. So do responsible for your happiness and simply forget about the things that makes you sad.

2. Start meditation:
This is really very useful to get rid of any type of problems of life. You don’t require investing a lot of time for this purpose. You need to spend only a few minutes, maybe five or ten minutes would be sufficient enough to make things work. It would also be better if you could join yoga classes. These would not only make your mind relaxed but will also help your body to be free from any types of illness.

3. Rediscover yourself:
The important question is that do we know ourselves yet? The answer would simply be a big no. so why wasting time in thinking and judging about who did what? Spend more time to know yourself. Point out the strengths and weaknesses that is inside you and try to work upon them. Do aim to be a good human being. Don’t waste the precious moments of life thinking about something useless. Train your mind to think positive and develop the art of bringing good thoughts to mind.

4. Try to spend more time in social activities:
 You were so busy thinking about the pain of you broken heart that you missed out most of the real problems that are going on around you. Try to identify them and invest your time in some social work. Instead of sitting in one corner of the room and mourning do educate a few poor students. Try to focus more on their problems and do something noble. Get yourself connected to the worries that they are engulfed with. Do dedicate yourself complete to such type of works.

5. Enjoy life:
 Always keep in mind that life is beautiful and so try to enjoy each and every moment of it. Sing, dance, paint, draw, go for trekking, learn to cook food and feed the poor for free. Life gives us endless reasons to enjoy, do utilize them to the fullest. Enjoy to such extent that you soon realize that there is no room for any useless thoughts in your mind.

6. Try focusing on body development:
Have you ever looked at yourself closely at the mirror? You were so busy with your broken hurt that you forgot the there is handsome face hiding under that thick layer of beard. Get rid of it, and get back the real you, the person who was once loved by all. Join a gym and train your body. Do take good care of your body. With a good body and a rejuvenated mind you will see that the entire world looks so beautiful. Go ahead, jog around the streets in the morning, do pushups, breathe the fresh air and get drowned in it.

7. Know the world around you:
Have you ever spent some time knowing the world around you? Do you know that apart from the person who broke your heart there are so many other persons associated with your life those who really cares about you and is very concerned about your happiness? Do find time for them. Play with the kids who come to your garden daily. Ask the old man whom you find sitting alone in the park and smiling, about how he had spent his life. Get to know things that you have been ignoring lately.

After you have implemented these points in your life you would really feel relieved and would surely like to lead a life that you have always dreamt of.

How To Choose A Life Partner Step 4 of 4: Finding “The Right One”

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Be proactive. There's someone out there for just about everyone all you need to do is go find this person. If you don't make any effort to meet new people, try new things, or even leave the house, the odds that you'll find the person who's right for you can be seriously slim. So, if you're looking to find your life partner, start by getting up and getting out! Try to spend at least some of your free time attending fun social events, getting to know new people, and just getting out into the world around you in general.
Most dating "experts" will recommend a proactive approach to dating. Some even rank it as high as your career in terms of the effort you should spend on it!

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Meet people doing what you love. Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to spend every Friday night in a loud, crowded, overpriced nightclub to meet potential dating partners, nor do you have to be an immaculately-dressed, debonair, Hollywood type. While these sorts of approaches work well for some people, most people will have the greatest success finding partners by simply exploring activities that they love. By doing this, you're likely run into people with similar interests and outlooks as you, naturally leading to compatibility.
Even solitary hobbies can lead to opportunities to meet people! Love reading comic books and playing video games? Attend a convention! Love painting? Host an exhibition! Like writing? Attend a writer's workshop! There are exciting activities for almost every interest out there, so start searching!

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Be yourself. You're looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, so isn't it reasonable to assume that both you and your potential life partner should be completely open about who you are? In fact, many people are unwilling to completely "open up" until they've gotten to know someone intimately. If you can stomach the idea, try to be completely true to yourself from the very get-go through all the stages of a relationship: asking someone out, going on your first few dates, getting to know each other more closely, committing to each other, and beyond! By doing this, you give your partner the chance to fall in love with the real you, rather than forcing them to "hold on" until you're comfortable being yourself.

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Don’t be afraid. The path to finding your life partner can seem like a perilous one. It can seem like there's almost no hope you'll find someone who's right for you, especially if you've recently had to deal with romantic setbacks. No matter what you do, don't ever give up hope or give in to the fear that you won't find someone. People all over the world struggle with the same sorts of romantic difficulties that you may be going through right now. Everyone periodically has personal setbacks. There's no single "right way" to find your life partner, so don't judge yourself against other people or couples. Don't let negative thoughts derail your quest to find a life partner. Confidence, fearlessness, and persistence are key to finding the right person for you!
As an added bonus, confidence is generally considered quite sexy! Fearless confidence is a self-reinforcing trait that makes you much more attractive to potential partners: the more confidently you approach dating situations, the more relaxed you'll be during them, the better time you'll have, and the more confident you'll be when you approach the next situation.

10 Timeless Guidelines for a Happier Relationship

10 Timeless relationship guidelines

1. Listen with your ears and your heart. It is extremely important to listen to your partner when they try to communicate with you. Communication is the life blood of a good relationship. Giving them your undivided attention is a sign of deep respect, but don’t just hear them with your ears, make sure that your heart is listening also.  Instead of nitpicking over their choice of words try to hear the real meaning behind their words. If they want to talk when you are in the middle of something important, unless it’s an emergency, suggest a time when you’ll be able to pay closer attention.

2. Never, ever keep score. Don’t walk around with a watchful eye making sure your partner carries their share of the workload. Instead, take the view that it doesn’t matter if you end up doing more than half of what has to be done. There is absolutely no benefit to trying to make sure that everything in your relationship is divided fifty-fifty. Do what you can reasonably do and avoid making comparisons. Unless your spouse is very lazy or refuses to take responsibility in general, don’t keep track of who does more and who does less.

3. Don’t criticize in public. Being criticized can be tough to take under the best of conditions, but especially in front of other people. All it does is humiliate your partner and raise their defenses. When you embarrass your mate in public it weakens the bonds of intimacy and can undermine your relationship. The same principle applies if you have children. Criticizing your partner in the presence of your children undermines their authority with the kids and can cause them to develop an attitude of disrespect. This is especially true if your mate is a stepparent.

4. Don’t fight about money. Money is a highly emotionally charged subject, especially when couples are feeling a financial squeeze. Disagreements about money have always been among the most common causes of relationship conflicts and this trend has escalated dramatically since the economic downturn. Money problems can cause tremendous stress which seems to form a catalyst for frustration based agitation. When money is tight it’s vital to seek a solution together as a couple. If you lean on each other your already happy relationship will actually get stronger during tough times.

5. Eliminate “always” and “never” from your vocabulary. When your mate does something wrong, exaggerating the offense will only make things worse. Nobody likes to be told that they always make the same mistake or that they never do what they should have done. It may seem like that is the case when you are upset, but how do you feel when someone lays the same accusation on you? Thinking in exaggerated terms is nothing more than a bad habit that only agitates a situation and undermines your relationship. Try replacing words like always and never with more realistic, less accusatory terms like often or sometimes. You will feel much less angry inside.

6. Build trust into your relationship. Trust doesn’t happen by accident, it’s up to you to earn it. This may take some effort if your partner has been betrayed in the past and still carries the emotional scars. If you want to be trusted then avoid behavior that creates distrust. Be mindful not to get too close with or flirt with members of the opposite sex. Even if your motives start out innocent, in reality you are just inviting problems into your relationship. Your partner may start to feel threatened or you might begin to view that other person as an alternative in the event that your relationship doesn’t work out. Be resolved to do all you can reasonably do to give your partner every reason to trust you completely.

7. Only make favorable comparisons. This is something that you need to be very careful with because making comparisons can be a two edged sword. Being compared with some exceptional person in a positive way can really brighten your partner’s day. On the other hand, making an unfavorable comparison is something you never want to do because it will cause your partner to feel either inadequate or jealous. And whatever you do don’t compare them to your ex. In fact, don’t even talk about a past  relationship. It is much better to just leave the past in the past and focus on the present.

8. Work at fulfilling your mate’s emotional needs. When a person’s most important emotional needs are met, they feel content and fulfilled. Conversely, when a person’s most important emotional needs are not being met, they feel empty, lonely, unfulfilled, or frustrated. Granted, every person has the responsibility to try and meet their own needs, but you can help.  Making a concerted effort to help fulfill the most important emotional needs of your mate will go a long way toward building a happier relationship. As you work to discover and help fill the needs of your partner you will find that your own needs are also being met. This is truly a win for everyone involved.

9. Be ready to forgive. We all make mistakes and when we do we appreciate it when the people we care about give us the benefit of the doubt. Well, this is a two way street and we should be willing to forgive when the opportunity arises. It’s been said that a happy relationship is made up of two good forgivers. One of the ways we can show a forgiving attitude is by not holding unrealistic expectations. This takes into account the fact that no one is perfect and sets the stage for built in forgiveness. Anything that fosters feelings of togetherness helps build your happy relationship and that is exactly what a forgiving attitude does.

10. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Any relationship worth building up and strengthening is something to be deeply grateful for. After all, you could be alone! Having an attitude of gratitude means that your partner will know that you appreciate them. Your appreciation will be obvious in your words and actions, and they will never need to question your feelings in this. Gratitude is like a big giant security blanket that will transform the overall feel of your relationship. Being thankful for your mate every single day is one of the most empowering things you can do to build a truly exceptional relationship.

How To Choose A Life Partner Step 3 of 4: Making Your Relationship Work

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Let go of expectations. When you're trying to maintain a relationship, don't expect the other person to be someone they are not. While it's possible for the members of a couple to compromise on a variety of important issues and even change minor aspects of themselves for their partner, at their cores, most people are the same person for the long haul. Avoid having any sorts of illusions about your partner or assigning them qualities that they lack. Similarly, don't expect a partner to change a major part of who they are to appease you.
For example, it's OK to ask your partner (politely, of course) to start taking the garbage out sometimes — this is a reasonable place to look for compromise. However, it's not OK to expect your partner to suddenly decide to want kids if they don't already this is a deeply personal decision that can't reasonably be undone.

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Be honest about who you are. Just as you shouldn't try to conceal or change any major part of your partner, it's important to do the same yourself. When dating, it may be tempting to appease someone you like by manipulating the truth about your past or present situation. However, this not only leads to personal guilt, but also poses the risk of problems down the road. When the other person inevitably learns the truth, the level of trust in the relationship can seriously suffer.[4]
For example, while it's perfectly OK to dress a little fancier than you normally would for your first few dates, you wouldn't want to pretend that you're agnostic when you actually are quite religious just to make your date happy. Misleading your partner about yourself either by lying or omitting information about yourself is an act of deception that, for many people, can be difficult to recover from.

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Spend lots of time with a potential partner. What's the best way to find out if you can spend long amounts of time with someone else? Try to do it! To know if a relationship will work in the long-term, it's very important to spend lots of time in the other person's company (ideally in a wide range of environments). If you can stand to be around someone for days, weeks, or months at a time, you may have a keeper.
You'll probably also want to see if this person gets along with the people who are close to you (and vice versa). Bring your partner to your social engagements and introduce them to your friends and family. If your partner gets along well with these people, you have one less thing to worry about.

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Take your time. You're looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, so there's no reason to rush into things. Give your relationship the chance to grow organically. Don't stick to an arbitrary schedule for progressing through major relationship events like "going steady", moving in together, and getting married. If you rush into these decisions, you run the risk of finding yourself in situations you aren't prepared for with someone who may or may not be on the same page as you in terms of life priorities.
You'll definitely want to avoid becoming intimately involved with a potential partner until you get to know the person. While it's certainly possible to turn a casual relationship into something more serious, sexual intimacy shouldn't be the foundation for long-term happiness. Though sexual attraction and compatibility are key to a good long-term relationship, waiting allows you to gain a better understanding of whether you are compatible.

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Take note of how you act around your partner. If you find yourself acting "fake", pretending to feel differently than you actually do, or laughing at things you don't think are funny, this might be a sign that you're not truly comfortable around this person. If, however, you are relaxed and feel completely natural in the person's presence, you are on the right track. It's important to be able to be completely genuine around your partner. Eventually, everyone runs out of the energy to keep "faking it" you don't want this to happen to you five years into a marriage.

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Be willing to make sacrifices. No relationship is perfect. There will be times when you may have to sacrifice your own needs for the sake of your partner. It's up to you to decide exactly how far you're willing to go in terms of sacrifices — most good relationships involve a healthy give-and-take of sacrifices from both partners.
When it comes to making sacrifices for the good of your relationship, small things, like minor personal habits and behaviors, should be on the table. However, major life goals usually shouldn't be, as a serious disagreement about one of these can be a sign that two people are incompatible. For example, deciding to go out drinking with your friends less often is a reasonable sacrifice to make if you have a spouse and children. On the other hand, deciding not to have children when you desperately want them isn't something you should put yourself through.

How To Choose A Life Partner Step 2 of 4: Setting Your Priorities

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Decide whether or not you want kids. This decision is hugely important  perhaps the most important decision you'll make with your partner. In spite of this, a surprising number of couples fail to discuss this sufficiently before trying to commit to a lifelong relationship. Raising a child can be the most rewarding thing you ever do, but it's also an enormous responsibility, a huge financial commitment, and a decision to spend at least about 18 years or so (possibly more) directly responsible for the care of your child, so it's not something to be treated lightly.
Most people want children, but this is by no means universal, so don't make assumptions about your partner until you know for sure.

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Decide how important your culture and religion are to you. Many people's cultural or religious traditions are a huge part of their life others are agnostic or atheist and have little in the way of non-mainstream culture or tradition. Both lifestyles are equally valid, but, for some partners, someone at the opposite end of the spectrum may not be a viable long-term choice. Before you commit to someone, it's important to have an honest idea about whether or not it's important for your partner to be like you in this aspect of life.
To be clear, people from different races, religions, and cultures are perfectly capable of having happy life-long relationships. For instance, in the U.S., interracial couples are more common today than ever before.[3]

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Decide how you want to spend your money. Money can be an awkward subject to talk about, but it's something that it's important for two life partners to be on the same page about. Money can play an important role in the way a couple's life plays out — it can determine how long the members of the couple work for, the sorts of jobs they'll take, the lifestyle they'll be able to live, and much more. Having a frank talk about the ways you plan to save and spend money as a couple is essential for anyone considering a life-long relationship.
As an example of the sorts of financial decisions couples have to make, consider this: in a couple where one partner wants to spend his late 20s and early 30s taking lots of trips and exploring the world and the other partner wants to spend this time building a successful career and saving to buy a house, both partners may not be able to get their way.

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Decide how you want your partner to fit into your family (and vice versa). Our families shape the way we think and act throughout our lives. Having a clear picture of how you want your partner to fit into your family is a must for anyone thinking of spending his or her life with someone else. You'll want to know both what role you want your partner to play in your immediate family (i.e., you and any kids you have) as well as what role your partner to play in your extended family (i.e., your parents, siblings, cousins, etc.). Conversely, your partner should also have this figured out for you.
For example, for some couples with children, it's very important for one parent to be a full-time caretaker. For others, it's OK if a nanny fills the gaps. Similarly, some people may want to live near their parents and visit frequently, while others may want more independence.

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Decide what kind of lifestyle you want to have. This decision is a major one, but, luckily, it's usually quite clear how your partner wants to live once you begin spending serious amounts of time with him or her. You and your partner should have compatible ideas about how you want to spend your free time, how you want to interact with your friends, and the types of material comforts you want to pursue. While you don't have to like all of the same things your partner does, you shouldn't disagree about things that require major decisions or commitments.
For example, a couple wherein one partner likes watching pro wrestling on Monday nights and one partner likes watching nature documentaries at the same time will probably be able to make things work (especially if they agree to buy a DVR). On the other hand, if one partner wants to buy a house and the other doesn't or one partner wants to be a "swinger" and the other doesn't, these are major roadblocks to long-term happiness.

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Decide where you want to live. Sometimes, location is key to a couple's happiness. People often want to live near friends or relatives that they're very close to or live in places where certain types of activities are possible. If both partners can't be satisfied living in the same place, this can (at the very least) make it necessary to spend lots of time traveling.

How To Choose A Life Partner Step 1 of 4 Determining Your Ideal Partner

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Have an accurate view of yourself. The journey to finding a life partner starts with you! To know who will be best for you, you've got to know exactly who you are. Know what you like, what you don't like, what you're good at, and what you're bad at. Know what you want out of life and what you want from your partner. Be realistic and honest with yourself. If you're having a hard time examining yourself, try asking your closest friends to help you.
Most important of all, love yourself, flaws and all. You can't expect someone to love you if you can't love yourself. If you try to have a lifelong relationship when you have a negative self-image, you're likely to self-sabotage and hurt the people closest to you, so sort this important first step out before you continue.

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Define your life’s goals. Two people who are spending their lives with each other need to be on the same page for almost all of life's major decisions (if not every single one). Having a disagreement about a major, non-negotiable aspect of your life can stop a relationship in its tracks even when two people get along perfectly otherwise. Be open and honest about these goals — trying to lie to yourself can lead to long-term resentment and isn't fair to your partner. For more discussion on this topic, see the "Priorities" section below. Below are just a few very important questions that you'll want to know the answers to before you choose your life partner:
Do I want to have children?
Where do I want to live?
Do I want to work or manage the home (or both?)
Do I want my relationship to be an exclusive one?
What do I want to accomplish before I die?
What kind of lifestyle do I want to have?

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Draw on your experiences from past relationships. If you're having trouble determining what you want in a partner or what you want out of life, think back to relationships you've already been in. The choices you make in your relationships, conscious or unconscious, can help clue you in to the sorts of things you're looking for in a partner and even the sorts of things that you may need to work on to make a long-term partnership work. Below are just a few of the types of questions you may want to consider for your past relationships:
What did you like about your partner?
What did you enjoy doing the most with your partner?
What did you disagree with your partner about?
What did you criticize your partner for?
What did your partner criticize you for?
Why did the relationship end?

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Ask lots of questions in the early phases of a relationship. As you meet and begin to date a new person, talk to them about themselves. Ask them about what they like in a partner, what their life goals are, and what their long-term plans are. Your partner's ethics, interests, spiritual outlook, and even diet may be important to your long-term compatibility, so don't be afraid to ask about any of it!
You'll need to consider questions in all areas of lifestyle choices. For instance, do they smoke, drink, or do drugs? Do they have any personal demons? Will they be a supportive and understanding person if you wish to change or advance your career?
To be clear, these types of questions aren't necessarily things you should ask at your first date. Asking very personal questions early on can be a major turn-off that can sabotage your efforts to start a relationship with someone. However, these types of major lifestyle questions are probably things that you'll want to know the answer to within, say, the first six months of your relationship.

How to Have a Long and Happy Relationship

This is your easy universal guide to maintaining a long and happy relationship together with your love. This is about many things--but it is never about being one sided or demanding. Don't allow your self to be a control freak or fearful and paranoid, but be open and cheerful. It's about how the two of you do this and continue it...

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Choose your partner wisely. Having similar tastes, hobbies, temper and goals in life is very important even though you will be opposite in some nice ways. If you two have different relationship goals, you should try to find different partners. It will eventually lead to mild and even harsh conflicts, but even these type of conflicts will help both you and your significant other at the time decide what they really want in a relationship, nothing is ever a waste of time. But without compatibility in your basics it is very hard to maintain a happy relationship. If one is always "going, rushing and imagining" but the other (no matter how lovely) always wants to "stay, stop or forget it all"--it is very very hard to be together and make things work for long run.

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Be honest about everything always. Even in the smallest matter. Being honest is the most important thing in a relationship. Secrets or dishonesty is like poisonous venom from a deadly snake that will bite you both... when it comes crawling out and it will.

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Never cheat on your partner. Imagine what you would feel if they cheated on you. Would you really want them to feel that way? Could you ruin every month/year you've spent together? Could you break their heart? Keep in mind, that cheating could do permanent damage to your partners self confidence and could ruin their love life completely forever. You will never be trusted again, no matter how you excuse yourself. Is sex really worth ruining your relationship? If you don't feel happy with your partner, break up first.

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Be open and informative as much as you can. Privacy is something that couples need to be completely open about and know exactly what the other expects from them and talk about the issues that you might have. As the relationship continues and those initial boundaries are changing then revise them and eventually in a perfect relationship would have absolutely nothing private from there other, but nothing is perfect so beyond absolutely everything make sure to talk to your partner in full about things and respect the others wishes.

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Respect the needs of your partner. Keep your wants balanced with theirs. This way no one gets constant advantage. But everyone stays happy.

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Keep their birthday and your anniversary in mind. This is really important!

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If you want to make them happy, do something you know they like, or something they always wanted to do but never could. Don't feel like you need a reason to do something for them, things completely out of the blue are sometimes exactly what the other wants. Doing something together is always the best choice though.

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Don't expect, buy or even request valuable gifts. These can really poison a relationship if one person seems to be a gold digger. Discuss before hand with your other on what might be OK to spend without having any ideas of items or prices before hand. Plus, if you really put your mind to it the best gifts come from the heart and don't cost an arm and a leg but possibly even free!

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Spend as much time together as you can, but avoid fusion or confusion of your individual goals with the other person's goals! You will fuse family goals such as for having children together, but not you core needs and beliefs. Neither person should lose reasonable and longstanding individual ambitions or goals.

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Before you become impatient or unreasonable try to run the, "Do they deserve my unloading on them?" program. No matter what the answer is to that question--No! They don't deserve a "piece of your mind." Be fair by being patient, and ask for patience. Keep calm, this is the key to being happy together. Everyone can have a hard day, or week. All it takes is a huge breath in and out and let your mind do the talking not your mouth(think about what your going to say before you say it).

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In a good relationship very little should be taboo. Simply, if you are both sensible--anything that you think about might be worth talking about with your partner. Yet an extremely talkative person can drive a partner to distraction and to need a getaway to have some peace and quiet (opposites don't always attract if both or either one is too intrusive or self-centered)...

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Don't despise or be cruel about any mannerisms or habits they have. Don't force them to do or not do anything. If it is too unacceptable to you then you should decide what is right or wrong for yourself. If they need or ask for your help--with changing their bad habit--then you should be as supportive as you can without becoming an enabler.

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Rejecting the insignificant little things that the other does is part of a relationship. Don't try to change your partner (don't be his parent or psychologist). Realize that people have habits and mannerisms that is part of who they are. You will not be able to make them stop and you should love them for who they are. If an issue is significant, like someone who is demanding or belittling, maybe you should rethink the relationship.

10 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Person

We all have our dating doubts, but if you are experiencing any of the following issues, you could be investing time in the wrong person.

1. You Don't Feel Like You Can Be Yourself
Your friends tell you you've changed. You are always watching what you say or how you act, because your partner tends to get on your case or has been critical of you in the past. You just never feel completely relaxed around them, even after dating for a good amount of months. If you can't be who you truly are with your significant other, it's time to think hard about what you are doing in a situation like this...and why. No one is worth this much sacrifice.

2. You're Unhappy
While it's true that our partners aren't responsible for our happiness, they should certainly make our days a little brighter! Someone who is dating the right person consistently enjoys the relationship and feels a general sense of happiness (arguments aside!). If you find yourself unhappy most of the time -- and especially when you are with them -- then this may be a sign that this isn't the best person for you.

3. They Exhaust You
Instead of feeling energized after hanging out with your partner, you feel emotionally drained most of the time. They seem to always have something to complain about, or just have a negative outlook on life. Either way, the person you choose to spend your life with should really lift you up rather than drag you down. And it shouldn't feel like "work" most of the time.

4. The Friend Factor
If you are with someone and don't really want to introduce them to your friends, this is not a good sign (and you should ask yourself why!). If you are with someone and they never bring you around their friends, it's another sign. If your most trusted friends are expressing concern about your relationship, take heart. These people may be able to see things more objectively than you, so it's important to be open and hear what they have to say.

5. You Never Envision the Future Together
After a certain amount of time together, it is normal to start thinking about what the future might be like as a couple. If you have been with your partner for awhile and just don't see how it would ever work together down the line, it might be a good idea to evaluate why you are with this person and what you are really looking for.

6. You are Like Night and Day
He loves to go out every night and sleep late. You like to just be home and get an early start. He wants to be together seven nights a week, while you love time with your girlfriends. Compatibility is an essential ingredient for a happy and peaceful union, and if you and your partner have many fundamental differences, it may make things that much harder.

7. You're Not Excited to See or Hear From Them
She calls you...and you send it to voicemail. Or sometimes you actually avoid him. You realize that you feel completely ambivalent when you are around him. Many of us go through the motions and are so afraid to be alone that we stay in situations which aren't fulfilling. Dating should be fun, exciting and heartwarming, not another chore. It's not always going to be sunshine and roses, but you should feel happy to see them most of the time.

8. You Don't Feel Good about Yourself
In addition to feeling happy, a person in a good relationship usually has a positive self esteem. Sure, they will have some doubts and insecurities (who doesn't?), but the time they spend with their partner will make them feel better about themselves, not worse. In contrast, if your partner exacerbates your self doubts and undermines your confidence, it's time to stand up for yourself...and say see ya later!

9. The Cons of Staying Together Outweigh the Pros
A cost-benefit analysis can actually be helpful in situations other than at the office. Sit down for a few minutes and write down the advantages of staying with your partner. Then list the disadvantages. When you compare the lists, you will either find that the benefits outweigh any disadvantages, or that reasons to break up are more compelling than the ones to stay together.

10. Your Instincts are Whispering - Get Out
As a general rule, the voices inside us are there for a reason, and they should be listened to. Don't ignore the subtle red lights your subconcious is warning you about. Ultimately, our hearts know what is right for us. Give your inner voice free rein and let it direct you to the conclusions that are best for you.

Find someone who treats you like you need to be treated and makes you happy. Someone who makes you feel good about yourself, and whom the people you trust encourage you to be with.

What have been the biggest signs for you that you were with the wrong person?

19 Reasons Why S*x Is Important in Your Relationship/Marriage

Some people think sex is overrated in a relationship, while others think there are many reasons why sex is important with your spouse. When you are in love, it can connect the two of you in a way unlike any other. Aside from the obvious connecting part to having that time with your partner, there are some great medical benefits as well. Reasons why sex is important are all below, although there are many more I’m sure.

1. CONNECTS YOU

This is a one of the most obvious reasons why sex is important I think. Of course being intimate with one another is going to bring you two closer. The simple fact that you are seeing each other naked is enough to bring you closer. Sometimes being very much in love and being attracted to each other, doesn’t mean the sexual chemistry is there. Once you two have found your groove in the bedroom, you should see that chemistry coming together.

2. STRESS RELEASE

I mean, who doesn’t want to come home after a long stressful day and release that with some loud Os? This is a great way to put a new hop in your step and restore your energy, and of course to forget about your long day. Experts say people who have regular sex respond better to stress than #people who don’t.

3. LIVE LONGER

Having one orgasm a day can keep the doctor away (see what I did there?). In order for the optimal health benefits, having an orgasm every 24 hours keeps the health #benefits at their maximum and the levels of oxytocin, estrogen and testosterone consistently flowing. Not only that, but regular sex can improve cardiovascular health, reduce risks of prostate cancer and even reduce the possibility of osteoporosis. Why not help your #partner live longer?

4. EXERCISE

Make your sexy time into an #exercise! You actually burn 144+ calories per half-hour every time you get down and dirty according to studies, and who doesn’t love burning calories? (ESPECIALLY while having sexy #time!) The key for high-calorie-burning sex is making it hot and making it last, say experts. You can also add a little moaning and sighing, which can help you burn an extra 18 to 30 #calories.


5. GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP

Who isn’t tired after some #time between the sheets? This is a fantastic way to help you close those heavy #eyes before your usual time. Sex is said to cause a drop in #body temperature, and also appears to induce a deep sleep. Experts usually discourage #exercise within a few hours of bedtime but the physical activity of sex seems to be a positive exception to that rule.

6. BETTER SELF ESTEEM

If you are making love with your partner, you feel great about yourself, right? If you aren’t, you wonder where else he is getting it. Having that time together shows each other that you are committed and you are in love with each other. Now of course, if you aren’t having sex yet with your #partner, that is fine! Having some quality lip locking #time does the trick just as well.


7. KEEPS THINGS HOT

Sex is a great way to recharge at the end of the day and to break up your routine. If you do the usual routine every day, try throwing in sexy #time randomly. This will keep your #relationship hot and spontaneous. What guy doesn’t love that? You will too!


8. IMPROVES BLADDER CONTROL

You might not have issues holding your bladder now, but it's bound to happen in the future. However, if you have sex often enough, your bladder control will improve. It's probably not your main reason for having intercourse, but it's certainly a great benefit!



9. BOOSTS LIBIDO

The more you have sex, the more you'll want to have sex. So even if you're a bit iffy on intercourse now, you'll end up being as eager as a little bunny rabbit. The same will happen with your #partner, so you two won't want to keep your hands off of each other.

10. GLOWING SKIN

Don't you love looking in the mirror to see flawless skin? Well, you'll be halfway there once you start having sex frequently. The more you do it, the better your skin will #look. You'll have a certain glow to you that isn't only due to your happiness.

11. RELIEVES PAIN

Having a headache is a horrible excuse for skipping out on sex. Why? Because sex can actually cure a migraine. It makes the pain disappear, so if you're not feeling the greatest, having sex could be a good move.


12. IT'S FUN

Why would you stop yourself from doing something fun? When you're with the #right person, you'll love every second you spend with them--especially the time you spend naked. A #relationship is meant to make you happier, so all the fun is part of a job.

13. EASIER TO BREATHE

Sex is "a natural antihistamine, helping to combat hay fever and asthma symptoms." That means that it makes it easier for you to breathe. So if you've been having problems with your allergies lately, a good roll in the hay could be the cure you've been looking for.

14. FEELING OF WELL-BEING

Having sex frequently will create a feeling of well-being, which is why you fall asleep so easily after doing it. That means that intercourse helps both your #body and your mind. There's nothing unhealthy about it.

15. STRENGTHENS CARDIAC MUSCLES

Sex isn't only good for your heart in terms of your emotional state. It's also good for your physical health. If you want your heart to stay strong, sex is a great way to make sure that your blood keeps pumping.

16. INTELLIGENCE

Sex can potentially boost your intelligence. There are studies that show that it can "accelerate brain cell growth." So if you're hoping to ace a test, you can take a break from studying to have some sex. Hey, it's worth a shot, isn't it?

17. STOPS BOREDOM

When you spend tons of #time with your boyfriend, things can get boring. When you run out of #things to do, sex is always a great activity to resort to. Its something that'll never get stale, because there will always be plenty of new moves to try out.


18. HELPS YOU KNOW ONE ANOTHER BETTER

You want your #partner to know you inside and out. That means that he should learn how to pleasure you. The more often you have sex, the better he'll get at making you happy. That's why you should strip off your clothes whenever you can.


19. YOU'LL LOOK YOUNGER

All of the things on this list combined will help you #look younger. Right now, you might not be worried about wrinkles, but you will be in the future. That's why having as much sex as you can while you can is a great idea.

I think we all know sex is important in a relationship, but of course if you aren’t at that stage yet, don’t take this article the wrong way. But if you are, then the above tips are all true, and trust, I am speaking from experience. Is there another reason why sex is important in your #relationship? Give me some more tips!

10 Valuable Lessons You Will Learn From Failed Relationships

It is tough to overcome the pain of a failed relationship. A relationship which goes kaput after a while leaves behind bad memories that are bound to last for some time. It also makes us lose faith in love and some of us resolve not to get into a relationship again. We see darkness all around and become cynical about love. We must understand that failure teaches us more than success does. As human beings, we are bound to make mistakes and we must learn from them.

Here are 10 Lessons You Will Learn From Failed Relationships

1. Compatibility is important
It is important that you share some similar interests with your partner. The various ideas, thoughts, opinions etc. that you have of the world should be similar. It is important to be on the same page with your partner. If both of you are completely different as individuals, it will lead to disagreements, fights and disputes. It is important to find a partner who is compatible with you.

2. You cannot change people
You may not like certain things about a person but still get into a relationship with them thinking you would be able to change them. After a certain point in life, people don’t change. So, trying to change people is a waste of time and energy. You must accept them for what they are. If you can’t accept a person the way they are, don’t get into a relationship with them.

3. There is a lot more to life
Sometimes being in a relationship isolates you from the rest of your surroundings. You don’t meet your friends as often as you used to. You let go of your hobbies to be able to spend some time your partner. Even before you realize this, you have distanced yourself from everyone and everything around you. Now that the relationship has ended, you can pick up several things that you had left away somewhere. You can reconnect with old friends and start afresh.

4. You learn to become empathetic
After you break up with your partner, you realize how much you loved them. You went through a lot of emotions during the course of the relationship which will eventually help you in shaping your future relationships. A failed relationship makes you a vulnerable person. But, at the same time it makes you react to emotions more sharply. You become more sensitive as a person.

5. Set your priorities straight
When you were in a relationship your entire world revolved around it. It is high time now that you set your priorities straight. Focus on your work and build a career. You finally realize that love is important but there are things that are equally, if not more, important as well. Work on the things that you know will help you in leading a good life. Do not sulk over the break-up. Channelizing your energies towards doing constructive things will help you move forward.

6. You become resilient
Heartbreak may leave you with a lot of pain and sorrow but after a while, you will realize that it has made you a stronger person. It will make you stronger emotionally and mentally. It will help you sail through the bad times in the future. When you are a mentally strong person, any problem or situation, no matter how big it is, will be able to bog you down.

7. You learn to forgive
After you analyze the reason behind your failed relationship, you come to the conclusion either or both of you were wrong. In that case, you learn to forgive your erstwhile partner or yourself. Forgiveness requires a lot of strength but you have to forgive and move on. If your partner has hurt you, confront her and try to talk about it. It would be a good thing if you continue to stay in touch or part ways amicably.

8. Don’t blame your partner
Blaming your partner for the failure of the relationship will make you a bitter person. You will not stay in touch with your erstwhile partner but continue to blame them for the pain they caused you. If you try to find reasons to blame your partner, there will be no end to it. Unless you get over the memories of your beloved, you won’t be able to move forward in life.

9. You learn to let go
Time does not wait for anyone and life moves on. Even if you take some time to deal with the break-up, you will have to move ahead after a while. Your circumstance will force you to get over your sorrows and start running in the race of life. This will make you realize that such things could happen in the future and you have to learn to let go of things prevent your growth. Holding on to unpleasant memories or negative energies will do no good.

10. You learn a lot about life
Love is an important part of life and being in a relationship will help you in dealing with this emotion. A failed relationship will help you more as it will give you a deeper insight into love. You will begin to understand relationships and human behavior better. People who hurt us are the ones who teach us a lot about life. Life is a long journey and certain unpleasant incidents are bound to happen. You should learn from such experiences and be careful enough not to repeat the mistakes that you have already committed.

A failed relationship is the stepping stone to a successful relationship as it imparts many valuable life lessons to you. After a relationship ends, it is important to immerse yourself in some work, activity or be in the company of your loved ones. It will help you in dealing with the pain better and soon enough you will be out of the dungeons of your past relationship.

Avoiding Common Relationship Problems

1. Never, ever manipulate someone. Popular culture often tells us, subtly, that we should manipulate our significant other. You’ll find magazine upon magazine about how to get your girlfriend to do this or how to make your husband more that. But the thing is that expecting someone to change, and emotionally or mentally manipulating them into doing it, is one of the worst things you can do for your relationship. By manipulating them, you are creating distrust and resentment, a terrible thing to do to someone you love.

2. Don’t expect perfection. Don’t expect perfection in the person you love or in yourself. This sets incredibly unrealistic expectations. Neither of you will be able to live up to these standards and you both will end up hurt and disappointed. Even if you feel that you only expect perfection for yourself, this will give you the mindset that people can be perfect and you will subconsciously expect the same from the person you’re with.

3. Don’t bring outside problems into your relationships. Life gets stressful sometimes. We have problems and they make us upset, hurt, or angry. There are many, many people who take out these negative emotions on the people they love, often because they feel like they have no other outlet. But you should never do this. Find good ways to deal with your stress, like exercising or doing art. This will keep you from unreasonable outbursts directed at the person you love.

4. Don’t let things stagnate. Much like not putting in effort, you shouldn’t get to a point where your relationships are routine. Getting the same gift (or type of gift) for every holiday and birthday, going to the same place for dinners out, doing the same thing for your anniversary, etc. Your love deserves better and so do you! Keep things interesting by always trying new things and pursuing new experiences together.
You can be wild and crazy and try things like rock climbing or you can be more subdued and try learning a new skill together, like playing the piano.

5. Focus on the important things. One major pitfall of relationships is that we tend to get super focused on little things that drive us crazy, rather than seeing the bigger picture, which is often wonderful. Keep your focus on the things that actually matter, and constantly analyze why those things matter to you. You’ll have a much happier relationship if you do.

6. Remember that everyone is equal. It is important to understand, for developing relationships, that no one is better than you and you are not better than anyone else. We are all equal, with equally worthwhile problems, ideas, and beliefs. If anyone ever tries to convince you differently, no matter where they pray and no matter how much you admire them, they aren’t worthy of your love.

7 Ways To Make A Man Understand You Completely

Men think women are a task; certainly not! All women across the globe wish for one thing – for her man to understand her! All you women know that blank stare you get during some of the most critical conversations about your relationship or that offensive walk out of the room leaving the argument incomplete. In such situations, women tend to forget that men have the mental capacity of a 6-year old, they need to be told things subtly or else they will only retaliate.

Sure, communicating in a relationship is a task and asking your man to understand you is a Hercules task, but it is not impossible! Here are some guidelines you can try to make you man understand you completely.

1. Give him time to comprehend
Women analyse and talk to themselves a lot; men on the other hand have their heads filled with sports, work, poker and everything that does not come include ‘emotions.’ You may have thought about a particular matter for four days and decided how you are going to present it to your partner- this exercise must have taken you about a week. Now, one fine day you go and let it all out in front of him, expecting a response and reaction immediately. You may get a reaction, but not a response – simply because men are slow at processing. Since you have had the time to think and re-think the matter, give him that fair opportunity too.

2. Don’t Shout; Don’t Nag; Just Smile
Shouting, fighting and nagging – all these are going to show you a dead-end! We all know that men do not react well to tantrums, leave alone nagging him for hours together! And what are you going to achieve by shouting on top of your voice? Stress and high blood pressure and a silent, blank looking partner! All the shouting and nagging will only push him towards the negative more and you will never get your point across. Instead, try talking to him in a neutral tone with a gentle smile and of course, keeping it short!
For instance, don’t complain that using his cell phone continuously irritates you and that’s going to be the reason for your failed relationship, but smile and tell him that when you are with each other, try to avoid any distractions.

3. Respect him
Your man does not have to earn your respect; he deserves it just like you do! By assuming that all his actions have to be about pleasing you and impressing you – you are highly mistaken! He is a human being with emotions too. When you show him some gratitude, his actions and emotions will become warmer and he will respond to your needs and wants positively.

4. Give Hints about your Nature
You will think that he should make an effort to study your personality and know your likes and dislikes. He may think he knows you, but you don’t think it is enough. So stop the blame game and take the reins in your hand! Share tales about your childhood, tell him about your college life or some successful project at work – all these stories will help him understand you as a person and before you know it, he will start connecting with you on a level you always wished for.

5. Communicate When He’s Free
If you are talking to him when he’s working on the laptop or while he is watching TV, you need to know that nothing is going to sink into his mind. So save your breath for a time when his attention is not diverted. When his mind is free, he will be able to rationalize better, think better and most importantly, respond in a better way!

6. Allow him to Ask Questions
The universal fact is that women talk more than men! Talking more than your man is fine, but you should allow him to express too, because only then will you know whether your actions and efforts are being heard by the opposite person! While you are chatting away, try to encourage him to ask you questions about your life, your work, and your relationship – you need to talk less and get him to talk more. So guide your conversations in a way that make ask you questions and give him an opportunity to put out something on the table too.

7. Practice What You Preach
Put your moral science education to use! If you want to be treated in a particular way, you should treat him in the same manner! Talk to him politely and he will reply in the same tone; show respect in public and you’ll get that in return; be positive about your relationship and you’ll receive double the amount of positivity back. So if you wish for him to understand you, you need to start understanding him first!

You can refer to this guidebook, but remember that these tips will not show overnight results. Be patient and committed because men are a piece of work and they think the same about women! All you need to do is be consistent and be in love and all the efforts will be worth it! So be rational, communicate wisely and believe that change is possible.