How to tell if you are in love 1 of 3 Your Head

1. Notice your thoughts of the future. If you’re truly in love, then you won’t be able to imagine a future without your loved one in it. If you can’t think a year, two years, or a lifetime ahead without factoring in your loved one every step of the way, then you’re falling in love.
If when you think ahead, you always think of “we” instead of “I,” then you’re getting used to the idea of your loved one always being in your life.
If you and your loved one are comfortable talking about your plans one year or two years from today, and you have no doubts that your feelings will be just as strong then, then you may be falling in love.
If you can’t imagine getting married, raising children, or moving across the country without your loved one at your side, then you may be falling in love.
If you can’t imagine being happy in the future without your loved one in your life, then you may be in love.
If the thought of the future with your loved one brings you great joy and comfort instead of anxiety and uncertainty, then you may be in love.

2. Notice how often you think about your special someone. Remember that there is a difference between love and infatuation. It’s natural that you’ll be thinking of your loved one constantly when you start a new relationship, but to see if you’re in love, you should consider how often you think about your loved one once you’ve grown more settled.
If you’ve been with your loved one for six months or over a year and you still can’t go more than a few minutes without thinking about him or her, then you’re in love.
If you’re always wondering what your loved one would think about what you’re doing—if he’d like the movie you’re watching, or how much he’d love to try the new restaurant where you met your girlfriends—then you may be falling in love.
If you find yourself always wondering what your loved one is up to when he’s not around, and find yourself daydreaming about your loved one going through his day, then you may be in love.
If you find yourself drifting off in class, during a movie, or even in the middle of a conversation with a friend because you’re thinking about your special someone, then you may be falling in love.

3. See if you factor your loved one into all of your decisions. If you’re truly in love, then you’re used to thinking about operating as a team with your loved one. You’re no longer riding solo if you’re in love, so your big decisions should always be made with your loved one in mind.
If you’re truly in love, you wouldn’t make a rash big decision without consulting your loved one for advice. After all, the decision, whether it’s a big career change or the choice to go back to school, will affect both of you.
If you would never choose to move a location where your loved one wouldn’t be able to be happy, then you’re in love.
If you and your loved one can work together and make big decisions without arguing and not being able to reach an agreement, then you’re falling in love.
If you would never choose to do something that would hurt or disappoint your loved one, then you are falling in love.

4. Consider what you think about your loved one’s imperfections. If you’re truly in love, then you must have had enough time to realize that your love object isn’t perfect. If you’re still at the “he’s perfect” stage, then you haven’t been in the relationship long enough to see that everyone—even the apple of your eye—is a flawed human being. Being in love means accepting your loved one’s imperfections and embracing them.
If you’re really in love, then you understand that your loved one has some weaknesses. You have to be able to admit that your loved one may not always be the best listener or have the best sense of humor. That’s OK.
If you’re really in love, then you can help your loved one address his flaws, but you shouldn’t try to change him. If you’re really in love, then you can help your loved one work on being more responsible, but you shouldn’t try to make him a completely different person.
If you’re really in love, then you’ll appreciate your loved one’s quirks. You’ll love your guy’s goofy laugh, or how your girl can’t help but be fifteen minutes late to everything.

How to know if a person truly loves you 3 of 3 Notice how the person acts

1. See if the person can truly be himself around you. Part of being love means being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn't show the public, then that may be love. If the man you're with is pretty serious or polite in public, but when you're alone, he shows his goofy and silly side completely, then he's really opening up to you and loves you.
If the person shares his deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that's love.
If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in his teeth around you, that means he's okay if you see every side of him.

2. See if the person is happy to be around you -- even during a bad day. If your loved one has had a very bad day but lights up when he sees you, then that's a sign of love. If he's in love with you, then the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed to make him feel better -- if only a little bit.
The next time he's grumpy or has a bad day, see how he reacts in your presence.

3. See if the person gives you googly eyes. Though this may be silly, check out your loved one's face the next time you see him. Does he look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as "googly-eyed"? You'll know it when you see it. You won't get this look all the time -- you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table.
You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression.

4. See if the person is giddy around you. Love makes people feel giddy, weightless, and like laughing for no reason at all. If you see the person acting this way in your presence, then this may be love. Does your loved one seem hyper, excited, and on the verge of laughing for almost no reason at all whenever he's around you? If so, then this may be love.
If you've said something barely funny and the person cracks up, then he may be lovesick.
If the person shows nervous energy or fidgets around a lot around you, then he may just be excited by your presence.

5. See if the person is upset when you're upset. If you're suffering unbelievable emotional pain or are just bummed because you have the flu, then this should rub off on the person who loves you. If he truly loves you, then he'll absorb some of your negative emotions and will be very upset because he'll want you to feel better as soon as you can.
Though he doesn't have to be as upset as you are, the person should clearly be affected by your mood because all he wants is for you to be happy.

How to know if he truly loves you 2 of 3 Notice what the person does

1. See if the person will listen to anything you say. If the person really loves you, then she'll not only open up to you, but she'll also listen to anything you have to say -- even if she's heard it all before. Though she won't be your lapdog, she will be around to hear your thoughts. She'll nod and respond thoughtfully and not interrupt instead of switching the subject to something she wants to talk about. Part of being in love is just being able to listen. It's not all about being able to talk.

how to know if he truly loves you 2 of 3 Notice what he does2. See if the person is always there for you -- even if it's inconvenient. Sure, if you want to grab a drink or a tasty meal, the person is always around, but what about when you need a ride from the airport or you need someone to walk your dog while you're sick? If the person truly loves you, then he'll be there for you during the fun times as well as the not-so-fun times.
If the person is only around when you're happy, lighthearted, or in a good mood, but flees the scene as soon as you're sad or cranky, then that's not love. Love is about being there for a person no matter what. Truly loving a person means accepting all of the positive and negative qualities of that person, and being around during the good times and the bad.

3. See if the person does nice things for you. If the person truly loves you, then he'll do thoughtful things like put gas in your car when you're busy, do your food shopping for you, or bring you chicken soup when you're home sick. These favors don't have to be constant or over-the-top, but if the person truly loves you, then he'll want to do things to make you smile and to make your life easier. True love isn't just about what you can take from the person, but what you can give as well.
If the person really loves you, then he'll do nice things for you without you having to ask. It should be implied that you need a favor or help sometimes. If you have to ask for something nice every time, then that may not be true love.

4. See if the person always wants to be around you. Part of being in love is always wanting to be around the person you love, even if it's impractical. If the person truly loves you, then he or she will want to be around you -- a lot. This doesn't mean the person will want to be attached at the hip, but it does mean that the person will try to take as many opportunities as possible to see you.
This doesn't mean that the person will want to be with you 24/7. But if the person can only make time to see you once or twice a month, it's very likely that it isn't love.

5. See if the person knows when to give you space. If the person truly loves you, then he'll not only want to be around you a lot, but he'll also know when to give you space and do your own thing. If the person wants to be around you all the time, then that's not love it's infatuation. As love matures, two people will realize that they still need to do things separate to maintain their own identities.
If the person wants to be around you every waking moment, then that may be more of a sign of that person's insecurities than true love.

6. See if the person truly understands you. True love is true understanding. Though it sounds lame, the person should really "get" you in order to love you. If the person actually understands your moods, knows what you want and what you don't want, and has an idea of what will make you happy before you may know it yourself, then that may be true love.
It's okay if part of you remains mysterious to the person -- you don't have to be understood 100%, but you do have to have the sense that the other person truly understands where you're coming from most of the time.

7. See if the person wants the best for you -- even if it isn't the best for him. If a person truly loves you, then he'll understand that there are some things that you have to do that may not be the best for him, or may mean that you'll be spending some time apart. If he truly loves you, then he'll understand that you have to spend a summer on a remote island to pursue your career in marine biology, or that you have to go home early to get enough sleep for a test instead of spending the night with him.
If the person only wants what's best for both of you at all times, then he's not really seeing you as a unique individual with your own needs and desires.

8. See if he truly supports you. If he really loves you, then he'll not only be there for the fun times, but he'll be there to help you achieve your goals and move forward in your life. If he truly loves you, then he'll be there in the bleachers during your soccer game, he'll be there to see you defend your thesis, and he'll be there to give you a ride to your job interview. And he'll be there whenever you want to talk about something that means a lot to you. If he really loves you, then he'll support you as you achieve your goals or pursue your interests, even if they have nothing to do with him.

How to know if a person truly loves you 1 of 3 Notice what the person says

1. See if the person talks about your future together like it's a given. If the person really loves you, then the idea of you being in his or her future is an absolute given, not something that he or she would ever have anxiety or uncertainty about. If the person routinely talks about what you're going to do in the future, about what your lives will loohow to know if you truly loves you 1 of 3 Notice what the person saysk like one, two, or even ten years in the future together, then he's probably in love with you.
True commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there's a good chance he truly loves you.
If the person talks about what your kids will look like, where you'll retire together, or where you'll go for your honeymoon, then he may really love you.

2. See if the person gives you meaningful compliments. There's a difference between saying, "I like your new haircut" and "You have the ability to make me feel better no matter what." If the person gives you complements that show that he really appreciates the important aspects of your character and personality, then there's a good chance he really loves you.
Your loved one doesn't have to shower you with compliments all the time — it's the quality, not the quantity, that makes a difference.

3. See if the person says "I love you" and means it. Remember that there's a big difference between "Love ya!" and "I love you." If your special someone really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it's likely that he really means it.
If the person undeniably loves you, then he'll say it for no reason at all, not just because he needs a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say.

4. See if the person really opens up to you. If your loved one really loves you, then they'll really open up to you and tell you what they are thinking, feeling, fearing, and longing for. If the person really opens up about their childhood, greatest regrets, most painful moments, or most romantic dreams for the future, then it's likely that they like you because the person is so comfortable telling you anything. If the person tells you, "I've never told anyone this before..." then there's a good chance that he really loves and trusts you.

5. See if your loved one tells you how much she misses you when you're apart. If you and your loved one are apart, but she still texts you, calls you, or emails you to let you know how much she misses you, then it means she can't imagine her life without you. If you go on a three-week vacation and don't hear a word from her, then it may not be love. She doesn't have to call you constantly to let you know if she misses you.

6. See if the person is comfortable with pointing out your mistakes. If that person truly loves you, then he doesn't have an idealized picture of you in his mind. If it's truly love, then that person will be comfortable with telling you when you've made a mistake, said something illogical, or acted badly. Though the person shouldn't criticize you all the time, giving you a healthy amount of criticism just means that the person really knows you in and out and accepts your mistakes as well as your best qualities. If the person never argues with you or never criticizes you, then you should be on the look out. Make sure that the person truly loves you instead of an ideal version of who you are.

7. See if the person truly values your opinion. If the person truly loves you, then he'll care about what you think -- whether it's about his new pair of shoes or the political situation in your country. If he really loves you, he'll ask for your advice and opinions, whether it's on matters big or small. He may feel self-conscious about asking for your opinion, but he'll do it because he loves you. He doesn't have to ask for your opinion on everything -- only the things that really matter.

How to Love and be in a Lovely Relationship 5 of 5 MAINTAINING A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP

Every relationship is unique, and you might have your own way of knowing that a relationship is right for you. Even when a relationship is going well, it’s important to work at it and not take it, or your partner, for granted. The best way to keep a relationship strong, healthy and growing is for you to be aware of your needs and expectations and communicate those with your partner. Here are some more suggestions for how you can keep your relationship strong:

1. Be honest and trusting.Learning to trust and be honest with someone you just started dating can take time, but honesty and trust are two important ingredients in a healthy relationship. As you spend more time with someone and start to share experiences together, your level of trust may increase.

2. Keep communicating.It’s a good idea to keep the lines of communication open between you and the person you’re dating. This might mean talking regularly about what’s happening in your lives and how you’re feeling about life in general. When people share their opinions and feelings, they develop a greater understanding of each other’s likes and dislikes. It’s also a good idea to talk about your relationship every once in a while, including your expectations.

3. Accept your differences.It isn’t unusual to care about someone who has different ideas, interests, and opinions to your own. These differences are what make relationships exciting! But sometimes it can be difficult to manage these differences. It might be helpful to calmly discuss those differences or agree to disagree. By accepting someone’s values and opinions, you might encourage him or her to respect yours as well, and respect is an important aspect of any relationship.

4. Voice your opinions and frustrations.It’s natural that people sometimes argue or have differences of opinion. Disagreements might leave you feeling angry or frustrated with yourself and your partner, but it’s important that you let the person you’re dating know about your opinions and frustrations. It’s a good idea to express your opinions, but remember to listen to the other person as well. For more information on how to resolve arguments, check out the Resolving an argument or disagreement fact sheet .

5. Respect each other’s time and space.Hanging out with your partner can be a lot of fun and a great way to get to know him or her. But it’s also important that you respect your partner’s space-physically and emotionally, and that your partner does the same for you. Maintain the relationships that you have with your friends and family, expand your interest, and keep up with the activities that you were involved in before you started your relationship. This can help your relationships continue to grow and be fun and interesting.

6. Spend time with yourself.Having alone time can be fun and an important way to keep yourself healthy and happy. It can also help you understand yourself and your relationships with others. Spend time getting to know you. You might want to start by doing something you really enjoy, like going for a run, listening to music or reading.

MUST READ: Is a Joint Bank Account the Secret to a Happy Marriage?

People are gonna tell you to keep your accounts separate. But my husband and I did just the opposite. Soon after we said "I do," we said goodbye to our individual checking accounts. Not only have we never regretted it, but we think joint banking has actually brought us closer together.

Here's why:

Transparency

Money flies in and out of our bank account faster than our baby crawls away during a diaper change. But tracking exactly how much we're spending and saving is fairly easy when we're using a central account for most of our transactions. We each have a few individual credit cards, but we pay them off with our joint account. It ensures we're always both aware of where our money is coming from and going to because we have a shared account that we both see.

One Financial Mindset

Opening our joint checking account and closing our separate accounts immediately changed the way we look at our finances. The money was no longer mine or his -- it was ours, literally and figuratively. And we still think about it that way. We don't bring home identical paychecks, but we both stick to identical budgets. We've budgeted out personal spending for ourselves, but we each get the same amount. And our financial goals are the same, too. It's easy for us to stay on the same financial path and stick to our financial goals when neither of us has ownership over a certain percentage of our money.

Shared Awareness

Because all of our spending is aired out for the other person to see, we don't keep any financial secrets. We know what the other person spends, and on what. While this may sound a bit stifling, it keeps both of us from creating unhealthy spending habits. And more importantly, it keeps an open line of communication about our spending. Of course, all bets are off around birthdays and Christmas. (We have a "no peeking at the bank account" rule to keep from spoiling any surprises.) We even let loose every once in a while. Can you tell how wild and crazy we are? Kidding.

Of course, there are other considerations. We married young, and the only financial baggage we brought into our marriage was my student loan debt (which became a joint effort to pay off). If we'd been older and more settled, the decision to share our finances would have been a more significant one. But as the saying goes, "The couple that banks together stays together." Or maybe I just made that up. While joint banking isn't for every marriage, it works for us. And maybe it's the financial recipe for you, too.

How to Love and be in a Lovely Relationship 4 of 5 MAKING RELATIONSHIPS LAST

1. Commit. If you're in love, prove it by putting effort into the relationship and working hard to make it work. Communicate openly with your partner about your goals for the relationship and where you see it going. If you're only interested in a short-term fling, be honest. If you've got an eye toward serious long-term love, be honest. There's nothing wrong with either kind of love, but you need to make sure that your partner is equally committed to the same version of love that you are.
Commit to the person and to the relationship. It’s easy when two people have been together for awhile and you’ve become very trusting to just get very comfortable with each other. Maybe you don’t go out on dates anymore or maybe you don’t dress up nice for each other sometimes. But you should at least do these things occasionally, or eventually someone will feel like they’re no longer worth the effort.

2. Learn lessons and apply them to your relationships. Yes, bad things will happen in your relationships. You’ll say the wrong thing, or they’ll hurt your feelings. It happens. The important part, when anything goes wrong (even if it’s just problems in your life), is to learn your lessons and just keep moving forward. Try to make the most of any negative situation, turning it into something positive by gaining and growing from the experience. Honestly try to adopt your significant other's POV in any argument that gets fairly serious -- do try to be compassionate and understand where they're coming from.[3]
If you're in the wrong, apologize and own up to your mistake. Good relationships air out the grievances and clear the air. Bad relationships hide the negativity and let it fester into serious problems. If you're in love, talk about your problems.

3. Work constantly to make yourself and those you love better. A good, loving relationship is one where you constantly challenge each other to be better people. Help the other person to achieve their dreams and goals because you believe they deserve it. Improve yourself and work for your dreams so that you can be the person you feel they deserve. We should be better people because of the relationships that we have, and this is the way to do it.

4. Eliminate jealousy. This is one of the unhealthiest things to have in a relationship, as it can break down trust and respect, and create barriers. For some people, this can be the most challenging part of relationships. Jealousy is a tough thing to break, but you can do it. The most important thing to understand is that jealousy issues almost always come from within, from the jealous person’s own issues, so those need to be worked through first. This is a place where those communication skills come in handy. This is, of course, assuming one person in the relationship is running around blatantly cheating on the other. In which case, they don’t really love the person they’re hurting, now do they?

5. Try to see issues from all sides. We hate to be wrong. Everyone does. But the thing about everyone thinking they’re right is that someone HAS to be wrong. If we disagree on an issue, we’re bound to be wrong on at least part of the issue. You’ll have much stronger relationships if you learn to talk things out with the other person, see their point of view, and find somewhere in the middle where you can meet and agree. If you're having trouble agreeing on how you feel about something or someone, try to stick first with the facts -- some facts maybe have been omitted due to our preferences which really ought to be considered, in all fairness.

6. Be partners in life. The whole point of going through life with people you love is so that you can tackle life’s challenges together. Work together to find solutions, solve problems, and comfort each other when times get tough. We can’t solve everything on our own, we can’t know everything there is to know...but a whole bunch of people getting together out of love can solve just about any problem.

WOW, Health. Benefits of Kissing you don't know

1)  Long kisses are beneficial to our circulatory system. When kissing, our pulse rate is quickening up to 110 beats per minute. This is a great training for our cardiovascular system.
2) After kissing, the lungs work harder, resulting in 60 inhales per minute compared to regular 20 inhales. Such “ventilation” is a good preventive measure against lung diseases.
3) Some dentists believe that kissing is a preventive measure against dental caries. Indeed, kissing stimulates the flow of salvia that eliminates acid coat on the teeth.
4) Kisses that last more than three minutes help us fight stress and its effects. Long kisses trigger the chain of biochemical reactions, which destroys stress hormones.
5) Those who kiss their partner goodbye each morning live five years longer than those who don’t.
6) Kissing is great for self-esteem. It makes you feel appreciated and helps your state of mind.
7)  Kissing burns calories, 2-3 calories a minute and can double your metabolic rate. Research claims that three passionate kisses a day (at least lasting 20 seconds each) will cause you to loose an entire extra pound.
8)  Kissing is a known stress-reliever. Passionate kissing relieves tension, reduces negative energy and produces a sense of well being, lowering your cortisol ‘stress’ hormone.
9)  Kissing uses 30 facial muscles and it helps keep the facial muscles tight, preventing baggy cheeks! The tension in the muscles caused by a passionate kiss helps smooth the skin and increases the circulation.
10)  Kissing is good for the heart, as it creates an adrenaline which causes your heart to pump more blood around your body. Frequent kissing has scientifically been proven to stabilize cardiovascular activity, decrease blood pressure and cholesterol.
11)   Those who kiss quite frequently are less likely to suffer from stomach, bladder and blood infections.
12)   During a kiss, natural antibiotics are secreted in the saliva. Also, the saliva contains a type of anesthetic that helps relieve pain.
13) Kissing reduces anxiety and stops the ‘noise’ in your mind. It increases the levels of oxytocin, an extremely calming hormone that produces a feeling of peace.

How to Love and be in a Lovely Relationship step 3 of 5 FINDIND ROMANTIC LOVE

1. Decide what you want from a loving relationship. What do you want out of a relationship, romantic or otherwise? What do you look for in a person that you love? What do you love in a person? While you don't want to narrow your focus too much, a properly-aligned list of priorities is helpful in knowing what to look for and how to find it.
If it works for you, rather than making up a list of wants, make up a list of "deal-breakers." If you absolutely can't abide a drinker, a hyper-religious person, or a daredevil, put it on your deal breaker list and avoid getting tangled in their complicated web.
Be judicious. If you’re putting a nice butt before a stable personality, you’re going to have a really tough time in relationships. Same goes for things like valuing friends who get you into the best clubs over friends who’ll hold your hair back while you puke. Put substance above superficials, every time.
Real people don’t fit in boxes. Keep in mind qualities that you want a prospective lover to have, but don’t require someone to meet all of them and make sure you’ve got your priorities in order.

2. Have something to offer others. When you go to start a relationship, be it romantic or platonic, you’ll want to be sure that you bring something to that relationship. Having nothing to offer will give you and probably the other person the sense that you are a leech. Work on giving as much as you take, in all your relationships, and you’ll be set for success.
A life partner or a lover can help you cope with the problems in your life and will work with you to solve them, but no one is going to make those problems just go away but you. You have to rescue yourself. Be your own knight-in-shining-armor. Expecting someone else to do that for you will only result in putting way too much pressure on them and disappointing yourself in the long run.
If you're experimenting with online dating, or other digital forms of communication, you've got to put some work into it. Messaging a hottie with "Hey" isn't bringing anything to the table. Ask questions, put your dazzling sense of humor on display, be naturally curious. Be yourself.

3. Meet lots of people. Unlike in the serendipitous plots of most romantic comedies, we usually don't run into long-term lovers and friends by accident. With the noise and bustle of 21st century life, meeting people takes work. Treat every night out, or every new class, or every new encounter as a possibility and bring your A-game.
Be friendly when you meet people, and try to see the best in them. Even if you're at a party you'd rather not be at, make a little goal that you'll make one new friend by the end of the night. Turn your dull party into a fresh opportunity.
Make plans with people you're interested in. Rather than exchanging numbers and putting someone in your phone as "Red Shirt Blonde," try to make specific plans before the end of the night. Find common ground with someone and decide that you'll meet up for coffee, or an event sometime later in the week. Make it concrete, rather than vague.

4. Let yourself be vulnerable with others. Unfortunately, loving someone means that they can hurt you. This is normal and okay (and almost inevitable). But if you want to have real love, you need to allow yourself to open up with that person. Don’t keep secrets from them, don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t, but instead give them the opportunity to know the real you.
Don't put on an act with people you're interested in, or with friends that you're building a relationship with. If you're pretending to be one way, it's not fair to the person who meets you halfway. Be yourself all the time, and you'll be confident that the people you meet are worthy of loving you, because it'll be the real you.

5. Give it time. Don’t force love and don’t try to speed it up. This will only create false feelings which drain you emotionally and leave you feeling empty and unsatisfied. You can’t rush love. But believe that it will come because it most certainly will. You just have to find the right person.

6 Ways To Avoid The Friend Zone

The issue comes when you put too much emphasis on the friendship, and not enough on your romantic intentions. I’ve been there, gentlemen – and it’s not fun. I can relate. But, here’s the thing: You can still be a good guy, and be taken seriously by women. The trick is to not be seen as a pushover, otherwise known as “the nice guy.” Nice guys often find themselves in what we refer to as…the friend zone.
Many claim it’s a mythical area of life that doesn’t really exist, but those people have never been in a situation where a woman has permanently defined them in her mind as a sort-of-kind-of brother figure. It happens, and it no fun. Now, to be fair, a woman is only going to choose one man to be with. So technically, the other billions of men in the world are all in her ‘friend zone.’ When looked at on a larger scale, the concept doesn’t really make much sense. But when felt as a blow to the ego, it is very real.

So, how do you project that you’re a good guy, while still being seen as a potential romantic partner?

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1. Don’t be a doormat.
People, for some reason, hear chivalry and think that they are required to be at a woman’s beck and call. She says jump, you say “how high?” This, obviously, is not the case. Part of being a good partner is being a support system for your woman. Helping her where you can, doing things for her because you care, taking extra steps to make sure she is happy – but it’s imperative to not sacrifice your dignity in the process. A woman wants a teammate to stand beside her. A man she can respect. A man she can count on when times get rough. Not a puppy dog who’s going to follow her around and lose his own identity in the process. The majority of women don’t want to be with a man whose ass they could kick. Have some pride, man.

2. Make your intentions known.
That’s right. You’re a man who is interested in a woman, and it’s time to start acting like it. If you continue to “court” a woman, but she doesn’t actually know you’re courting her, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. Most women understand the fact that men are interested in more than friendship with them, but if you’re not assertive enough, odds are you will miss out. To quote Ryan Reynolds in the movie Just Friends – “Always kiss her on the first date, because friends don’t kiss.”

3. Exude confidence.
Notice I didn’t say arrogance. The reason why some win and some lose at the dating game, is often tied to this point – confidence. It takes confidence to approach a woman in the first place. Confidence to make your move. Confidence to convey your feelings to her. Confidence to be secure enough with yourself to be romantic without feeling like you’re sacrificing your masculinity.

4. Confidence to be yourself.
Your confidence will be your foundation for success in relationships, and in life. Work on this first – and then move forward.

5. Present yourself properly.
Basic. Simple. But often overlooked – without some sort of mutual attraction, there can be no start to a relationship. Dress up, clean up, man up, and show women that you’re worthy of their attention. If she’s not attracted to you, how do you expect something intimate to grow from that beginning?

6. Take her on a damn date.
Of all of the above points, I dare say this could be the most important. Without a date, you may not get the chance to even show your woman of interest, anything else mentioned in this article. A date is your chance to show her who you are Make sure you show her the real you from the get-go, don’t send some representative who you don’t intend to be forever. Ask her on a proper date, be creative, put in effort. Show her that you care enough to take the time to plan something.

Make sure these pieces of the puzzle are in place.

And, never forget the words of Ryan Reynolds from above: Always kiss her, because friends don’t kiss.

50+ characteristics of a healthy relationship

What you know and like about your partner should tell you a lot. If you can say yes to most of these,its very likely you are in a healthy relationship

1. You can name your partner’s best friend and identify a positive quality that the person has.

2. You and your partner are playful with each other.

3. You think your partner has good ideas.

4. You’d like to become more like your partner, at least in some ways.

5. Even when you disagree, you can acknowledge your partner makes sensible points.

6. You think about each other when you’re not physically together.

7. You see your partner as trustworthy.

8. In relationship-relevant areas such as warmth and attractiveness, you view your partner a little bit more positively than they view themselves or than most other people view them.

9. You enjoy the ways your partner has changed and grown since you met.

10. Your partner is enthusiastic when something goes right for you.

11. When you reunite at the end of the day, you say something positive before you say something negative.

12. You reminisce about positive experiences you've had together in the past.

13. You can name one of your partner’s favorite books.

14. You know your partner’s aspirations in life.

15. You can recall something you did together that was new and challenging for both of you.

16. You kiss every day.

17. You’re comfortable telling your partner about things that make you feel vulnerable such as worries about getting laid off.

18. You have your own “love language” (pet names or special signs you give each other).

19. You know your partner’s most embarrassing moment from childhood.

20. You know  your partners proudest moment from childhood

21. You never, or very rarely, express contempt for your partner by rolling your eyes, swearing at them, or calling them crazy.

22. You can list some positive personality qualities your partner inherited from their parents.

23. If you have children together, you can list some positive personality qualities your partner has passed on to your children.

24. You enjoy supporting your partner’s exploration of personal goals and dreams, even when this involves you staying home.

25. You have a sense of security: You’re confident your partner wouldn’t be unfaithful, or do something to jeopardize your combined financial security.

26. When you argue, you still have a sense that your partner cares about your feelings and opinions.

27. Your partner lets you into their inner emotional world—they make their thoughts and feelings accessible to you.

28. You frequently express appreciation for each other.

29. You frequently express admiration for each other.

30. You feel a sense of being teammates with your partner.

31. You know your partner’s favorite song.

32. You have a sense that your individual strengths complement each other.

33. When you say goodbye in the morning, it’s mindful and affectionate.

34. If you’ve told your partner about trauma you’ve experienced, they’ve reacted kindly.

35. You don’t flat-out refuse to talk about topics that are important to your partner.

36. You respect your partner’s other relationships with family or friends, and view them as important.

37. You have fun together.

38. You see your partner’s flaws and weaknesses in specific rather than general ways. (For example, you get annoyed about them forgetting to pick up the towels, but you don’t generally see them as inconsiderate.)

39. You’re receptive to being influenced by your partner; you’ll try their suggestions.

40. You're physically affectionate with each other.

41. You enjoy spending time together.

42. You feel a zing when you think about how you first met.

43. You can name your partner's favorite relative.

44. You can name your partner's most beloved childhood pet.

45. You can articulate what your partner sees as the recipe for happiness.

46. When you feel stressed or upset (link is external), you turn toward your partner for comfort, rather than turning away from your partner and trying to deal with it yourself.

47. You have a sense that it's easy to get your partner's attention if you've got something important to say.

48. You like exploring your partner's body.

49. You can name your partner's favorite food.

50. If you could only take one person to a deserted island,you will take your partner

51 You know what your partner is saying when your partner smile,frown or whenever they have mood swing

52 You know your partners movement and what your partner could be doing at a particular time

How to Love and be in a Lovely Relationship Step 2 of 5 LOVING YOUR FRIENDS and FAMILY

 1. Be a good friend : Whether you’re trying to create and grow love in a platonic or romantic relationship, you need to be a good friend to the person you love. Love is about more than kissing and hugging: it’s about being there when someone needs you and helping them unselfishly. Work to be as good a friend to them as you can be, and let them do the same. Work hard at your relationships. Show up for your friends. If your buddy's having an art opening, or playing a concert, buy a ticket and show up in the front row, even if you're not crazy about the music. Listen when your friend has a problem, and make yourself available emotionally. Try and learn to recognize when it's ok to be friends, and not possible to be more. Many people complain about being stuck in the "friend zone," which is really just a way of saying that you're attracted to someone who isn't attracted to you. Every healthy person needs a variety of healthy relationships, not all of them romantic. Embrace each interpersonal relationship for the unique brand of love it provides.

2. Respect everyone and earn the respect of others : Respect your friends, your family, and your lovers by validating their actual accomplishments, opinions and experiences. Try to understand them deeply, on a personal level. Ask them questions, have long discussions, and open your heart. Understand that the other person has their own wishes and desires, and rights to privacy and dignity. If you can’t allow this for another person, then you can’t love them.

3. Love people for who they are : Everyone is different. This doesn’t make anyone better or worse than anyone else. If you want to love someone, you need to take them for everything that they are, good and bad. Realize that none of those traits may be permanent and that if you want them to change, you have to help them want that change for themselves. Give them the tools they need to make the change. They aren’t yours to mold into your personal statue of perfection.

4. Find the true beauty in others : Maybe your girlfriend looks like Jennifer Lawrence, but this shouldn’t be the reason you want to be with her. She may be pretty now but she probably won’t be 50 years from now. You won’t be either. When you love someone, you need to find their inner beauty, the thing that makes them unique and wonderful to you. This will make your love and relationship stronger. Relying or basing your love on their great skin or gorgeous hair is probably just going to end in disappointment for everyone.

5. Focus on the positives and embrace the negatives : When you love someone, you should always keep focus on their positive traits. Find the things that you love about them and then give them the tools they need to amplify those traits. Focusing on nitpicky things you dislike about them will only make both of you unhappy in the end. You can learn from negativity sometime it's OK to "Just Say No" and not be willing to try too many risky activities, especially seemingly victimless crimes. Learn to laugh about negative things and accept things as they are, having the courage to adapt and grow yourself, Many people with disabilities, for example, do very well in life because they have an extra dollop of determination and sheer grit. They have faced extremely forbidding circumstances and learned to find a way to overcome them you can too.
If they’re a good singer, for example, help them to record a song and get it out to people. If you love how tidy they are, try to help them out by taking some of the pressure off and let them know how much you appreciate it when they do clean. There are inevitably things that annoy or frustrate us about the people we have relationships with. You need to learn to love someone not despite these traits but, as much as possible, because of them. Try to loosen up and find the humor in the things they do. This will stress you out less and make your relationships much stronger and stable.

6. Communicate clearly and often : If you want real love to build and grow, you need to keep constant communication. This doesn’t just mean talking about the weather every day; you need to talk about real things that are affecting your lives and your actions. Most importantly, you need to talk about the problems you encounter with each other. Don’t just be the person starting the conversations and handing out criticism, though. You need to create an environment where the other person feels comfortable coming to you with their problems too.

7. Talk through your problems : You will inevitably encounter problems in your relationship. Maybe there was a breach of trust or someone was hurt by something that got said. Whatever the reason for the hurt feelings, whether intentional or not, you need to talk between the two of you and get everything sorted out. Come to understand each other and patch the holes in the relationship before they become too big. Make sure that everybody gets a turn to talk, don’t interrupt, and respect the other person. Just because their opinion is different doesn’t make it wrong.

How to Love and be a Lovely Relationship Step 1 LOVE YOURSELF

1. Love yourself. Before loving anyone else, you have to love yourself. This will help you show that you can experience love, sending a message that you are secure, confident, and worth loving in return. Loving yourself will make you a better lover because you will not be hindered by self-doubt and crises of confidence. If you have problems loving yourself, then work hard to build yourself up. Work on your self confidence by accepting your past and moving forward. You may feel that things you did in the past will make you unlovable, or that you have too many problems to be lovable. Untrue. Accept the things that happened to you, forgive yourself, and move on.

2. Count your blessings. When things get tough, money runs out or someone loses a job, the way to get through these tough times is to focus on the things in your life that are good. Don’t worry about all the things you don’t have, because you will always not have a lot of things. That’s out of your control. But you can enjoy and find love in the things that you do have right now, while you have them. Appreciate this moment.

3. Be selfish sometimes. If you constantly give in your relationships and don’t focus on your own needs every now and again, you will find that you become burnt out. In order to make yourself a better lover, be selfish on occasion and make sure you’re getting what you need to be happy too.

4. Make your own happily ever after. Like the myth of the knight in shining armor, you also need to understand that there are no automatic happy endings. You may find blissful love, but you’ll always come up against challenges together, as you and your lives change. If you want to have your happy ending, you have to work to make it happy every day by supporting each other, working together, and doing the things in life that make you happy.

5. Turn off the rom-coms. Modern movies and romantic stories have us believing that we have to find it: The One. That somehow, despite the chaos of the universe, there is one person who completes us and is perfect for us. The truth of it? There is no "one." No one is perfect. In all relationships there will be sacrifice and annoyance and problems. So really, as long as you aren’t expecting anyone to be perfect, there are lots of The One’s out there for you!

6. Break out of pre-defined roles. Our culture does a pretty good job of convincing us that men and women have to act a certain way or do certain things in a relationship. However, this doesn’t really work out that way in practice. Some men are just naturally good housekeepers and some women are just naturally good at fixing things. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses and those don’t conform to gender stereotypes. If you want to have healthy relationships, don’t feel constrained to those boxes: just do what you do best and work together to build a happy life!

Mutual Support: The Backbone Of Relationships

There are a lot of things that make relationships tick. Physical attraction, friendship, teamwork, trust, respect, mutual interests…the list goes on.
But, one of the more important pieces of the puzzle, is mutual support. While you are one, as a couple – you are, and forever will be, an individual.
An individual with wants, needs, desires, problems, setbacks, emotions, thoughts, doubts, goals, a family, and a life.
Part of building a successful relationship, is having two people whose support for each other is unwavering.
An ingredient to this recipe, is communication. You’ve got to be able to go to your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/lover/mistress/whatever, with your thoughts and feelings. How will they know to support you otherwise?
If one of you is going through a difficult situation, this is when the focus of the relationship completely shifts towards them.
You absolutely cannot be selfish and simultaneously be a supportive significant other. There is no reward. There is no “what’s in it for me?” There is just support for someone you care about and want to see happy. Their happiness should be your reward.
Of course, ‘mutual’ is not to be forgotten here. Each person has to stand behind the other in times of need. Otherwise, you’re wasting your time. We all get thrown curveballs in life, and need support sometimes. We all want to chase after our dreams, and need support sometimes. We all feel discouraged now and then, and need support sometimes. If you’re not feeling supported, encouraged, and empowered in your relationship – the first thing to do is to express your concern. If much time passes and nothing changes, the next thing to do is to find someone who will be the person you need, and deserve. Being single is better than being in a relationship where you still feel single. Happy, healthy relationships are formed between two people who are each others’ safety nets.

Rain or shine

9 Tips For Building a Loving Relationship

1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.
Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe and “calm down. Remember: your partner is not the enemy.

2. Separate the facts from the feelings.
What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.

3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.
Each of us is not a solo instrument. We’re more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your ‘gut’ saying? For example: My mind is saying ‘definitely leave her,’ but my heart says ‘I really love her.’ Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.

4. Develop and cultivate compassion.
Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don’t have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.

5. Create a “we” that can house two “I’s”.
The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or her self, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual “I” contributes to the creation of a “we” that is stronger than the sum of its parts.
The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don’t need to be with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they’re often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of good fire.

6. Partner, heal thyself.
Don’t expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don’t try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.

7. Ask questions when you’re unsure or are making assumptions.
All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners’ behavior means. For example: “She doesn’t want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore.” We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self  heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what’s not being said the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.

8. Make time for your relationship.
No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making “playdates” and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow.

9. Say the “hard things” from love.
Become aware of the hard things that you’re not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you’re feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.
There you have it. Be kind to yourselves. Remember: change takes time and every step counts.

Abnormal discharge in Vaginal

In most cases, vaginal discharge is a normal part of a woman's reproductive system. Fluid from glands inside the vagina and cervix carries away dead cells and bacteria. This keeps the vagina clean and helps prevent infection. The smell and amount of discharge can vary from woman to woman, and the normal colour can range from clear to a milky whitish at different times during the menstrual cycle. There may be more discharge if you are ovulating, breastfeeding, or sexually aroused. The smell may be different if you are pregnant. If the colour, smell, or consistency seems different to normal, or if there is also itching or burning, seek medical advice as this could indicate an infection or other problem.

What causes abnormal discharge?

Any change in the balance of normal bacteria in the vagina can affect the smell, colour, or texture of the discharge. These are a few of the things that can upset that balance:

•Antibiotic or steroid use

•Bacterial vaginosis, which is a bacterial infection that’s not sexually transmitted, but more common in women who have •multiple sexual partners

•Birth control pills

•Cervical cancer

•Chlamydia or gonorrhoea, which are sexually transmitted infections

•Diabetes

•Scented soaps or lotions, bubble bath

•Pelvic infection after surgery

•Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID)

•Trichomoniasis, which is a parasitic infection typically caused by having unprotected sex

•Vaginal atrophy, which is thinning and drying out of the vaginal walls during and after the menopause

•Vaginitis, which is irritation in or around the vagina

•Yeast infections

Types of abnormal discharge and their possible causes

Any change in the balance of normal bacteria in the vagina can affect the smell, colour, or texture of the discharge. These are a few of the things that can upset the balance:

Type of Discharge

What It Might Mean

Other Symptoms

Bloody or brown

Irregular menstrual cycles, or less often, cervical or endometrial cancer

Irregular vaginal bleeding, pelvic pain

Cloudy or yellow

Gonorrhoea

Bleeding between periods, painful urination

Frothy, yellow or greenish with a bad smell

Trichomoniasis

Pain and itching while urinating

Pink

Shedding of the uterine lining after childbirth (lochia)

Thick, white, cheesy

Yeast infection

Swelling and pain around the vulva, itching, painful sexual intercourse

White, grey, or yellow with fishy odour

Bacterial vaginosis

Itching or burning, redness and swelling of the vagina or vulva

How does the doctor diagnose abnormal discharge?

The doctor will start by taking a health history and asking about your symptoms. Questions the doctor may ask include:

When did the abnormal discharge begin?

What colour is the discharge?

Is there any smell?

Do you have any itching, pain, or burning in or around the vagina?

Do you have more than one sexual partner?

Do you douche?

The doctor may take swabs from the vagina, cervix and urethra for testing

How is abnormal discharge treated?

Seek medical advice if you notice any unusual discharge. How you are treated will depend on the condition that's causing the problem. For example, yeast infections are usually treated with antifungal cream, vaginal tablet (pessary) or a tablet taken by mouth. Bacterial vaginosis is treated with antibiotic pills or creams. Trichomoniasis is usually treated with the antibiotic metronidazole.

Here are some tips for preventing vaginal infections that can lead to abnormal discharge:

Keep the vagina clean by washing regularly with a gentle soap and warm water.

Never use scented soaps or douches. Also avoid feminine sprays and bubble baths.

After going to the toilet, always wipe from front to back to prevent bacteria from getting into the vagina and causing an infection.

Wear 100% cotton knickers and avoid overly tight clothing.

10 Signs You're With The Person You Should Marry

We all know it’s common to “kiss a lot of frogs” before finding the right partner. The good news? It’s all worth it, because once you do find your match everything else begins to fall into place. Last year, I was insecure about having a serious boyfriend when I didn’t have full-time employment. I thought I had nothing to offer without a cool job, but the man I adore ended up helping me get to where I need to be career-wise, and the individual you’re meant to end up with will do the same and more. You may not immediately know that your significant other is going to be your spouse someday, but here are some signs that you two are bound for life.

10. You have similar long-term goals
This doesn’t necessarily mean you’re in the same line of work. That can be good too, but wanting the same things long-term whether it’s having kids, a house, or lots of vacations will help you through any obstacles you may face.

9. You like each other’s families
It’s true that you don’t just marry your soulmate, but his/her family as well. Many people complain about the in-laws and this doesn’t indicate your union is doomed, but life is so much easier when everyone gets along for the most part. I’m lucky my current beau’s parents and sister are awesome, but a former flame’s dad was unkind and distrustful of me, so I figured out pretty quickly that I hadn’t met the right guy yet.

8. You miss him/her when you’re apart
Wanting to be with the person you love all of the time doesn’t make you needy or annoying. It shows you cherish that person deeply and understand every experience — whether big or small is better with him/her around. I enjoy watching The Simpsons in bed, but I always laugh harder at Homer’s antics when my S.O. is there cackling with me. Alone time is healthy, but so is wanting to giggle and chat with your favorite person in the world after a rough day at work.

7. You’re always thinking about how your decisions affect each other
Considering a new job? You’re also thinking about how it would fit with your S.O.’s schedule and needs, especially if you live together and share finances. This works both ways, so if he’s mulling over a drastic career change and wants to move to the other side of the world or country, he should also want to take you with him.

6. You don’t want any secrets
For the longest time, I was scared to stay over at my boyfriend’s house because I had a major sleeptalking/walking problem that had been going on for years. I was embarrassed about doing something ridiculous in the middle of the night but he assured me he wouldn’t judge my behavior  he just wanted me there. Sure enough, I was so relaxed with him that my sleep yelling/walking issues went away in his presence. I’m glad I explained my hesitation up front so we could find a solution. The closer you are to someone, the more important things you’ll reveal about yourself from your salary to your family history. The more they know, the more they understand you. The less-than-appealing stuff is important, too. The right person wants all of you, not just his/her idealized version of you, because that’s not real.

5. Other people comment on how great you are together
If parents, friends, siblings and relatives can see how happy you make each other, you know it’s going to last. On that note, how cute are Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield? You don’t need to know them to understand what an awesome pair they make. These two should get married TODAY.

4. You’ve survived tough times and blowouts
As much as I admire couples who claim they never fight over anything, I think there’s something to be said about having productive arguments. Life partnership isn’t all snuggles and kisses, so it’s important to know you can get through disagreements before you tie the knot. There will be many rough days when you’re exhausted, chasing screaming children around the house and having unpleasant conversations about money and taxes, but if you can get through the fighting and awkward discussions without too many tears, you can handle marriage.

 3. You don’t have to look nice for each other all the time
Though you still like to dress up and surprise the other person with a pretty outfit, you two can be messy and lazy around each other and not even think twice about it.

2. You’re a good team
To paraphrase my former D.C. mentor Matt Lewis, it’s crucial to choose a partner with whom you can go to battle. As earlier stated, life presents us with plenty of battles, and the person you marry should be willing and able to fight them alongside you. That person should also be like a good reliable teammate. This may sound unromantic, but having someone who is there for you day in and day out, for better or worse, is as sweet as it gets.

1. You already know what you’d say during your wedding vows
When it comes to the other person, you can always articulate what makes him/her so amazing and why you’ll be there for them forever. Whether you’re “engaged to be engaged” or just having fun dating, you know you’re going to love this person until the very end. You want everyone to recognize how lucky you are to have this person in your life.

6 Signs He's Probably Cheating on You

1. Your Sex Life Has Radically Changed
While a nonexistent sex life can be a hint of bad things brewing, so are suddenly over-the-top sexcapades. “Yes, sex may have always been good, but now he is flopping you all over the bed and sweat is pouring down his face and he is holding his iPhone
over your shoulder to take pictures of your behind in the mirror,” says Nelson. “The erotic charge of sleeping with two people at the same time is also a huge turn-on—one that he might be getting off on at your expense.”
2. He’s Secretive With His Technology
Nothing wrong with wanting some privacy, but there's a difference between that and him keeping all of his electronic devices on lockdown. Never leaving his cell unattended, always taking his phone into the other room to text or to take a call, being unusually silent when receiving a text or call, or otherwise being especially secretive is a bad sign, says psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity. "Most men won't necessarily let you read e-mails or texts, but they won't try to hide them either."
3. His Grooming Habits Have Gotten Way Better
You’ve been on him for months to trim his nose hair, and now he’s trimming not only his nostrils but his man-parts, as well? A dramatic shift in your guy's attention to grooming, clothes, and his fitness habits (is he working out like crazy now?) may indicate that he’s trying to impress another woman, says behavioral scientist and dating expert Christie Hartman, Ph.D., author of Changing Your Game: A Man's Guide to Success with Women.
4. He’s Unavailable All of the Time
While he might legitimately have to work late, the cover-up excuse is cliché for a reason. It’s an easy way for guys to carve out time to spend with someone on the side. Be leery if he is suddenly (and constantly) coming up with reasons work-related or otherwise—to leave the house over the weekend or at night, says Needle.
5. Your Bank Account Has Taken a Huge Hit
Financial infidelity can point to sexual infidelity, as well. If you are beginning to notice unexplained charges to a shared credit card or account, it may be a sign that he’s spending money on meals and gifts for another woman, says Haltzman. Keep an eye out for any receipts hanging around his desk or pockets, recommends Hartman.
6. He’s Always on the Defensive
“Does he get overly defensive when you say, ‘Hey, where have you been all night, I tried to reach you?’" asks Nelson. "If he jumps down your throat and tries to explain his absent four hours with blame—‘Why are you always bugging me?’—then you know you are either a) always bugging him, or b) he is doing something he doesn’t want to tell you about and he is using some kind of lame reverse psychology to try and distract you."

What Do Women Want In A Relationship?

Men and women are at an emotional stalemate.

We feel something’s lacking in our relationships. The majority of men aren’t able to penetrate their women fully, nor are women fully opening to their men.

Women aren’t opening because men aren’t giving them what they need. Women feel disappointed and resentful; they are suffering. When women suffer, and they feel like they aren’t being seen, they close off to their men.

Fortunately, you can learn the right tools to be able to more fully penetrate your woman. You can give your partner what she needs, allowing her to feel seen so that she will open again.

Take the time to read through these needs. Let them sink in. Understanding what you can do to help your partner fully open will not only improve your relationship, but it will improve your entire life. Here are the seven things that all women want in a relationship.

1. TO FEEL LOVED

When women feel loved, they relax and open to us. The arguments dissipate, the sex is abundant, and their nurturing feminine energy flows throughout our lives. Not feeling loved is the sub text of every argument that you and your partner have.

If she is unhappy that you are going out with your friends, or she’s upset about her day at work, or she is only responding to you with brief snippets of sentences, then the cause is most likely her not feeling loved enough. Learn to see through her words, actions, and moods and see what the real root of it is.

2. TO FEEL SAFE

There is a war being waged on women’s self-esteem, sexuality, and safety from a very young age. Because of the barrage of disempowering messages being sent to women regarding their sexuality, women need to have a safe space where they feel that they can trust their partners. She wants to trust your strength. She wants to feel like you can handle whatever she shows you.

She wants to feel like you will not judge her if she asks for something risqué. She wants to know you won’t collapse in defeat if she tells you to do it “This way” instead. By creating a safe space for your woman to open up to you emotionally and sexually, you will be giving her a very powerful gift- you allow her to grow within your relationship and undo old emotional damage.

3. TO FEEL SEEN

Women want to feel seen. She wants to feel you hearing her, and being aware of her emotional state. She doesn’t necessarily want you to be affected by her emotional state, but she does want you to be witness to it. If she is sitting across the room from you and you aren’t picking up on the fact that she is suffering emotionally and on the verge of tears, she will begin to trust you less. She will think, “If he can’t see that I am hurting now, how long will it take him to figure it out? Will I be suffering for days or weeks before he is aware of it or cares enough to help me through this? I guess I have to rely on myself for my own emotional support.” Life can seem extremely lonely, even within a relationship. You have to constantly show your partner that at least one person will be witness to her and her journey through life. (Hint: that person is you.)

4. TO BE ALLOWED TO BE NURTURING

Just as masculine energy has the need to protect, feminine energy has the desire to nurture. Women want to see the cracks in our armour. They want to see that we trust them enough to open up to them. They want to be able to help us through our sadness. An integrated, evolved man who has a balanced masculine energy as well as his own sliver of feminine would welcome his woman’s nurturing. If you are a guy reading this, have you ever held open a door for a woman because it’s the polite thing to do (but more just because she’s a person and it wasn’t even a gender-based act) and she chews your ear off for it? “Oh what? I can’t open the door for myself because I’m a woman?! You sexist pig!”

That is an example of a wounded, unbalanced woman who doesn’t want to accept help from a masculine source. This is exactly how it feels to your partner when you push her away when you feel the most vulnerable. “I don’t need to lay my head down on your chest and tell you about my feelings because I don’t have any!” That is a lie. It’s a lie that serves your purpose of not letting your partner in. This lack of vulnerability and authenticity is what is making you and your partner suffer.

So let her in. She wants to love you.

5. TO FEEL SEXUALLY DESIRED

What’s a major difference between your relationship to your partner and your relationship to everyone else in your life? You have sex with your partner. Women need to feel sexually desired. They want to make sure that you see and appreciate them as a feminine, sexual being. Praise her body. Feel her and grab her appreciatively. Remind her that you see her as a sexual being and you will both benefit.

6. TO BE APPRECIATED

The feminine in all people responds primarily to praise and appreciation. Remind your partner that you love her. Tell her that you appreciate what she brings to your life. Show her how much she means to you. The fastest way to run your relationship into the ground is by ignoring your partner and taking her for granted. Appreciation is the opposite of those things. Appreciation is the embodying this mindset: “I am aware of what you bring to my life, and I want you to be sure that I am aware of it as well.” So tell her what you appreciate, and tell her often.

7. TO FEEL LIKE SHE CAN COUNT ON YOU

Life gets pretty messy sometimes. When life’s unavoidable difficulties arise, do you fall apart under pressure or are you able to bend and not break? Women want to know that we can handle ourselves when life happens. They want to know that we won’t run and hide when they get a bit ‘too emotional’ for our liking. They want to know that they can count on us.

When you tell your partner you’ll do something, and then you don’t do it, it hurts her. She loses a piece of trust in you that has to be earned back. Even seemingly small things break that trust like you saying that you will wash the dishes shortly after dinner, but washing them the next morning instead. When enough small transgressions like this are sprinkled throughout your relationship, she will distrust you. Do what you say you will do, be who you say you are, and be consistent in your actions.

What Do Women Want In A Relationship?

Women want partners that care. Women don’t want perfect partners; they want men who are striving to be their best selves.

She doesn’t necessarily want someone who has every step of his life pre-planned, but she wants someone with drive and with goals. She doesn’t necessarily want someone who cries every day, but she does want someone who has the courage to cry in front of her when he needs to. She doesn’t necessarily want someone who stays in therapy for his entire life, but she does want someone who has the courage to face his own emotional demons. So put in the work. End the stalemate. Decide that you want to be in the kind of relationship that most people don’t have and you want to put in the effort necessary to become that kind of man. The women of the world are waiting for us. And they want us to step up just as badly as we want them to open up.

7 Guys NOT to Date

1. The Sleaze-Ball

He flirts with every girl alive – the waitress, the fellow passenger girl on a plane, the girl in a shopping line, the cashier-girl at the end of this shopping line and even his best friend he’s known ever since he was in school. He’ll never ever be honest and serious with you even if he tells you he is. Avoid dating this guy if

you don’t want to spoil your reputation and don’t even think about any kind of relationship not to spoil your life.

2. The ‘Awe-I’m-just-a-kid’ Man

This sweet guy just need to grow up. He feels absolutely comfortable living like he’ll never die and is still 16. He hasn’t a serious job or even any kind of job. He sleeps over 10 hours a day, knows well the release date of the next versions of ‘World of Tanks’ and GTA. And he will use his mom’s grocery money to buy one of these software packages. In summary: he’s totally helpless. He expects you to be glued to him like an over protective mommy. He’ll only want you to cook for him, clean up for him, earn money for him…live for him. So run, Lola, run! Get a thousand miles away from this dude and don’t look back.

3. Mr Always Right

Remember Sheldon saying ‘If you don’t mind I’d like to stop listening to you’. Please note it before your first date. With this kind of guy it will be the one and only time you will have to address him – a simple ‘goodbye’ will do… He is terrible, retched, putrid, nauseating for your self-esteem thanks to the constant emotional battering. His ego will always be in the first row of your relationship. Ditch him, ladies, ditch him.

4. The Control Freak

He has a big problem with the length of your dress, with a random glance from a guy having lunch next to you, with all your male co-workers. Every single time you’re separated, be ready for his control list:- phone calls every 15 minutes- dozens of lashings each phone call - tones of suspicion every second call - favorite sentences ‘Where are you?’, ‘Who are you with right now?’, ‘Why do I hear male voices?’, ‘do you have something in common with him?’, ‘It’s your fault’, ‘You’ll pay for this’, ‘Better tell me the truth’, ‘Tell me the truth before it’s too late ‘ etc The list is endless. While you may like all the attention at first, it’s going to get annoying after a while. Nip this in the bud, baby. The last thing you are looking to happen is to be ‘controlled’. This is the 21st century – girls have been liberated from that!

5.The ‘I-me-myself’

Guy going to have a lunch together? Buckle up for Mr. Know-It-All! He’ll be kind enough to let you check the menu but than he’ll give a dozen of comments according to your order starting from your manner of speaking with a waiter and ending with your uneducated gastronomical manners. All these things he’ll say with a snotty bumbling smile. Are you ready to look like a fool every time you meet. And what if you become his steady girl? You’re doomed thanks to his crappy, snobby, holier-than-thou attitude!!! Yep? Welcome to the selfish love paradise, honey!

6. The Grumpy Cat Guy

You never know what to expect from such kind of person. He sulks for no reason. He’s in a huff for no reason. The caps lock voice, the swear words and even abusive language, hysterical pranks are among his trademarks. You may think there are no relationships without such emotional accidents but accidents happen accidentally and his drama queen behavior is permanent. Wanna be his whipping GF? Hope you already know the answer.

7. The Fairy Tale Prince

He is not your ‘Prince Charming’. Repeat after me: He is not! He is not! He is Not!’Everything you’ve ever prayed for… this guy has it all (still repeat ‘He is Not!’ mantra). He’s tasteful, well- dressed, funny, interesting with charming eyes and such a macho, sculpted body. He’s simply flawless. (‘He is Not!’ mantra)

Every time you accidentally meet his flirty glance you’re frightened like you’re 15 again. He has become your secret passion. He is a winner of your own ‘Sophistication’ Awards ala George Clooney. You have a deep belief that if destiny gives you a chance to date him you’ll marry that night. If you even still think he’s so perfect please read ‘He is Not!’ mantra. Wanna know why? – He doesn’t exist! Every person have imperfections. That’s what truly makes us love and to be beloved – taking the

good with the bad and recognizing that as human beings all of us are imperfect creatures. So please leave him and go date someone absolutely real and totally imperfect. Who knows who will become you ‘Prince Charming’?!

How Your Food Impacts Your Vagina

Ever nosh on asparagus to have your hoo-ha—and we're not just talking your pee—smell funny? Well, that's one way to think about that whole "you are what you eat" connection. And it turns out, for women, it's a pretty important one. Healthy vaginas have a naturally acidic pH, as well as a host of healthy bacteria that ward off infections and keep everything humming along as designed, says Mary Rosser, M.D., Ph.D., ob-gyn at Montefiore Medical Center in New York. But the foods you eat can influence that pH, changing the way your nether region smells (and even tastes). For instance, spices, onions, garlic, red meat, dairy, asparagus, broccoli, and alcohol can all affect the natural balance you’ve got going on, while fruits and fruit juices may turn things especially sweet, Rosser says. But whatever the effect, it will only last for two to three days after you eat your fill. So when it comes to eating for two (you and your vagina, that is), she suggests filling up on fresh fruits, veggies, whole grains, and plenty of water. And if you like Greek yogurt, all the better. "Yogurt with live and active cultures are probiotics and may be involved in helping the vagina maintain a healthy acidic pH and balance," she says. And finally, you may want to cut back on sugar for your vagina's sake: Women with uncontrolled high blood sugar due to diabetes may be at an increased risk for yeast infections, says Rosser.