1. Notice your thoughts of the future. If you’re truly in love, then you won’t be able to imagine a future without your loved one in it. If you can’t think a year, two years, or a lifetime ahead without factoring in your loved one every step of the way, then you’re falling in love.
If when you think ahead, you always think of “we” instead of “I,” then you’re getting used to the idea of your loved one always being in your life.
If you and your loved one are comfortable talking about your plans one year or two years from today, and you have no doubts that your feelings will be just as strong then, then you may be falling in love.
If you can’t imagine getting married, raising children, or moving across the country without your loved one at your side, then you may be falling in love.
If you can’t imagine being happy in the future without your loved one in your life, then you may be in love.
If the thought of the future with your loved one brings you great joy and comfort instead of anxiety and uncertainty, then you may be in love.
2. Notice how often you think about your special someone. Remember that there is a difference between love and infatuation. It’s natural that you’ll be thinking of your loved one constantly when you start a new relationship, but to see if you’re in love, you should consider how often you think about your loved one once you’ve grown more settled.
If you’ve been with your loved one for six months or over a year and you still can’t go more than a few minutes without thinking about him or her, then you’re in love.
If you’re always wondering what your loved one would think about what you’re doing—if he’d like the movie you’re watching, or how much he’d love to try the new restaurant where you met your girlfriends—then you may be falling in love.
If you find yourself always wondering what your loved one is up to when he’s not around, and find yourself daydreaming about your loved one going through his day, then you may be in love.
If you find yourself drifting off in class, during a movie, or even in the middle of a conversation with a friend because you’re thinking about your special someone, then you may be falling in love.
3. See if you factor your loved one into all of your decisions. If you’re truly in love, then you’re used to thinking about operating as a team with your loved one. You’re no longer riding solo if you’re in love, so your big decisions should always be made with your loved one in mind.
If you’re truly in love, you wouldn’t make a rash big decision without consulting your loved one for advice. After all, the decision, whether it’s a big career change or the choice to go back to school, will affect both of you.
If you would never choose to move a location where your loved one wouldn’t be able to be happy, then you’re in love.
If you and your loved one can work together and make big decisions without arguing and not being able to reach an agreement, then you’re falling in love.
If you would never choose to do something that would hurt or disappoint your loved one, then you are falling in love.
4. Consider what you think about your loved one’s imperfections. If you’re truly in love, then you must have had enough time to realize that your love object isn’t perfect. If you’re still at the “he’s perfect” stage, then you haven’t been in the relationship long enough to see that everyone—even the apple of your eye—is a flawed human being. Being in love means accepting your loved one’s imperfections and embracing them.
If you’re really in love, then you understand that your loved one has some weaknesses. You have to be able to admit that your loved one may not always be the best listener or have the best sense of humor. That’s OK.
If you’re really in love, then you can help your loved one address his flaws, but you shouldn’t try to change him. If you’re really in love, then you can help your loved one work on being more responsible, but you shouldn’t try to make him a completely different person.
If you’re really in love, then you’ll appreciate your loved one’s quirks. You’ll love your guy’s goofy laugh, or how your girl can’t help but be fifteen minutes late to everything.
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